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I hate men. sorry.

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MascaraOHara · 27/09/2007 21:50

but there's nobody here to talk to and I just had to get that off my chest.

And I hate myself for being so hopeful when I meet someone I think I could really like.

It's just wanky.

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Baffy · 15/11/2007 11:50

ok will keep eye out for new thread

(or there's new fab&glam one if that's easier)

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pirategirl · 15/11/2007 12:01

gosh 3 out of 5 yrs, thats put a different spin on it moh.

Very hard sitch for you. how long since the split?

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MascaraOHara · 15/11/2007 12:04

split around mid-july

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MascaraOHara · 15/11/2007 12:04

she calls his sister aunty XXX

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lou33 · 15/11/2007 13:20

i do think seeing him one last time will be good for both of them, as long as you keep reminding her he isnt going to be around

i do understand, when my exbf left and moved abroad the kids were v upset, especially ds2 who is 6

he sobbed his eyes out when he said goodbye, and we had only been seeing each other for 9 months, but he did recover quickly from it, and although he talks about him a fair bit, it isnt with sadness, but with affection at the fun they used to have together

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MascaraOHara · 15/11/2007 13:34

Yes she always talks so fondly of him.

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MascaraOHara · 15/11/2007 15:49

I just text work bloke to tell him I'd been propositioned today. he replied immediately (quickest he's ever responded to a text) saying I couldn't send a text like that without explaining. me thinks he is a little jealous! I was almost reluctant to tell him that I declined the offer

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lou33 · 15/11/2007 16:22

god men eh? they feign disinterest then as soon as someone else comes along, they suddenly want to spray their territory

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MascaraOHara · 15/11/2007 16:27

I know the proposal was from a horrendously good looking bloke that I've been friends with for years and had a bit of a casual thing a long time ago

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lou33 · 15/11/2007 16:28

what was your reason for turning him down?

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MascaraOHara · 15/11/2007 16:30

a) he has a girlfriend now (although he's always made his like for me obvious both when he's single and with someone)
b) because of bloke
c) refer to the fact that he chases me even when in a relationship and so have very little respect for him

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lou33 · 15/11/2007 16:33

lol 3 very good reasons

what a nob sniffing about when he is with someone, it wouldnt exactly make you think you could trust him if you got involved would it?

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MascaraOHara · 15/11/2007 16:39

To be honest I think it's turned into a game and so if he were to get a hold of me he would have won iykwim.. it's all very light hearted and he is a mate. I wouldn't let him do anything cos I wouldn't want him to jeopordise his relationship. Also if I called his bluff I think he might actually realise he didn't want to cos of his mrs! but still work bloke doesn't have to know all that bit lol all he has to know is that some nice looking bloke asked me what I'd say if he turned up at my house with a couple of bottle of chilled white

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lou33 · 15/11/2007 16:45

work guy needs to know bugger all

ikwym about your mate tho, i have one of those

he has had a lot of gf's in the 4 yrs i have known him, and is getting married in december, but when he goes out with his mates , it is very common for him to text me at silly o clock and hit on me (asks me to send him dirty pics, can he talk dirty on the phone etc)

i always tell him to ask his gf

strangely, when i do see him (which is v rare as he lives miles away) he is completely the opposite face to face, and he is a lovely guy, who does love his fiancee i am sure, he just sometimes turns into a twat

if we had ever been single at the same time tho i would definitely have had a fling with him, lol

Dior · 15/11/2007 16:49

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MascaraOHara · 15/11/2007 16:51

Exactly the same as that lol

We did have a little fling once when we were both single. was fun and mutual.

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lou33 · 15/11/2007 16:53

so there is a spark between you then

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MascaraOHara · 15/11/2007 16:54

Oh definitely a sprak, if we'd got our act together and one of us had made the first move to saying we wanted more that fling prob would have got together. He thought I only wanted casual, I thought he only wanted casual.. neither of us admitted we both wanted more until a long time after.

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lou33 · 15/11/2007 16:58

those missed chances eh?

been there too

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MascaraOHara · 15/11/2007 16:59

no, no regrets. He's a great mate and would've been a shit boyfriend lol

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lou33 · 15/11/2007 17:27

lol

lou33 · 19/11/2007 09:44

how are things today?

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MascaraOHara · 19/11/2007 12:16

Things are pretty good, thanks for asking. I've posted a little about it on the fab & glam thread as I'd like to let this one die.

I did adk MN to delete it (but they won't) as It wouldn't take a genius to put 2 and 2 together and get 4 if somebody thought they knew me in RL.

Sorry can start another thread to chat about it I guess.. maybe in chat so that it disappears

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lou33 · 19/11/2007 12:37

ok will look out forit

greeneyedgirl · 28/11/2007 20:12

Hi, I know this is an old thread, but when I read it, i couldn't help feeling...that's me. I always seem to get rubbish men interested in me, and I end up having to chase...which I hate and is sooooo demeaning!! I too lose my appetite and that awful empty feeling in my tummy....my experience with my ex helped me go down 2 dress sizes and I still feel rubbish now!

Yes, I too hate men!!!!