Finding love again..

[LoveAgain]

Would love to hear from anyone that’s managed to find love again as a lone parent? Any success stories?

Absolutely! I have just started dating a friend I have known for years and it's lovely. We see each other when we can and do nice things together. I hope you find someone great x

@2fullones are you a lone parent? This post is about lone parents who DO want to meet somebody. It's not a debate about why you feel we as mothers should raise kids for 18 years and stay single forever more.

My youngest is nearly an adult and I still have no intention of dating. It would eat into the little time I have.

Unfortunately i missed what was said but 4 deleted posts? She (he?) must be a very unhappy person!

Sad that saying you want to find love, brings out the worst in some people! Good for them they are happy being single for 18 years, but maybe it’s not for everyone!! 🤦🏻‍♀️ There are ways to do it that take kids needs into account sensitively as well as recognising adult needs surely?!

No, waiting till dd is 18 now after trying twice and both times they expected to be put first above her. Men are selfish by nature and don't accept kids that aren't their own if they haven't had any IME. Saying that peri has taken away all libido and I don't really want a man or see the point in them.

I do get what you are saying. But OP is looking for happier stories, and some do manage to make things work. I think finding a good guy is the hard bit and not all of us get lucky in meeting someone decent.

I waited till my youngest was almost 18 and off to uni. I don’t regret it. My children come first.

Good for you thats not what ive asked though

Thank you, yes i wonder if these people dare to have any hobbies or friends either since that would take precious time away from their kids 🤔

Good for you, but my kids are teens now so im not expecting a man to “take them on” or parent them, I deliberately waited until they were teens before considering dating.

So what? It’s a public forum and I can say what I like.

I’ve read so many threads on here about what a nightmare it can be dealing with other people’s kids and trying to negotiate relationships whilst parenting your own kids, that I am very happy with my decision.

Maybe they need validation and congratulations for waiting so long 🤷🏻‍♀️ who knows, but it definitely isn’t why you started your thread. Let’s have some nice stories please! ❤️

I separated over two years ago and have two small DC (6 & 4). I dated someone for a few months earlier on in the year, he worked around my schedule. It was lovely, we did a few nights away, went on hikes and runs etc. After years of being in a one sided loveless relationship it was so nice to spend that time with someone who wanted to actually spend time with me!

Saying that, I am very happy single at present. I'm not actively looking for something, but if I met the right person randomly then I would start dating again. I think it's a very personal choice, we are all human and crave intimacy and companionship. I say best of luck meeting someone if that's what you want.

Oh take your negativity else well!

I was commenting because I thought it was worth noting that if a man doesn't have kids he usually wants to come first. If you think you're done parenting now they are teens and should fend for themselves without your intervention that's great. I didn't need men to "take them on" just live under the same roof without being an arsehole.

I wouldnt be moving anyone in ever. No matter what age they are. I am happy to date men with their own kids.

One thing that grinds my gears is how we seem to be told you must be online dating to meet someone these days, and in the same breath told online dating is a bin fire of awful people, sex pests, liars, cheaters etc. So where exactly should we find these magical unicorn men? I’m in the 40-50 bracket too. It’s not easy!

Posters usually pile on and tell me it’s my fault for not attending 12 different clubs a week. You can’t win it seems.

No you really cant win. I deliberately didnt rush into anything, waited until my kids were teens and independent and im still seen as some kind of hussy! My kids spend most of their time in their rooms, with friends or dont want to do things on the weekends / holidays.

Yeah mine are similar to yours. Teens with their own lives. I think it’s a good time to try to find someone, but where you manage to do that I’m less sure. I think it’s a lot of luck, and really wanting it to happen so you make the most of any opportunities that come along.