Chat for single parents!

[autumngirl714]

I just wondered if there was anyone here who might like a space to share with other single parents?
Just day to day chat and support!

I am a single mum, I have two primary school aged children.vibe been in my own for 5 years!!
They live with me mainly but do see their dad.

I don't have any single parent friend in the real world, all friends are happily coupled up (of course!) so I'd just love to be able to chat the day to day stuff with people on my boat!

I absolutely love being a Mum! Parent of me also likes doing it on my own and not having to listen to his stupid opinions and judgements 😂 But heck it can be lonely can't it?!

My biggest struggle is mum guilt. It's everywhere. I feel guilty when I'm over whelmed, guilty when they're not home, guilty that I don't have a big house and they share a bedroom... just everything really 😂😂

Anyone out there fancy a chat ☺️

Kids are rebels without a clue

Oh yeah the 'i know'

Or the bruh or bro - im not your Bro.

Mines woke up with a bunch of pimples today and she was like omg mum I can't go to school look!!! I said oh they are some nice spots hen. Get your teeth brushed and move. She had her hood up in the car as if it would hide the spots 😂

Yeah bro. What's that about? 🤣

We should start calling them mum to balance things out. Mind you mine replies "your mum" to most things. What's that about?

My kids say "your mum" or "yo' momma". Honestly, these kids! 🤣 I reply with silly things like "okay, grandpa" that seems to stop in their tracks.

I'm using that tomorrow!! Love it

Morning!

This last few days have been so hard and I'm fed up. I've got another bloody horrible cold, don't get paid if I don't go in to work, child has had something early every weekend so I haven't been able to sleep past 6.30 since the start of the month.
My work hours have changed so it's even more of a rush to get to school after, and they don't do after school clubs at this school. There is a charity one in the area but the waiting list is as long as my leg.

I'm so tired. I'm so tired.

Ahhh that sounds so tough @MrsSethGecko. How old is your dc. Is there anyone who can step in to help you have a break? Family nearby.

Hope you start to feel better soon, no wonder you are run down.

There isn't, my family are hundreds of miles away, except my dad who has dementia. Daughter's father's family are all in various other countries!
Now I've got going this morning I do feel better than yesterday.

Sending you hugs 🫂 it's horrible when you're unwell and running around after young kids. Never mind adding work onto it. I had the never ending flu lurgy end of November for 6 weeks was so unwell Boxing Day spent all day in my bed. My daughter just lazed about in her pjs helping herself to left over turkey lol! We don't have any after school clubs in my area either. She does netball on Thursday until 4.15 but I don't know anything around here and she's off today. I got her to school 20 mins later I got a call to say she was crying with a sore stomach. So had to go get her granted at 11 years old it's second time I've had to pick her up from school. The secretory did say she's never seen my daughter upset 😢 so she's currently on the sofa with a wee blanket whilst I work a nice 9 hour shift from home. Please try get yourself a nice early night xx

Oh bless her, hopefully she's better soon!

Yes, I've been going to bed at 9 most nights and ignoring things that need doing like the laundry getting put away (my most hated job of all!)

Awww sorry to hear this @Cece92, really hope your daughter recovers soon.

Single parenting is hard work that's for sure, not for the faint-hearted. Work is just added pressure.

Is it possible to use a childminder for after school? I still use one for my kids in the holidays occasionally and eldest is nearly 12 years old.

Just to join the illness theme... my son was sick on Sunday. I have MAJOR sick phobia and I have been in a state of anxiety ever since.
I don't know how I'll cope single parenting being sick, or the stress of dealing with with my other son being sick 😢
How long would you normally think for it to spread between family members is all?
Really struggling 😔
Sorry to hear others being unwell. This time of year is just brutal for illnesses isn't it!!

I think if he was sick on Sunday, others in the same house would be having symptoms by now for sure?

Yeah I agree, has your son been sick since.

If it helps, my son got a bug last month, vomiting for 2 days. Me and other ds didn't get it at all.

