where have all the fit and interesting available men gone?

[aseriouslyblondemoment]

its just a thought which has been pondered upon by a few of us on here
as Lou 33 said if she knew the answer then she wouldn't be on MN

no i need a slap cos i am not bothered about any of them i dont think

possibly this last one i am a bit bothered about, but i've known him a while, tho its doomed to failure anyway

i will talk to him when he gets back,i guess i do kind of like him and he's v pretty on my arm

Looks like another big thumbs up for FRD from VT cheers for that!
SCL its still very much unfinished business there isn't it
i wonder is he aware of what he puts you thru
inthemist yes i signed up for 6 months too obviously having a major asbm!
did previously meet lovely man off there but typically i messed up
and Lou,well that mojo is working
obviously too well lol!
but its good to have those options
i currently have absolutely zilch!!

I agree about it being effort!

(and macdoodle I am just so very pleased for you!!!)

I seem to have found a really nice guy, but he seems too good to be true. 5 dates now, he is lovely, can hold a conversation, very caring and kind and understanding, very very interested in my dd (he is childless - is this odd???), nothing is too much trouble. I keep expecting something to go wrong. Then I have feelings of feeling happy on my own, maybe I don't want to meet someone? I don't know what I did right or wrong... Have had two brief flings from internet dating before him, both ended pretty quickly in RL - one a bit old, the other very childless and single and just couldn't really get me at all.

N1 - my relationship broke down because my ex's "calling" (politics in his case) was far far more important than me and our dd. But at least you are honest about it. If your work, whatever that be, voluntary or no, is number one, then I don't think you are really looking for a life partner. JMHO.

Lou - you mean we don't get to live vicariously through you?! Seriously, though, has something changed?? You sound like you have lost your usual sparkle, hope that you are ok.

asbm - if I get too overwhelmed by this guy being too good to be true - I will send him your way!

mousie which site did you use?
i know that feeling of thinking 'too good to be true'
it comes from divorce/serious long term relationship breakup
please keep telling yourself that you are deserving of having nice things happen to you
and keep it very much at your own pace

oh i will get over it

i get like this when the weather is so grey and dull

am sure i will stoke my fire soon enough

OH LOU!!
what about this lunch
surely you're not getting sniffy about that?
have just had another look back thru this thread and noticed N1's interesting comment
about emotional availability
it's worth looking at as has certainly got me thinking
what indeed is emotionally available?
does it mean many things to many people?

mousie - my NM is also interested in my girls in an nice way (not dodgy) - I think he gets that they are my priority and if he cares about me then they are part of the package - actually its rather lovely - he seems more concerned about them than my STBXH ever was/is
Am also waiting for the bombshell cant belive he is quite so good

ER HEM!!
am i the only one on here?
right i see you others busy on other sites lol!

Oh chin up everyone, they are only men after all.

Lou, which one do you quite like, the fit one, the fit one or the other fit one?

Don't let the bastards get us down.

only the ones who aren't the title of this thread do that eve!

ASBM is there such a thing back to thread title.

there must be eve
as after all the female equivalent are all here on MN

We need to look for them on the male equivalent of mumsnet. Wonder what that is.

oh no it isnt them who are making me blah, good lord no

the fit one of course

Lou, you mean there is another fit one. I'm

lol the fit one i mean is the one who is away and says he misses me, but am not sure about it all

well i think all the men meeting the necessary requirements who post on MN better make themselves known
and pronto
or do you think we scared them all away?

The one that's away in South Africa misses you? Great sign as SA is an escapist place.

I'm OK just busy juggling my 4, yes four, jobs. Still variety is the spice of life. Wish I could apply this to my love life. Blown out the new man. 'I just wasn't into him'. Back to the drawing board.

You OK?

yes him, he is off to india on monday for 2 weeks from SA lucky bugger

4 jobs? i would be comatose by now!

i need more detail about the blow out

Lucky buggar indeed!

Just too much going on, work wise, for head space for a new man. (I sound like a cliche). Speak soon, sorry to hijack the thread.

you're not hijacking lol!
lou am off to create bogus MSN
very keen man awaits desp to speak to me
and what's that i'm a-hearin?
oh yes ASBM'S alarm bells ringing loud and clear!!

grab me on fb chat when you are on

lol asbm whats the alarm ringing about?

oh the usual same old
and i think he has a funny accent too
am funny with accents
it has to be the right one
don't worry not switching on webcam
might be one step too far for me tonight
still keep on thinking of WCL and the dodgy bloke who's mug kept on popping up on hers!

I CAN TOTALLY UNDERSTAND.I HAVE ONLY BEEN SINGLE FOR ABOUT 8 MONTHS.NOT EASY GETTING ANYONE INTERESTED WHEN YOUVE GOT A TWO YEAR OLD IN TOW.TILL I MET A GORGEOUS FELLA LAST WEEK.EASY TO TALK TO.IN A SIMILAR SITUATION TO ME.THE LOT.WHAT DID I DO?JUMP ON HIM YOU MIGHT THINK.NO.......I JUST GOT ALL EMBARRASSED AND GOT OUT OF THE CAR(HE WAS A TAXI DRIVER)MISSED OPPORTUNITY OR WHAT.NOT USED TO THIS.WAS WITH EX FOR 9 YEARS.GUTTED NOW.