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I hate men. sorry.

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MascaraOHara · 27/09/2007 21:50

but there's nobody here to talk to and I just had to get that off my chest.

And I hate myself for being so hopeful when I meet someone I think I could really like.

It's just wanky.

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singledadofthree · 20/10/2007 20:20

will wish you a happy birthday too dior - all the way down south. am home too but no decor for a change - have fixed my central heating tho at long last...not quite sure how but everything works - first time for about 5 years!

Dior · 21/10/2007 08:57

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zippitippitoes · 21/10/2007 09:32

i never said happy Birthday so i'm saying it now..better late than never hope it's a good hangover

Turquoise · 21/10/2007 10:13

Hope you had a good evening Dior? I tried to send you a birthday drink on FB and somehow ended up high 5ing you instead!

Dior · 21/10/2007 20:07

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MascaraOHara · 23/10/2007 12:22

HI, II'm OK. Still not sleeping which is rubbish but have a few days off work for half term so took the opportunity to start taking my a/ds again.

the bloke called yesterday and came round for a bit which was unexpected but nice.

How are you? any movement with the barber?

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Dior · 23/10/2007 22:23

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MascaraOHara · 25/10/2007 08:45

He came round last night. He's an arse, don't know why I have fallen for him so badly. he's never nice to me. he moans about everything. I'm going to try and distance myself. i don't think it's going to work, there is something about him that makes me really really want to be with him.

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noranora · 25/10/2007 09:10

this man is not making you happy mascara.
you deserve better.
if you wouldnt see him everyday you would forget him easily i believe.
dont let him mess around you.
xxx

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MascaraOHara · 25/10/2007 12:08

I know he isn't. In fact at the moment he's making me bloody miserable.

It's like I feel driven/desperate for his approval.

I asked him this morning if he felt better about stuff now as it had been a funny few weeks.. my alarm went off just at that moment (typical), when he got up I said "I'll take that as a no then" he just half laughed and said "maybe, maybe not" as he waltzed off to the shower. Arse.

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noranora · 25/10/2007 18:06

he knows that he has the control.

Dior · 25/10/2007 18:57

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MascaraOHara · 26/10/2007 08:52

I text him last night, he didn't reply but did see him Wednesday night. It was nice as we had house to ourselves so had a bit of a lie in Thursday morning. I'm not going to text him about the weekend, I will leave him to text me.

It's his birthday soon, I've seen something that I know he will love but it's really expensive. I'm not sure if I should take the risk and buy it. Heart says yes buy it, head says no - too rocky atm.

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Turquoise · 26/10/2007 08:56

He sounds a shit MOH - just read that bit about "maybe, maybe not".

Either he really doesn't care about you, or he's enjoying having the upper hand and playing power games (so mature) - but whichever, he's making you unhappy and insecure and he knows it, but keeps doing it.

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MascaraOHara · 26/10/2007 09:02

I know. I should call it a day with him shouldn't I.. He does know exactly how he's making me feel and he does keep doing it.

He is a tosser isn't he? No wonder he's got to 40 and is still a batchelor.

I started to wonder if he founf it too hard dumping me so now he's going to treat me like shit until I get sick of it and dump him.

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Baffy · 26/10/2007 09:16

MoH I just spotted this - will catch up on here to save you having to re-tell it on the other thread xx

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MascaraOHara · 26/10/2007 09:24

lol, just gave a synopsis on other thread

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Dior · 26/10/2007 12:15

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Tinkerbel5 · 26/10/2007 13:33

MOH dont sleep with him until you start getting more out of the relationship, sex isnt power and as long as he keeps getting it he doesnt have to make a decision, you need to turn the tables to your advantage, at the moment it seems that he is doing all the taking and you all the giving.

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MascaraOHara · 26/10/2007 13:55

How do I not sleep with him without him thinking I've got the hump?

It would be very out of character (unheard of) for me to say I wasn't in the mood. Maybe I should not see him the next couple of times? but then I think well if he's making an effort I can't really be awkward can I. I'll have to give him a chance?

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Alambil · 26/10/2007 14:16

go out with him but don't go home with him...? (or him home with you)

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MascaraOHara · 26/10/2007 14:17

We don't go out - we can't in case anybody sees us.

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Tinkerbel5 · 26/10/2007 19:34

is this because you work together ? what about him taking you out of the area and do the dating thing, he takes you out and drops you off home, then when he decides what he wants then you take it from there, there is only so many chances you can give someone

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MascaraOHara · 26/10/2007 20:07

Yes, not that easy as people travel into out office.. he lives an hour away and at least 4 people we work with live near him.

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