where have all the fit and interesting available men gone?

[aseriouslyblondemoment]

its just a thought which has been pondered upon by a few of us on here
as Lou 33 said if she knew the answer then she wouldn't be on MN

no it isnt too much to ask

i am the only single woman in my social circle too, and my mates have shit taste when it comes to trying to set me up

i have now told them if they wouldnt go there themselves then dont think i would!

LOL!
at least they would try and help you out thou
have a couple of men on there wanting to chat to me but its the same thing that keeps niggling away at me
AIBU?

I am not the only single person in the friends that I have, but if I was a woman, I wouldn't want to go out with some of the friends I have. Their attitude to relationships is a recipe for a disaster.

I don't really want to go out (perhaps that's the problem) I rather choose to stay in and play with the children. I have more fun that way.

and then I think to myself that if those are the men that single women find then it's no wonder that I can't find "good" single women.

i think thats what my friends are trying to protect me from to be fair
i dont want to go out all the time either
i am very easily pleased iyswim
oh that could be misconstrued by some of those dating site loons!
i am very happy with a dvd and bottle of wine,a walk,just pottering about etc
what i love most is good company
and a man who can cook me a decent meal as i get so tired of all that solo domestic stuff
a nice home cooked meal is a real treat!

no harm in chat as long as they dont expect anything more

N1 i think we don't end up with these type of men by choice
i think i get it right drop my guard a little then get taken advantage of
exbf is the classic example

Lou i agree
its just so mentally tiring now
and am sick of really old guys trying too
every time i look on there for even 5 mins i get bombarded
they just look at the details of hair,height,build and oh divorced
and think BINGO!
she must be desperate
next booty call!

oh i know that scenario

i kicked off once face to face with a friend of a friend because he kept trying it on, and said something which made me snap

I looked right in his eyes and said

" do i look like a have a price list tattooed on my forehead? can you see a red light in my car?

wtf do you think you are playing it? you see a single mum in her 40's who takes a bit of care in her appearance and you think i must be up for it, and grateful enough to get on my knees and suck your cock? "

then i told him to fuck right off

he got the hint

LMAO!!
but its sooo true
we are seen as easy targets
i am easy
going and pleased!

I think I've found one! met him in a professional capacity but it is very early days yet so not sure if this route is any more successful then dating agencies!

Hi Holly,
have posted on your thread re:NM
work relationships ouch!
have had two of them

my in his face rant at him is now legendary in these parts

yes there's a vast difference between being up for a booty call with an especially selected man who you feel comfortable with and have a rapport with and any old tom, dick (grin] or harry!!

some people can't see that can they - that a woman can like sex but just because they do it doesn't mean to say that they will with just anyone. In fact how did that thinking ever come to be - because it pervades our society doesn't it (philosophical emoticon)

dick

asbm{nodding head in agreement emoticon}
i could have my booty call too if i so chose
and with especially selected men
but tbh thats not what im into at the moment
it would just be nice so so nice to come across a decent bloke
who accepts me for who i am and doesn't expect too much from me
i.e. understands that he is not No 1 priority the dcs are
and we can somehow fit our lives in round each other

Hi guys, a newly single parent here, I have been on a few dating sites and agree that I am generally disappointed with the variety available.

One contact actually asked for a sh*g out right.

Please tell me its going to get better as the year progresses!!!

Or shall I just give up now and become a hermit?

asbm - totally agree, I've read your reply to my thread, and like you the DCs are my priority and any bloke that comes along - now or later will have to fit around them.

that sounds the ideal ASBM but I don't think I am as far down the line as you yet.

Have had my fingers and heart far too burnt by exH and exbf to even risk it atm. My emotional barriers have been far too open all these years and now they are closing a bit I think

I can sense that this is what Mr Keen (will let you know about date tomorrow) is looking for really but I feel sure I am not ready (aside from the voice issue.

that sounds the ideal ASBM but I don't think I am as far down the line as you yet.

Have had my fingers and heart far too burnt by exH and exbf to even risk it atm. My emotional barriers have been far too open all these years and now they are closing a bit I think

I can sense that this is what Mr Keen (will let you know about date tomorrow) is looking for really but I feel sure I am not ready (aside from the voice issue.

there are always going to be chancers who reckon they are doing a favour, it's just a case of putting them in their place and trying not to get overly disillusioned (she says knowing full well she is already there)

inthemist when i first joined the same site last year the first week i was on was offered a shag a day and they were quite upfront about it
i hope it will get better it depends on your reasons for doing it
when i first went on it was out of plain curiosity now i am actually looking!!
but as i say it is all so mentally tiring that i often wonder is it really worth it
but it does need to be taken with the largest pinch of salt
Holly all the best with poss NM

miracles can happen

my mantra for this year.

other than that i swear i have no headspace for a man anymore!!

oh god its tomorrow SCL?
are you nervous?
Lou mind reader
piratecat there is always headspace for them
thats half the problem

I am in a similar position to many of you here in that in my circle of friends I am the only singleton.

I am fairly certain that a number of my acquaintances now look at me in a different light, and I am sure have cooled towards me, just in case I take an interest in their partners!

So the dating sites are a source of amusement as well as an outlet for flirtation, and I am genuinely curious about people and how they communicate with others.