where have all the fit and interesting available men gone?

[aseriouslyblondemoment]

its just a thought which has been pondered upon by a few of us on here
as Lou 33 said if she knew the answer then she wouldn't be on MN

Kat dont shout honey (caps off) we can all hear you

asbm, is he really worth talking to then?

awww Kat what you going to do?
start talking yourself up
have some faith
we have all got to start somewhere
as you can tell not on that bogus MSN
can't be arsed to set it up yet
too busy chipping in here and talking to a mate

sounds like a better option!

exbf contacted me tonite. Why can't I just tell him to f off!

ah that old chestnut

i will don my tweed jacket with leather elbow patches, stroke my beard and suck on my pipe while we ponder that

I have seen pirates of the Caribbean and I enjoyed it. I don't know where you live which makes the thought of watching a DVD possibly rather unreasonably high.

hold my hand. going on first ever meeting with gentleman fella. coffee this afternoon. on paper (and msn) looks a great candidate. i have another who's requesting a meeting.

how do you guys fit the meeting around kids when you have very small children. i'm not ready to explain to all and sundry i'm checking out men yet. i just want to get back out there. build up my confidence again. without being judges for it being "too soon". getting a sitter can be tricky

i split with my h 3 yrs ago, so my youngest was nearly 5 and my oldest was 14, it meant she was able to watch them briefly in the day and in the evening i had an adult supervising

she is not far off 17 now so it's not an issue for me

Oh SCL you can't say it yet as you are still harbouring feelings for him
is he wanting to meet again?
Lou i didnt set up my bogus MSN i just felt too tired to make conversation
i was logged in tho so could see the messages that were coming in
and actually he isn't local at all so my accent problem is solved!
i was actually chatting on MSN to a friend who is in same boat and he was checking out any possibilities for me!
he has told me to put the man out of his misery and talk to him or tell him to piss off!
Elmo good luck!you will be fine!
if he's worth it he will respect the fact that you have other priorities and they come first
Enjoy not wearing your Mummy Hat for a while thou it is good to be seen as more than just a parent
N1-what can i say?i dont know where you are either.but have all the POTC films on DVD!

N1 lives in the South of England

asbm lives in the Midlands

There is quite a distance between you but I'll baby sit if you ever decide to watch that DVD!

hehe!
how are you?
are you nervous about tomorrow?

I am in Cumbria in the middle of Feb, though I would imagine that Cumbria is more north than Midlands. I am in Leicester at the end of Feb (for a day). It's unlikely that I will be meeting anyone while I am in Leicester.

I live near Bristol (which is just next to the Severn Bridge into Wales)

....and I didn't realize that there was more than one pirates of the Caribbean.

asbm he doesnt sound like he is worth the effort really

i got asked out this weekend but i havent said yes or no yet

he seems a nice guy but not sure there is any chemistry aside from good chat

am gonna speak to my one who is away atm when he gets back and see if that has potential i think

and I might be in Dartford at some point in February or early March for a day.

Lou i will be open minded i think
he at least has a GSOH!
he will need one lol!
he has been vetted for me so i will MSN him later and see
N1 er might be blonde but definately not a dumb one!
i did get my geography o-level!
and yes there are 3 POTC films
Capt Jack is a big hit with my dcs
and am rather partial to him myself too

oh so you have only chatted?
Lou just go out girl
you have your babysitter
life is for living now!

No not nervous about tomorrow, I am going to enjoy it whatever happens, although its looking less likely that I'll be able to make it as the ds is poorly today. I wonder if he'll think its and excuse!

maybe he will?
have you been chatting long?
did you say that he had kids i cant remember
thats good that you're not nervous
i was absolutely terrified the first time i met a man post divorce
i refused to meet him until he rang and spoke to me thou we had texted/instant messaged
once he called me i was fine
and it was one of the nicest first dates that ive had
do you have any other options on FRD?

Can I change the subject a moment. I can't find the link to start a new topic. If I could find the link then I would have been asking for directions to find the "in the news" part of this site. Something changed and all the things I knew are "missing". I usually only use the " i'm watching" link.

Any advice or help much appreciated.

Thanks.

i am baffled a bit too
was surprised to see the new look site today

yes he wants to meet again for a chat and the rest!!!! I am so weak where he is concerned but we have such a connection (that's not bs) it is quite overwhelming to me (and to him for a lesser extent I believe).

When I am with him/talking to him feel in complete sync in every way!! (vom emoticon)

oh lordy can understand
what is he up to when not seeing you?
any word from the 'keen' one?

I haven't been doing to much txting etc, but I always find it much easier to communicate with people face to face as then you see the real them.

Maybe I should be nervous but I am thinking a lot about the emotionally unavailable male friend and what not to do with new friends, I am hoping to come across as relaxed as I am not trying to hard.

After being in a relationship for 14 years it feels like a breath of fresh air just to have my own independence.

yes its a great feeling isn't it?
i actually feel like a proper grown up for some reason!
oh and so nice to be reminded that you're a woman too!
the emotionally unavailable friend can be used as a bench mark then
if those possible traits emerge you should at least spot them this time round
i know that i will next time
have a nose for it now lol!