He was just sick the once on Sunday. He just suddenly became ill, was sick, off his food for a day or so and then got a cold for 2 days!

I just want to stop thinking about it, it doesn't help when you just have no help does it?

No it's not fun dealing with it on your own and you have my full sympathy. I hope he feels better soon and shifts his cold.

If you've not had anything I suspect you won't do. Vomit bugs usually last a day or two then clear off. Bless you, just try not to worry, I'm sure he'll be right as rain in a day or so xx

Sick bugs are the absolute worst. I'm ridiculous with vomit. My daughter had a bad bug a few months ago. It was horrendous I ended up with it 48 hours later. How the roles reversed because she was on sick duty 😂 I was in my bed for 7 days with it. Lost for a few lbs tho xx

I think just not having them extra pair of hands is something I find really hard.
So my son wa sick in my car. I don't have a drive way and have to park across the road. I had my youngest in the car too. I had to keep going back and forth to the car with water and bleach whilst also juggling keeping them separate, cleaning eldest up, making sure he was ok, giving him a bath, making sure youngest wasn't freak out and cleaning it all up. It was just so overwhelming!!
And that was so to the first bite of the apple.... I don't know if I've got it in me to do it again!

Of course the main thing is that he is ok, it goes without saying! But anyone who has a phobia knows how dabilitating they are!

Hello solos. I didn't mean to join in with the sick chat but one of mine has fallen prey and was sick in my bed last night.
Today has been a total write off!

Nothing to be doing about it, but hate it when the day is totally wasted...I have done FIVE loads of washing & drying though.

What have you done that's productive today? Or not 🤣

@autumngirl714 I don't have a phobia but just reading the amount of work it all involved is exhausting. Hope your DS is ok now.

Doing laundry at 3am when you have to be up early is just a total shitting pain in the arse anyone can do without.

@rosemole oh my god, how did you cope?! Are you both ok now 😓

I honestly can't get over how overwhelming the illness side of parenting is, especially when you're on your own. I think I do a pretty good job otherwise, but as soon as a sickness bug comes in the house o feel like the worst mum ever!!!

Luckily my son is fully recovered now and was back at school on Wednesday. He got to pick something off amazon for being brave and had a day on the sofa playing the ps5, trust me when I say this, he was absolutely loving it 😂🙈

How did I cope? You know...probs the same way you did, just had to get on with it! Maybe with a bit of a grumpy face but it was no one's fault so no one to be angry with really.
Slept on the sofa because I had to scrub the mattress too. Luckily my sofa is incredibly comfy.
This has been without a doubt the most unproductive & inactive weekend ever.

Hope you are doing better than me!

Oh god, it is awful when they are sick and there's not much you can do about it (apart from endless laundry and making sure they keep their fluid levels up).

Ceiling is now done! Ex spent the entire weekend here (he was supposed to have the kids) helping me. He's been fab, he's sorted my coving after the plasterers left in a mess 😤, he's painted the ceiling, the coving. I've painted the walls as there was black dust on them that just wouldn't wipe off. We've both cleaned and tidied up, he's loaned me his carpet cleaner so I'll be using that next weekend. Honestly for someone who was so vile to me in our relationship, he's really pulled it out the bag and gone above and beyond!

He said he saw the amount fo work involved and how little time I get and knew it would probably take me weeks to sort on my own with work and kids etc so he just decided to help me. I'm so happy, it's like a new room. Anyways enough of that. Hope you've all had a restful weekend. I'm off to bed, I'm done in

@MeltingSky that’s great that your ex helped you out - and that you could appreciate it. It was such a weight lifted when I was able to let go of my anger towards my ex (although some anger returns at times when it becomes apparent how much his departure has traumatised our son).

It’s awful when they’re sick - but also when you’re sick and there’s nobody else to care for them. It’s just me and DS13 - been a single mum since he was 6. I think there’s something particularly intense about a lone parent and only child. No family nearby and although his dad now sees him fairly regularly, the first four years after he left he was in a different country so saw him much less then.