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where have all the fit and interesting available men gone?

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aseriouslyblondemoment · 27/01/2009 20:02

its just a thought which has been pondered upon by a few of us on here
as Lou 33 said if she knew the answer then she wouldn't be on MN

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inthemistsoftime · 09/02/2009 11:52

ok guys tell me how to get set up on msn!

elmoandella · 09/02/2009 11:52

i've decided to be done with the banker. i'm still offline and i've deleted his contact from msn as it was annoying seeing him online.plus i deleted completely my POF profile.

internet dating is not for me.

banker hasn't called. thankfully he seems to be a non stalker.he's obviously got the hint.

asbm - give cheeky chops a chance. if he was out on an all day rugby/footy bender. he'll be at work today suffering a horrible hangover. not the time to be wanting to speak to a new love interest.

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aseriouslyblondemoment · 09/02/2009 12:03

i know am so damn impatient
am just used to being asked out for a second date by now
inthemist am intrigued about the sudden urge for msn lol!
if you do a search for msn you'll find the site and it gives you all the info there with a step by step guide

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inthemistsoftime · 09/02/2009 12:23

its not a sudden urge, thank you very much!

just wanna be like everyone else msn conversant. lol

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aseriouslyblondemoment · 09/02/2009 12:46

told you i was nosey lol!

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sincitylover · 09/02/2009 13:31

asbm

if you say he is shy I would send him a friendly text. I am impatient too.

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aseriouslyblondemoment · 09/02/2009 13:38

yes i will later on definately
i'm just used to more forward men i think
and to have been asked out again by now
he did kiss me at the end of our date but it wasn't a confident one

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ninah · 09/02/2009 14:53

hello again, yes I've been quiet, seeing same man which is nice for me but not very interesting really
holly I thought I remembered the story, sorry it went a bit awry
elmo you just have to meet diver when he comes back to shore! am quite shocked at your madman pof message, what a creep.
asbm I quite like a man to be nervous on a first date, hope you hear from him again.
And hope we hear what your surprise is lou, it better be a good one after all this waiting!

lou33 · 09/02/2009 15:51

well he isnt back til the 19th, so it wont be until after that, but he was saying he wanted to find a hotel local to me for it

got asked out by someone i know today , he wants to go for a drink, some food and watch a dvd with him

he is a nice guy but borderline too young for me

have said i will meet him but not to expect any extras with it lol

lou33 · 09/02/2009 15:51

18th not 19th

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aseriouslyblondemoment · 09/02/2009 16:16

Ninah he must be ok if you're still seeing him,it's been a while now hasn't it?
Lou well i guess you'll just to wait and see
but the waiting is bloody hard isn't it?
see there i go getting all impatient again lol!
i wonder how Elmo got on with her interview?

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elmoandella · 09/02/2009 16:28

interview was exact as before. they didn't have any details from previous as records kept at cumbernauld aparently. up to 2 weeks wait for news if i got it or not.

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aseriouslyblondemoment · 09/02/2009 17:37

did you get positive vibes Elmo?

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elmoandella · 09/02/2009 17:54

it was all on a very shakey nail.... till they asked to give example of something where i've had to manage my time well.

ice maiden interview lady finally cracked a smile when i said getting 2 toddlers under ago of 3 ready for nursery every morning.

i think before that she hated me the guy was ok. she thawed towards the end.

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aseriouslyblondemoment · 09/02/2009 18:01

ugh one of those was she?
must say i prefer to be interviewed by men
and yes it is bloody hard getting toddlers up and out in the morning
wonder if she's a child-hating spinster
have just text him with a friendly 'hi' so we'll see ball's well and truly in his court now
could almost do with filling in a questionnaire out after these first dates would save alot of wondering and waiting lol!

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elmoandella · 09/02/2009 18:10

no she thawed as she kind of sniggered when i said it. and i said "looks like you've run the same gauntlet yourself"

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aseriouslyblondemoment · 10/02/2009 09:47

well i have nothing to report!

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inthemistsoftime · 10/02/2009 12:29

Am getting loads of messages of POF, but not the kind I am looking for, mostly marrieds.

FRD, was offered a threesome on Sunday, which in the end I declined!

Think I'll stay away from POF as none of them are any good.

elmoandella · 10/02/2009 13:02

inthemist - i've now deleted my profile from there.

sincitylover · 10/02/2009 13:29

POF hasn't worked for me yet either.

Was considering going to one of their socials over Christmas but something else came up.

Samename2 and I were going to meet yesterday but has been postponed again. I think he is reluctant for some reason to drive over to my area (it is inner London) - it would take ages even if traffic is free flowing.

Yesterday (he lives north of london) said weather was still bad in his area and queues on M1, M25, then asked me to drive half wayish to meet him. I wasn't really prepared to do that at short notice. And so it goes on. But he said he does still want to meet.

He also offered this afternoon but couldn't really justify taking half day as I had three days off last week.

Is all of this really meant to be so hard?

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aseriouslyblondemoment · 10/02/2009 13:39

oh god on FRD!
have noticed theyve updated their site with new graphics but sadly still have the same fat and ugly feckers on there as well lol!
and yes SCL its all such a bloomin hassle which i can do without tbh
but yes it is amusing on the whole

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elmoandella · 10/02/2009 13:40

scl - i feel it's such a bloody pita tha i cant be bothered now. far too much hassle and time......and for what?? to be harassed for another date if you get on??

sincitylover · 10/02/2009 13:48

or for them to disappear into thin air LOL

If samename2 and I got on then it may take us another few months to arrange to meet again!! It isn't just my non availability either as well as a ft job (shifts) he also works in family business. But something keeps us trying to fix something up -think there is a strong physical attraction there.

I have decided that I do need some short fix counselling to sort out in my mind what I am doing re exbf and to clarify rms with what I am really looking for. Plus other issues - ie taking stock after split from exH because so much has happened since we split in 2006. And I am like the hamster on the wheel.

This was following a RL convo with the mum of DS2s friend on Sunday. She is also a single parent though in slightly different circumstances but we seem to have alot in common where men/relationships are concerned.

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aseriouslyblondemoment · 10/02/2009 14:05

yes but i would quite have liked to have met this man again to see what he's like when not so bloody nervous
have been advised by some male friends that i shouldn't give up hope of seeing him again as he may be genuinely busy and just ask to meet when he can next get out
oh i don't know about all that tbh
as far as im concerned unless a man has lost his fingers then he can bloody well send me a quick text lol!
and yes am going to tell FRD to have a compulsory first date questionnaire too
ok rant over am off to calm down!

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elmoandella · 10/02/2009 14:07

asbm - have you not heard from cheeky chops at all??

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