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Finding love again..

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LoveAgain · 28/10/2025 12:10

Would love to hear from anyone that’s managed to find love again as a lone parent? Any success stories?

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TheFutureIs · 30/10/2025 12:14

somethingnewandexciting · 30/10/2025 11:08

No, waiting till dd is 18 now after trying twice and both times they expected to be put first above her. Men are selfish by nature and don't accept kids that aren't their own if they haven't had any IME. Saying that peri has taken away all libido and I don't really want a man or see the point in them.

I really have hit the jackpot then, my partner despite not having kids of his own has taken my DD on as if he’s always been in her life. He’s also a wonderful uncle to his nieces. Better yet, his family have accepted both of us and DD is treated like another grandchild by his parents.
Probably helps he used to be a teacher so he has lots of experience of kids

Thegrassroots26 · 30/10/2025 12:28

TheFutureIs · 30/10/2025 12:14

I really have hit the jackpot then, my partner despite not having kids of his own has taken my DD on as if he’s always been in her life. He’s also a wonderful uncle to his nieces. Better yet, his family have accepted both of us and DD is treated like another grandchild by his parents.
Probably helps he used to be a teacher so he has lots of experience of kids

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That’s great. And yes it does happen. Just seems relatively rare.

Beedeeoh · 30/10/2025 12:30

I don't think refusing to date until your children are adults makes you a better parent. Nor does wanting to find love again mean you don't put your kids first.

I've done a bit of dating on and off but my dd is still young so logistically it's been difficult, I've met some nice guys though just no one I've really wanted to be serious with yet.

Thegrassroots26 · 30/10/2025 12:36

Beedeeoh · 30/10/2025 12:30

I don't think refusing to date until your children are adults makes you a better parent. Nor does wanting to find love again mean you don't put your kids first.

I've done a bit of dating on and off but my dd is still young so logistically it's been difficult, I've met some nice guys though just no one I've really wanted to be serious with yet.

Exactly. Life isn’t black and white. Just because your relationship ended for whatever reason and you’ve got kids, doesn’t mean you should remain alone for the next couple of decades. There are ways of doing things sensitively so the kids are protected and their needs come first, while also allowing adults a life. I think it just goes to show there’s a lot of shame and judgement still levelled at women in this issue. It’s palpable.

Aloafofsour · 30/10/2025 13:34

TheFutureIs · 30/10/2025 12:14

I really have hit the jackpot then, my partner despite not having kids of his own has taken my DD on as if he’s always been in her life. He’s also a wonderful uncle to his nieces. Better yet, his family have accepted both of us and DD is treated like another grandchild by his parents.
Probably helps he used to be a teacher so he has lots of experience of kids

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This is the guy you’ve been dating a year and have already moved him in your your child’s home?

and been trying for months to have a baby with?

Unexpectedlysinglemum · 30/10/2025 13:59

LoveAgain · 29/10/2025 12:06

Teens/preteens, hence wanting to date someone with children who are a similar age or older.

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This is interesting, as your teens might find it easier to accept children younger than them then exactly their own age (in my view) I would be open minded about this one

Aloafofsour · 30/10/2025 14:06

Unexpectedlysinglemum · 30/10/2025 13:59

This is interesting, as your teens might find it easier to accept children younger than them then exactly their own age (in my view) I would be open minded about this one

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But why even think of blending? Or whether the children need to get on? Just let them be and enjoy dating as a fun bit on the side. The serious stuff can wait surely. Where’s the rush?

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LoveAgain · 30/10/2025 14:08

Unexpectedlysinglemum · 30/10/2025 13:59

This is interesting, as your teens might find it easier to accept children younger than them then exactly their own age (in my view) I would be open minded about this one

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I think they’d find younger kids harder actually so no I won’t be considering someone with young children, for my own personal reasons too.

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LoveAgain · 30/10/2025 14:09

Aloafofsour · 30/10/2025 14:06

But why even think of blending? Or whether the children need to get on? Just let them be and enjoy dating as a fun bit on the side. The serious stuff can wait surely. Where’s the rush?

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Because that’s normal to think about when dating, if you’d consider someone with kids or not??

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Aloafofsour · 30/10/2025 14:28

LoveAgain · 30/10/2025 14:09

Because that’s normal to think about when dating, if you’d consider someone with kids or not??

