ah pirate just go for it and to hell with the rest I say! but yes the independant/dependant thing you talk of is where i'm at right now - that mixed in with fawks, how nice would it be to have a best friend who you could ave movies etc with and snuggle at home, then he go at the end of the night and not try anything on??
oh and pirate, yes you're normal, often when one has suffered rejection to go tot eh bottom I find, questioning everything and looking/feeling really haggered & like a real frummy moo - it's normal, (least I feel it is) jsut shows we're all human, important thing thou - so i'm told is to quash all those thoughts and turn them into positives - you say the man might not know who you are - maybe he does, but thinks ou're not intrested/is too shy to talk to you first? make that first move - girl power! lol.
Ihate the way some men assume that 'single parent' = easy lay, and you should be grateful for the attention etc.
well date went well today, althou man is slightly shorter than i'd like. but over all is a nice chap, he's all for 'making things official' but i've said no -not ready for it, don't want that, we're metting again in a few weeks when XH has DS again, he lives about 30 miles away so far enough for me to keep m space which is nice for me. says he's happy to go at my pace - so watch this space! lol. hmm..... now off to make some hard decisions I think, as man no 2 who I was keener on, than the one I met today - has backed off (seems to get so close then back off - sounds v familiar lol), but he has the height build & strenght, other one from today is well - just yummy! but not got the strenght & height. ho hum!