Sleeping on the sofa at 12 weeks pregnant 😞

[TiredButTryin5x]

just needed to vent a bit sorry xx

i’m 12 weeks pregnant now n still sleeping on the sofa every night. got 4 boys in a tiny flat n no room left at all. oldest has box room, two middle ones share, little one still in with me (or meant to be). but he kicks all night n i just end up on sofa again. my back’s gone n i’m not even that far along yet 😩

i asked the council for help but they said i’m “adequately housed” cos we got a roof over our heads. but it don’t feel like that. i’m exhausted all the time. boyfriend don’t stay over n hasn’t offered to help with housing stuff. just feel like no one sees how hard this is.

i’m doing my best but it’s not enough. just want somewhere we all got a bed 😢

Damn fucking right he should sort himself out and leave. I am doing that with mine as we speak. I don't want my children living with me when there is a big world out there. Unless of course he would rather stay with mummy.

Me and my partner left home at 19. I am from North London and he's from Hackney. Couldn't wait to leave home and get independence and we never looked back. Same with my daughter she left home for university at 19 and hasn't looked back since.

You bringing up snow flakes?

But i imagine you equipped them well for adult life. Rather than forgot to enroll them for college like OP?

You’ll be one of those parents who’s shocked that your adult children want nothing to do with you.

I edited it sorry

The last question is for you on my edited post

That's why she needs to sort him out properly. He won't want to live there.

@Orderofthephoenixparodyops son is 15 or 16. It’s completely different to a 19 going to uni ffs

She won't do that, she's using him for childcare (even though he himself is still a child).

But she isn't and likely won't.
I left home at 18 and never went back. I left because my parents were shit and home life was horrid and I made some questionable choices as a result. It's not something to be aspired to. There's a vast difference between raising independent young adults who are well prepared to stand on their own two feet and forcing them out ententirely unprepared by making home life unbearable. Any idiot can see the difference.

Even if you prepare them well they still make stupid choices. When they get to 19 you can't tell them what to do anymore. Young people believe they know what's best until reality hits them. Life is not all doom and gloom we all have to find our way. The ops son will also have to take that journey and find his way like everyone else. The op lives in Romford plenty of opportunities in London.

But he's not fucking 19 yet! Hoping he leaves early to make space for the new baby when he just finished his GCSE. OP couldnt even be bothered to find out what happens next. Romford or Outer Hebredes, what kind of "opportunities" are going to be open to a kid like that? There's something wrong with your reasoning.

I said she needs to sort him out so he can leave. Not now because he is only 16 and still a child. You are being argumentative and not thinking about what I am saying London has lots of opportunities for him to study and earn money. I didn't know I had to spell it out to you.

I have already responded on another one of her threads advising that her son should look into a trade. He could earn a lot of money if he goes into the building or electrician trade earning up to if not more than £6000 a month. You don't have to be well educated to earn good money.

You have to be very competent at maths to be an electrician. They don’t let any old idiots start wiring up houses.
Gas and plumbing similar education level were talking people who were at least in the top half of middle set at school.

Completely except that you don’t need to go to university but you do need to be clever to suggest otherwise there is an absolute myth otherwise you’re digging holes in the ground and there ain’t much money in that

Yea but you actually care about your existing kids, not just yet another baby that you can't afford.....

Please don't put gas engineers with electricians you will get a bollocking from gas engineers. To become a gas engineer you need a pass of 100% or else he/she could kill someone not the same with becoming an electrician I think it's 70 or 80% pass. They need to retake their gas every 5 years or be struck off the register. Electricians according to gas engineers although they earn a good salary is not real career. I've listened to this nonsense for the last 15 years. He can become a electrician but he would need to pass his maths and English at college first it's not that difficult if he wants it. If he wanted to become a builder he could that would eventually get him a good salary if he puts in the years. He wants to become a gamer or develop games which he can do as well at his local college. Again he would have to start from level 1 until he sorted out his GCSEs in English and maths. The situation is not completely hopeless let's not write off a 15 year old just yet.

Nobody’s writing a 15 year old off.
But do not imply bottom set kids can become rich tradies, the ones that make £20 an hour are no fools.
Given mc donalds pays £12.50 an in time, its all relative.

If the op wants him to go to college then he needs to do something productive that will open his eyes. My daughter goes to college and works at McDonalds it's a good life skill to get young people into work.
I can name a few people who have made it and have no GCSEs. Not everyone is academic but it doesn't equal poverty. I've known people to go to university and work in a pub after.
There is also apprenticeships her son can do and a lot of people have been very successful on the back of apprenticeships. life continues after young people leave school why not give the op as much information as possible so her son gets a good start in adult life.

Have I missed a post where the OP gives her son’s existing mock grades? Or are people just assuming he will have failed English and Maths?

For all we know he could be a genius … (Maybe he’s building the next trillion dollar tech company from the box room he’ll soon be giving up?)

On the other thread people asked and she couldn't answer. If he got the grades great he can move straight on to what he wants to do. She did say he hated school but if he took his GCSEs then he has a chance. 🤞

If he hasn't passed then it does help to give other options. Life doesn't end if he doesn't get the grades. He could be the next millionaire for all we know it all it takes is one good idea.

"All it takes is one good idea" if only that were true. You sound delusional honestly. Wishful thinking isn't helpful.

Let’s not get fixated on the oldest child, who is still vey much a child. Op is having children she can’t afford in a home too small working part time as a cleaner. She needs to stop having babies.

Facebook was only an idea. The wheel was an idea. The light bulb. More recently Roblox started as an idea. Shall I continueI I wonder what was said to them. I lived next door to someone with the same attitude. It's a shame that people can't focus on their own business rather than bring others down with them.

Yeah sure. Facebook was "only an idea". The Harvard education, coding skills had nothing to do with it...

Yeah. This kid and Mark Zuckerberg are basically one and the same.

Give your head a wobble.

This sort of message really annoys me. This boy is coming from a chaotic home life with almost no support - a mother who pays very little attention to him, an absent father, cramped living conditions, no privacy, presumably living on the breadline, and to top it all off new siblings appearing every few years to (probably) different fathers.

The chances of him being the next Mark Zuckerberg are slim to none and he is unfortunately most likely going to end up following a similar path to his own parents, or worse. It's ridiculous to throw out nonsense like "he could be the next billionaire" when statistics show that's almost impossible.

The only people bringing this boy down are his poor excuses for parents.