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But seeing as I have no intention of ever holiday with a boyfriend kids or having my children have to holiday with a boyfriends kids

or share their home with a boyfriends kids

or go on day trips / dinners etc with a boyfriends kids

I really wouldn’t give a hoot.

and when the time would come for introductions, they’d be late teens at least so if they had no interest in a relationship with them… no drama because no need to spend any time with them ever!

Thegrassroots26 · 30/10/2025 14:32

Aloafofsour · 30/10/2025 14:28

But seeing as I have no intention of ever holiday with a boyfriend kids or having my children have to holiday with a boyfriends kids

or share their home with a boyfriends kids

or go on day trips / dinners etc with a boyfriends kids

I really wouldn’t give a hoot.

and when the time would come for introductions, they’d be late teens at least so if they had no interest in a relationship with them… no drama because no need to spend any time with them ever!

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What’s the view like from your high horse?

honestly bore off with telling others how to live their lives. This site has some seriously unkind individuals on it.

Aloafofsour · 30/10/2025 14:32

Thegrassroots26 · 30/10/2025 14:32

What’s the view like from your high horse?

honestly bore off with telling others how to live their lives. This site has some seriously unkind individuals on it.

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What?

asking what’s the rush?

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LoveAgain · 30/10/2025 14:36

Aloafofsour · 30/10/2025 14:28

But seeing as I have no intention of ever holiday with a boyfriend kids or having my children have to holiday with a boyfriends kids

or share their home with a boyfriends kids

or go on day trips / dinners etc with a boyfriends kids

I really wouldn’t give a hoot.

and when the time would come for introductions, they’d be late teens at least so if they had no interest in a relationship with them… no drama because no need to spend any time with them ever!

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I think it would be extremely tricky to have a relationship with someone and never come across their kids ever, sounds like you are looking for a fwb/fbuddy. I’m looking for a partner.

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Thegrassroots26 · 30/10/2025 14:39

Maybe you aren’t aware of it @Aloafofsour but some feedback, your replies and tone are incredibly sanctimonious

Aloafofsour · 30/10/2025 14:40

LoveAgain · 30/10/2025 14:36

I think it would be extremely tricky to have a relationship with someone and never come across their kids ever, sounds like you are looking for a fwb/fbuddy. I’m looking for a partner.

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Easy with teens

I go out - cinema, dinners, walks, weekends away, brunch etc
they go out or stay in
stay at his when his children are with his ex

never at mine.

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LoveAgain · 30/10/2025 14:41

Aloafofsour · 30/10/2025 14:40

Easy with teens

I go out - cinema, dinners, walks, weekends away, brunch etc
they go out or stay in
stay at his when his children are with his ex

never at mine.

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Yes easy with teens hence why I said I wouldn’t be dating anyone with young children 🤷🏻‍♀️

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Aloafofsour · 30/10/2025 14:45

LoveAgain · 30/10/2025 14:41

Yes easy with teens hence why I said I wouldn’t be dating anyone with young children 🤷🏻‍♀️

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We are going around in circles

I mean it’s easy with teens for me to never have to consider whether a possible partner has children or doesn’t. My teens won’t ever be required to live with them , holiday with them, do anything with them.

and if I introduce when late teens / young adults and they don’t get on…. No biggie, they don’t need to spend any moment with them!

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LoveAgain · 30/10/2025 14:52

Aloafofsour · 30/10/2025 14:45

We are going around in circles

I mean it’s easy with teens for me to never have to consider whether a possible partner has children or doesn’t. My teens won’t ever be required to live with them , holiday with them, do anything with them.

and if I introduce when late teens / young adults and they don’t get on…. No biggie, they don’t need to spend any moment with them!

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And that’s good for you but I’m looking for a life partner so if he had young children that would make things trickier to keep completely separate imo, you do your thing I will do mine.

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Itworkedout · 09/11/2025 16:16

I have and met online. There were a lot more negative dates until I found him. My advice would be try the apps but know what you want. Take time away from the apps every month or so delete for headspace as they can be full on. The real world would be nice but it’s hard if you have kids and can’t go out much. I took it slow and he hasn’t met my kids it’s been over a year. He will but I’m just going at the right pace. I don’t intend to live with him until they are older. They are teenagers. I knew the day I met him. Any people I was unsure about previously I now know why. Follow your gut instinct. Good luck and treat it as fun so it doesn’t become too much!

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LoveAgain · 09/11/2025 18:14

Thank you, I actually posted this on a single parents group and got loads of more positive responses they actually thought it was hilarious I was expected to wait till my youngest was 18 🤣 glad you managed to meet someone

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