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where the hell do u find a good man

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starscream · 10/04/2008 22:19

where have they all gone

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lou33 · 12/04/2008 23:12

no spiders, like i said, most people never contact me

littlewoman · 13/04/2008 01:38

nutty, I wouldn't e-mail him again. If he hasn't got the manners to be polite, bollox to him. How hard is it to add 'how are you?'
Sounds like you are supposed to do all the running. F* that.
Course I could be wrong, but a a student of rhetoric, I don't think I am this time!

chocolatespiders · 13/04/2008 08:04

i agree with little women...

if i get emails like that i dont reply...

lou do you think people put people put others on there favs list in the hope that you will then contact them...?

it is bizarre this dating thing, not like it used to be when i was 18....

CrackerOfNuts · 13/04/2008 09:05

Morning all

I don't think I am going to reply to his message, because as someone on here said, he could of at least added 'how are you' to his reply, that would of at least given me something to reply to, don't you think.

I realise that he could just be nervous, but if he can't even keep a conversation going then whats the point, even I am not that bad.

CrackerOfNuts · 13/04/2008 09:08

Also had a message off a bloke on Smooch, who sent two kisses, and then about 5 min later sent another message 'just wondering if you are gonna speak to me or not '

I wasn't even online fgs

zippitippitoes · 13/04/2008 09:16

i think i have said this b efore when i was doing this i would send out lots of messages and get a few back

i am considerably less likely to get messages as i am much older so if you send pout half a dozen messages regularly you will soon start getting replies and practicing answering

you do get better at it and more relaxed and thast comes across then in what you say

i dont think i had initial emails from anyone i was interested inat all as they were all no marks and not people i would touch with a bargepole

but you will cos you are in the prime age group

CrackerOfNuts · 13/04/2008 09:17

Well I have only contacted 2 on POF I am too picky.

CrackerOfNuts · 13/04/2008 09:19

I have had messages from someother blokes but they are all late 40's early 50's and although obviously I was with xp who was 20 yrs older than me, I don't really want such a huge age gap again.

zippitippitoes · 13/04/2008 10:04

i found people who contacted me were never at all desirable

lou33 · 13/04/2008 11:13

i think the ones who contact me are about 50/50

this morning i just had one in asking if he could send me a naughty picture of himself (his words)

i didnt reply

i messaged one yesterday who , it turns out, only lives 6 miles from me, and he seems nice , i mght ask if he wants to meet me, but not yet

spiders, i think maybe they do, or some of them anyway

i dont have any problem making first contact, i just dont do it that often

zippitippitoes · 13/04/2008 11:15

if i waited for someone nice to contact me i would have slit my wrists by now

lou33 · 13/04/2008 12:12

lol, behave you!

MascaraOHara · 14/04/2008 08:48

I contacted a few guys yesterday and it's gone a bit crazy. Have seen one bloke I quite like and our profiles say some of exactly the same things so I'm trying not to get too carried away with that potential.

Also another bloke who looks nice (not as nice) but our profiles are scarily similar.. he hasn't messaged me back yet though.

But I don't think he was online when I mailed him.

Also been talking to a guy who contacted me throught datetheuk who seems very nice but not the sort of guy who I would normally date.. still he seems nice though

lostdad · 14/04/2008 08:59

LegallyBrunette78?

Oooo - I'll be taking a look tonight...

zippitippitoes · 14/04/2008 09:01

good luck then...have fun

davidtennantsmistress · 14/04/2008 09:05

moh - at one point (without sounding too bad) I think I was talking/emailing about 6 different people. just be careful not to get the names mixed up yes did that had to make a quick recovery! lol. I believe they call it keeping your options open these days (so my younger cousin tells me anyhow!)

MascaraOHara · 14/04/2008 10:21

I don't see why any of them should mind that you're talking to any number of people.. not like you're boffing them all lol.. or were you?

davidtennantsmistress · 14/04/2008 10:53

good god no! lol. once it got past one date, if there was going to be a second (only happened then I didn't talk to the others as much,) but if I am ahem active with any (well have only current beau) then no not talking to any others at all, just him.

Ulysees · 14/04/2008 10:54

Blimey don't worry about 6 I was talking to loads when on pof. Some in US too.....one sexy american cop who had a body to die for mmmmmmm. He was talking about paying for me to visit haha Not that I would of course. I was with an american for a year last year that's why I contacted a few as like their humour.
Anyway I met the one (or seems it) and we're extrememly compatible.
I'd say be careful of the guys on there as I've found a few out for my gullible mate. They sounded too good to be true which usually means they are. Were really just wanting a shag. Fair enough if that's all you want but most women like a companion as well as a lover. Have also made friends with really great guys though from pof.

lou33 · 14/04/2008 10:59

lol you and me both uly

blimey there is nothing wrong with talking to 100 at the same time

lostdad · 14/04/2008 11:00

Ulysees -

Like I said before...the hardest thing from my point of view is finding that balance between the I'm not interested in getting into your pants the first time I meet you' and Maybe I'd like us to be more than just friends, eventually'.

Which means I invariably come across either as a wimp...or a perv. Although being the old-fashioned soul I am, `wimp' is more likely.

I was never any good at this dating lark and this online thing is even harder! I feel like I'm 14 again...

Ulysees · 14/04/2008 11:02

lostdad my new guy sounds like you and lots of good women like that. Are you on any dating sites? Sorry but haven't read the whole thread.

davidtennantsmistress · 14/04/2008 11:03

100 lou i'm shocked! lol.

LD - well... it's weird but just you wait till you're seeing someone and they go to call you their boyfriend - OMG that's sooo weird and makes you feel like you're 12! lol. what's that all about??

with online dating I don't see it as dating thou or chatting people up - I see it as talking to a few mates, and meet if I think it will be cool then see what happens - usually thou if it's a good date i'll want a kiss, but if it's not then I just walk away and make excuses.

lou33 · 14/04/2008 11:03

women are capable of making the first move too lostdad, make them do it by dropping some hints along the way!

davidtennantsmistress · 14/04/2008 11:04

(yes agree there as well - the good women who are worth knowing will respect and like you for who you are & won't nec think you're only after one thing, or a perv.)

guess you need to meet/talk to a load of frogs before finding a prince/princess - but they're out there - honest!