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I hate men. sorry.

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MascaraOHara · 27/09/2007 21:50

but there's nobody here to talk to and I just had to get that off my chest.

And I hate myself for being so hopeful when I meet someone I think I could really like.

It's just wanky.

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Dior · 29/09/2007 19:32

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Tinkerbel5 · 30/09/2007 10:45

Mascara you are better of treating it as a goodbye sh@g then move on, you have started already by deleting his number and texts, treat today as a new day and go on from there.

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MascaraOHara · 30/09/2007 18:14

horrible day, keep checking my phone. Feel completely crappola. Keep reminding myself that I won't feel liket his forever.

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Dior · 30/09/2007 18:16

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MascaraOHara · 30/09/2007 18:28

He didn't say much. It was very very weird. Would be very long to explain by basically his body language just seemed to contradict his words. Telling me he didn't know what he wanted but pulling me towards him and trying to hold my hand, put my hand on his leg and stuff

very weird. Just waiting to feel better now.

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MascaraOHara · 01/10/2007 09:24

I ended up calling him last night as I needed to get some stuff off my chest so I didn't bring it to work with me.

I said what I needed to say I think and feel soo much better today.

He was still "I don't know"-ing but I just told him that I thought he needed to have a serious think cos I was going to make the decision for him. That I wasn't going to let him mess me about what with work and everything.

Feel better for taking control I think.

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MascaraOHara · 01/10/2007 14:35

So the weird gets weirder..

I feel grand today, I treated myself to some new clothes and think I look good.. am happy and joking with everyone just the same as always and he's barely come out of his office all day (normally he's in and out).. the girl next to me has even nudged me and whispered "what's up with him today shut away in there"

I sent him a text telling him people are noticing his behaviour and that he doesn't have to avoid me as I did my sulking over the weekend with a smiley face at the end.

I've had to talk to him a few times and I've been just the same as always (so has he).

just weird.

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sparkybabe · 01/10/2007 14:46

taking control can only be good for you...looking good can only be better - sock it to 'im, I say!

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MascaraOHara · 01/10/2007 14:51

I've decided that he's so last week.

Last see if I can keep my resolve if he turns round later this week and says he does want to give it a go.

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codswallop · 01/10/2007 14:52

dont text him

lou33 · 01/10/2007 15:02

best way moh, take the reins, and make teh choice for you both

am curently in a similar situation with someone who keeps trying to chop and change his mind, but he had 2 chances and i wont let him have anymore, so have told him to jog on, deleted his number from my phone, blocked him on msn etc, tho he set up a new email account to get in touch with me the other day

just stay in charge and dont feel sorry for him

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MascaraOHara · 01/10/2007 15:08

Oh I'm not going to text him.. I spent the whole weekend feeling like crap.. I've done my being miserable, I feel good today.

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CountDioracula · 01/10/2007 15:34

Well, even if you seeming jolly doesn't make him want you, at least you have your dignity through it all. I lost mine completeyl with the guy from the office .

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MascaraOHara · 01/10/2007 15:40

I think I only saw reference to the guy from the office, Dior, what happened? if you don't mind telling me..

It's a bit weird, as have been asked twice now if we've had a lovers tiff.. god imagine their faces if I actually turned round and said "well, yes, actually." seriously they'd die.

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CountDioracula · 01/10/2007 15:45

pmsl

Ok, guy in office made a play for me. I wanted to sleep with him, but he made it clear that no more was on offer. So, I declined. There is more to it than that and I would now just sleep with him as I don't WANT to be his girlfriend (he is not the nice guy I thought he was). He is with someone though and now just wants to be 'friends' - haha. Story is a lot more complicated than that, but htat is the bare bones.

We are ok at work now - speak occasionally and have the odd laugh. It usually depends on how bored he is, or if there is a lack of totty in the office. Bless him - he is led by his dick. I think he genuinely did like me though, at one point. I just got too heavy as I was not going to leave h for nothing IYKWIM. I really liked the man I thought he was, but I still fancy the man I know he is now.

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MascaraOHara · 01/10/2007 15:48

Sounds awkward, at least it's getting better.

I just saw your thread in active convo's but it's so long!! will take me ages to catch up and am at work. How are things going with dh?

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CountDioracula · 01/10/2007 15:48

CRAP in a word!

CountessDracula · 01/10/2007 15:49

Ahem
that name is too like mine

CountDioracula · 01/10/2007 15:52

Oh, I know . I said this last night, and that I wasn't sure you were still around. Do you mind really? I WILL change if you want, but I do kind of like it in a strange way...

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MascaraOHara · 01/10/2007 15:56

Must admit I did have to look twice at the name lol...

Sorry to hear it's crap, any movement either way?

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CountDioracula · 01/10/2007 15:57

I phoned a solicitor today

CountessDracula · 01/10/2007 15:59

maybe you could put DIOR in caps
then I won't be accused of making posts I haven;t

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MascaraOHara · 01/10/2007 15:59

Is that a good ro bad thing for you?

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