Sleeping on the sofa at 12 weeks pregnant 😞

[TiredButTryin5x]

just needed to vent a bit sorry xx

i’m 12 weeks pregnant now n still sleeping on the sofa every night. got 4 boys in a tiny flat n no room left at all. oldest has box room, two middle ones share, little one still in with me (or meant to be). but he kicks all night n i just end up on sofa again. my back’s gone n i’m not even that far along yet 😩

i asked the council for help but they said i’m “adequately housed” cos we got a roof over our heads. but it don’t feel like that. i’m exhausted all the time. boyfriend don’t stay over n hasn’t offered to help with housing stuff. just feel like no one sees how hard this is.

i’m doing my best but it’s not enough. just want somewhere we all got a bed 😢

But because of OP choices, her son wont even have the option to stay at home when hes all grown up.
I think that is sad. I would always want my children, when they become adults to feel like they can always come back home no matter what and not have to think about space

Why? I mean why do you think OPs children will feel like that but it’s perfectly fine for other children?

This is far from OPs only thread...

Don’t be ridiculous. A thirty year old man and his siblings will be able to contribute and they can all continue living together if they like.

A previous post. 15 year old has done GCSEs but has not been enrolled in any further education or apprenticeship as she didn’t realise you had to do that…. Thought it was just automatic somehow

Well I'm sure other kids who are in the same situation as OP kids will also feel this way too

6 adults in a 3 bed house? Where would her son sleep? Surely not the same room as his mother?
What if OP's man starts living with them? Then what?

Life is regrettably incredibly unfair. And we definitely aren't all given an equal start in life.

All I can say is that I wish OP's children (and all children growing up in similar or even worse conditions!) the very best.

I hope the OP listens to the people suggesting different forms of contraception. An IUD or injections might be suitable options. A 6th child would not help anyone involved!

Snooping round MN trying to bring info from other threads is very poor form. Why would you do that to someone? Why can’t you let OP ask how to manage her accommodation? Do you think you are helping her?

Why would 7 adults need to stay in a 3 bed house? You’re just being ridiculous

They wont have any privacy even as adults

It's not snooping. I've just seen the other other threads. She's fairly prolific.

Loads of kids share bedrooms and are absolutely fine. You might be miserable in this situation but you don’t sound particularly positive about family life anyway.

We all pay tax thats a fact of life. At least she's trying, she could not work at all. Nothing in this world is black and white no one knows the OP true circumstances. Whats done is done and the criticism and judgement doesn't change anything.

I'm not though.
Cost of living is high, chances are that OP kids may want to stay at home during their 20s and mid 30s because rent and bills are expensive.
You are being ridiculous thinking that we live in utopia and there are endless opportunities and everything will somehow work out without any plan whatsoever

Hahaha not positive about family life

Yes, it is obviously incredibly sad. I am certainly not disputing that. I was simply responding to this:

Those 5 kids will turn into teens and they will need more space, how would OP make that work?

1. Those 5 children will not be teenagers at the same time. The oldest will be an adult by the time the current baby turns 3!
2. And it is incredibly unlikely to assume that these children will still be living with OP in their 20ies (let alone their 30ies...)

I'm not saying they will.
I'm saying that there is a chance they could be mainly because costs are high, job opportunities are scarce and I look at the news every day, it's not overwhelming positive

I do wonder if it’s at all possible for people to look beyond their opinions of OPs choices and actually help her with the question she’s asked. She’s pregnant and tired and needs a better sleep. How old are your children @TiredButTryin5x and do you think they could all share?

I think the days of us moving out into our one bedroom flats at 18 years of age are well and truly gone...

Don't be ridiculous. It's a public forum. She's posted multiple times.

Fair enough. If that's what you want to believe...

I suspect they will leave as soon as possible. They will have to make that happen. Whether that's a flatshare, shacking up with unsuitable partners, "couch-surfing", the military...

@Ohthatsabitshit there has been absolutely no need to ‘snoop’. The OP has two other current threads about her 15 year old post-GCSE son who (partly through her lack of attention to his education) so far has no college place arranged for September. Many people reading this thread will also have read or posted on those, too.

Lots have provided practical suggestions. And of course they will have to share.

What kind of help can people possibly offer? Besides "buy another bed and put it where it fits" which has been repeated since page 1. Of course she's tired, she's a single mum of soon to be 5 without a bed. There's no magic wand that can fix that.