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I hate men. sorry.

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MascaraOHara · 27/09/2007 21:50

but there's nobody here to talk to and I just had to get that off my chest.

And I hate myself for being so hopeful when I meet someone I think I could really like.

It's just wanky.

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lou33 · 01/11/2007 10:46

moh i think its a really bad idea, it is only going to make it worse for you

he will either feel sorry for you and say he will give it a go, but not mean it, or he will be very cold towards you

either way you will be hurt

and he might not even turn up, and you spend hte evening waiting, texting, calling, while he doesnt reply

dont let him see the way he has made you feel, he will probably feed off it

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MascaraOHara · 01/11/2007 12:36

I don't know what else to do.

I've had to come home. I am just in bits. I don't know why I feel so bad.

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lou33 · 01/11/2007 13:17

stay home and do whatever you need to do to get it all out, but dont let him come round

Dior · 01/11/2007 14:35

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zippitippitoes · 01/11/2007 14:37

you really need to move on and away from him..the work thing is a nuisance i know

but there is clearly a reason why he is not in a relationship and you deserve and will soon find someone nice...you won't hurt for long once you make a clean break..cry as much as you like but you will get over it

Dior · 01/11/2007 14:39

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zippitippitoes · 01/11/2007 14:41

i never thought i would get past the tears from dp but i have in many respects..thought i would die to start with

lou33 · 01/11/2007 15:02

yes it does take time, and you will feel shitty of course, but letting him come round will not help at all

zippitippitoes · 01/11/2007 15:03

and it wasn't unitl i stopped seeing him that i started to get better

fawkeoff · 01/11/2007 15:07

MOH pleeease dont let him come over tonight, there is no sense in crying on his shoulder when you know that he is no good for you and doesnt make you feel wanted.you are just going to let him see how much he has screwed you over, which IMO is not a good idea.why dont you just sit in with DD and watch some films with her and stuff loads of choccies down yer gob x x x x

noranora · 01/11/2007 18:35

i think, the other thing that is making it hard for you is that you are working at the same place.
work place romances are hard.
as told before try to enjoy your time with your dc.
i feel for you, it will take time.
i wish you could change your work place, it would be easier for you, and maybe you could meet someone nice

Dior · 01/11/2007 18:44

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MascaraOHara · 02/11/2007 08:18

Hi, I didn't log back in yesterday just lay on my sofa under my quilt, half crying half sleeping.

He did come round and basically he held me for about 2 hours while I cried. We both know it's over. He was quite emotional too.

I still don't know what to tell dd.

I am a complete mess, emotionally at the moment.

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Raffaella · 02/11/2007 09:02

Oh Moh how awful. I'm really sorry. Do you have to go into work today?

Dior · 02/11/2007 09:59

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citylover · 02/11/2007 10:43

MOH so sorry to hear this.

I know what you mean about hiding under the quilt. I had to force myself to come in today after staying up very late, drinking too much wine, watching the last episode of SATC (again) and sobbing for ages. (kids by then asleep).

And spent part of yesterday crying at my desk (at least I can lock myself in my office). Someone later asked me what were the black marks down the sides of my face (doh!)

This will pass. Sounds cliched but true. Hang on in there. You sound lovely and all of this is no reflection on you!

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MascaraOHara · 02/11/2007 11:13

thanks guys. Not in work today. A good friend has just been round which helped a bit.

Feeling a bit better. I text him this morning as dd was talking about him again and I don't have the heart to tell her.

He sent me a text back saying that he feels awful for us because it's his fault abd it's horrible seeing me like this because he knows exactly how I feel. That there's nothing wrong with me and none of this is my fault. How I'm an excellent mum and anyone can see that so not to beat myself up. How he hoped I'd managed to sleep and that I should force myself to eat something light, how he knows I don't feel like it but that it will help a little. Thanking me again for his excellent birthday present and how he's sure he doesn't deserve it and that he'll text me later to see how I am.

I'm going to have another little cry and then get myself showered and sorted.

Thanks for being here for me and listening

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MascaraOHara · 02/11/2007 12:55

I'm washed and I have had half a bowl of soup. I just sw dejags thread, I can't imagine what sh'es going through. MaDE ME THINK i REALLY SHOULD GET A FLIPPING GRIP. oops sorry aboput caps

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charliecat · 02/11/2007 13:17

Glad you have eaten, its all a learning curve....surely you will learn something for this?
This is what im telling myself anyway..

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MascaraOHara · 02/11/2007 13:53

yes, have learnt a lot.

Feeling crap now.

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Dior · 02/11/2007 14:37

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MascaraOHara · 02/11/2007 16:59

Yes he agreed it was over.

Have been moping today, get tearful everytime I read his text - it's just so caring.

I think that maybe he's been very hurt in the past and just can't let himself get involved?!? I don't know. I'll never know.

We had a massive cuddle before he left and he burst into tears again. Maybe he just feels guilty because he can see what hurt he's caused.. I could second guess for enternity but it's not going to get me anywhere.

Dior, will check out your thread to see how it's going for you today x

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Dior · 02/11/2007 17:40

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MascaraOHara · 02/11/2007 20:09

Thanks Dior

Feel quite sick this evening but I know it'll get better with time

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MascaraOHara · 03/11/2007 08:03

Had a text from him last night saying he was really tired and couldn't think straight.. that he hoped I was feeling a bit better and had eaten. Said for me to get an early night and try to sleep. That he'd text me today.

I felt OK towards the end of last night, stayed up fairly late in the hope I would sleep and it worked. He was still the first thing I thought about this morning but never mind

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