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Innovation · 30/09/2007 23:00

Hello All

Im peter, 27 years old from london, I have two children, My son is 5 and my daughter is 4, I use to be a single parent untill my children went back to there mums but i still have plenty of contact with my children, Im here on mumsnet because i would really like to chat to other parents, None of my mates have children so when ever i tell them what ive been upto with them there not really interested, I sometimes feel abit isolated so it would be great to chat to some other parents, My aunt said that i should try a parenting website but she also said that she doubts very much that anyone would want to chat to me because im a guy,
Im just looking for someone that i can chat to about stuff in general and being a parent, I hope nobody minds me being here and if anyone would like to chat then please feel free to send me a message.

[email protected]

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lou33 · 30/09/2007 23:30

sunday evenings are slower, we all feel depressed at monday approaching

AitchTwoOh · 30/09/2007 23:30
MarsLady · 30/09/2007 23:31

It's only popular cos you're new blood!

Also.... tends to be slow on a Sunday night! lol

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Innovation · 30/09/2007 23:31

I seem to get more depressed on weekends because there so boring

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Pan · 30/09/2007 23:31

Innovation.

I too am single and live separatly from my dd, aged 7, though she is only 5 mins away and is here lots.

AND, I don't know anyone who is in a similar situation.

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Innovation · 30/09/2007 23:34

Hi ya pan,

Mine live 3 buses away in kent, Its a bloody trip and a half to get them.

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Pan · 30/09/2007 23:37

Sounds tough.

What brought you to MN? I googled an aspect of dd's character, led me to MN ( some time last summer) and I thought, "I'll just take a little look.."

singledadofthree · 30/09/2007 23:39

that sounds tough. i used to have to give my ex th bus fare so she'd come and see them, soon got bored with that. she lives 5 minutes away and sees them every couple of weeks. they dont seem too bothered tho, dont expect anything else. making the effort now makes all the difference in years to come.

MarsLady · 30/09/2007 23:39

See? Addictive!

AitchTwoOh · 30/09/2007 23:40

..and then we kept him.

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Innovation · 30/09/2007 23:46

It can be tough, My ex has been with her new boyfriend for just under a year and she lets them call him dad if you were in the same room as me when they call him dad you would be able to hear my heart breaking and although he drives she wont bring them to me so i have to go to them

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LucyLasticBand · 30/09/2007 23:48

PAN
why does your thing say you joined in March 2007?

i thgouth you joine before.

LucyLasticBand · 30/09/2007 23:49

for you that they call him dad

welcome by the way

nobody seems to sleep here

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Innovation · 30/09/2007 23:50

Yeah its hard for me because they call him dad

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Pan · 30/09/2007 23:50

I think that was when I bought the tag Pan in the Mile For Maude auction...no, that was later.....> "No idea!". Tech just made it up as he was bored?

LucyLasticBand · 30/09/2007 23:54

PAN
i remembered cos you were advising on giving up smoking and that was definately before March that i was trying

Pan · 30/09/2007 23:54

Gosh it gets tougher Innov. Sounds more than a little insensitive.......my dd's mum is commitedly single..but if things changed for her, I would struggle a little lot with it.

Pan · 30/09/2007 23:56

yes Lucy.....charliecat was/is the ciggieless doyen of MN...saw she started another thread this week.....are in need of some 'support' Lucy???

singledadofthree · 30/09/2007 23:56

that is crap. our situation hasnt caused that to happen, thing is tho theyre your kids as much as your ex's. sounds early days for her to be letting them get that close to someone else, no way of knowing how serious they are tho i guess. just stick with seeing them as often as you can and do what you can to improve the travelling. as they grow theyll see how much you love them by the effort youre putting in to see them. is suprising how much of a difference it makes. have a mate in a similar position who has travelled 300 miles a weekend to see his dd. 5 years on she wants to be up here and keeps telling him. is just biding his time until she can have her own say. so just enjoy as much time as you can, however you can.

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Innovation · 30/09/2007 23:57

When my ex first got with her bloke i found it quite difficult but not as difficult as the kids calling him dad, I dont even care for my ex anymore because she hurt me alot but ive been single sinse september 2005 and im starting to think there is something wrong with me, lol

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Pan · 30/09/2007 23:57

good post SDOT.

singledadofthree · 30/09/2007 23:58

was one of my rare lucid moments

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Innovation · 01/10/2007 00:00

singledadofthree,

im also really looking forward to the day when my kids can have there say, i do everything i can to see them so the only person they will blame is there mum and her fella

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LucyLasticBand · 01/10/2007 00:11

don't know what to say innovation
just keep pluggng away

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Innovation · 01/10/2007 00:13

i will def keep plugging away, how do i put a picture on here so you can all see who your chatting to

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