where have all the fit and interesting available men gone?

[aseriouslyblondemoment]

its just a thought which has been pondered upon by a few of us on here
as Lou 33 said if she knew the answer then she wouldn't be on MN

looks like your secret's out girl!

aseriouslyblondemoment. You are ok, it's the rest of the names that is mixing my head up. lol. And the USA girl is now on my MSN.

woo hoo!
aren't you the lucky one lol
looks like your femail MSN fanbase is growing by the day!

lol. Sorry for confusing you NI. I have replied so all will become clear. I'm not trying to chat anyone up here, just needed a little guidance re the POF site, thanks

hmm!whats that i can smell lol!

ok you two, asbm and N1, I want to know what going on?

when are you meeting up?

by the way I notice N1 that you always use her full name and not the abbreviation, according to my research you must really like her! hee hee,

I'll butt out now and go and hide!

inthemist
im an old fashioned girl you know
i dont do the asking

No!!! You have my blessing too.

LOL!

really, maybe that is where I am going wrong. As well as being old fashioned, I am going to apply the 3 date rule from now on as it seems to be the most popular method of how/when

I read somewhere that it increases sexual tension between the parties if you don't around to it on the first date, and d'ya know I think they are right.

Is it still the 3 date rule. I heard 5 from 'friends' repeats that DD is addicted to. That's americans for you.

I also learnt on the dating sites that it's best not to do the initial contact, they appear half hearted it you do. They all like the chase. Old fashioned but true. Or is it just me?

what sex?
i dont think you can put a fixed time on that tbh
it depends on what feels right for both parties
but then you perhaps have to face the consequences of being seen as an easy lay
some men have rules for themselves and do not apply them to their women

Thanks for the clarity abouteve. replied. I am going to have to keep to one conversation at a time. My head is already mixing up.

I copy and paste people's names. If I start using abbreviations, things tend to go horribly wrong. If I read to many abbreviations, I just go quiet. It's better to not put my foot in "it".

There is nothing going on between aseriouslyblondemoment and I, well not that I know of. No meeting planned either - not yet. remember the postman point, well I seem to be getting to be one.

inthemistsoftime - "according to my research you must really like her". If your theory applies to you, then it would seem that I like everyone. Could that be right?

eve dont want to give away too many secrets on here
men lurking lol!

What is the 3 step and 5 step dating rule/plan? I have not heard of that.

If I were to be into playing a chasing game, i give up before it's started. I see game playing as the "wrong sign" and if dating is the start of a relationship, Game playing in a relationship is not a good thing.

theres the old 3 day rule of texting/calls which some men seem fond of
also dont sleep with a man til at least the third date
dont know about the five day thing
all sounds like hard work to me
and relationship game playing is no good
my exbf did that
i eventually grew tired of it

3 days? sod that. If I like the company, I want to talk more. If I am expected to wait 3 days to get the feedback/news after every time we meet, I would be looking for another easier person to talk to/date(who isn't into playing 3 day games).

As for sleeping with a person till the third date. If the chemistry is there and the mood is right, I would want to take advantage of a good opportunity. Why waste a good time?

I see dating as a taste of the relationship - the first stepping stone. First impressions do count.

i cant stand games. if i want to text/message or call then i do? sometimes whatever pops into my head. it can be quite random, but is always well received. it's just about being yourself. whats the point in playing a game.

i find if you dont play a game. and just respond when you WANT to then the males do the same. if they do start playing games of any sort i dont participate and end the ....?? courtship ... friendship....or relationship

if it's in early budding days as i just cant be arsed.

life's hard enough without adding game playing.

I think I would respond to someone (re etiquette for dating/texting/calling/sleeping with) based on my gut feeling ie would not be the same depending on the situation. But then I don't really like rules tbh. But if I wanted a keeper I generally wouldn't sleep with someone on first date (perhaps I am applying the same standards as some men in a way, perhaps I should have been a man lol)

Haven't heard from samename2 today but no worries there he will be in touch as and when if past 6 mths is anything to go by. I am cool with that.

Samename 1 is still an unknown quantity and I don't know what he is about really. he txt me this morning I replied then he txt me back asking about my weekend, I replied that took ages to be delivered and he hasn't txt back telling me what he's been up to. Who knows really?

yes but sadly alot of men do play these games
many of us on here have been on the receiving end too
i dont know of any women who actively play the 3 day thing
sometimes i dont respond straight away but that's because i'm busy not teasing
when i'm teasing its very apparent
and the sex thing
sorry but lots of men and i mean lots
think that women who do are easy

as for sex. i'm proud to say i've never had a 1 night stand either!!

wont do it on first date. i really enjoy the anticipation of waiting till next time if the chemistry is sparking. the thought of next time you meet puts a smile on your face till next time.why miss out on that enjoyment.

sometimes it does happen tho despite best intentions
it just does

when i say i wont do it on first date. thats if i have intentions of having a proper relationship.

f*buddy first meeting aren't date. but it definately included sex on meeting.perhaps it would be classed as same.but not a one night stand as you meet regular , several times a week for random late night debauchery.

I don't see that having sex quickly makes a woman easy, provided that both man and woman feel that the time is right and both want it.

A person usually makes your mind up before the date and as long as there is clear understanding about what's agreed and what isn't, I have usually made my mind up before I go on a date and if I am reserved, I will be clear about there being no sex. If I think I might like the person and there are no reservations about them and I know them fairly well, then I don't apply any limits, but that's me and it's not expected that the woman share my point of view.

hmm interesting makes sense to me
a male friend also told me that very same thing recently you obviously have same POV