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Can I ask you all honestly how you'd feel if your ex started dating one of your friends

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nutcracker · 04/09/2007 20:48

Cos it doesn't matter how hard I try and how much I know I don't want him back, the thought of having to go to school every day and see her smug face looking at me, and to think of them not 2 seconds down the road playing happy families makes me wanna move to the other side of the world.

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nutcracker · 04/09/2007 21:14

I can't work out why this hurts me so much and I don't know how to get past it at all.

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LadyVictoriaOfCake · 04/09/2007 21:16

you loved him. he is the father of your children. and just because you arent with it, doesnt mean it wont hurt to see him daily playing happy families with someone else.

PersonalClown · 04/09/2007 21:16

I've read your threads and she's no friend.
Be smug in the fact that she now has to deal with all his crap.

Kbear · 04/09/2007 21:17

I would feel sick TBH and hurt and all that other stuff you're feeling.

How to deal with this and move on...? Tricky. Were you happy with ex or was he an arse? Is there any chance you'll get back with him?

I think talking on here and to RL friends will help and you know the other real healer is time, cliche but true.

Sorry you feel so crap.

Isababel · 04/09/2007 21:18

PersonalClown... you beat me to it!

Nutty, you should be the one with the smug face, you have get rid of him!

nutcracker · 04/09/2007 21:19

No, no chance we will get back together.

I don't want to cry about this anymore, I can't bloody breath properly as it is.

I hate him so much for putting me in this situation.

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LadyTophamHatt · 04/09/2007 21:19

I agree with PC, it should be YOU with the smug face nutty.

She'll soon find out what a waste of space he is. You're free from that're the one who's come out the other side and been traeted like shit by him, she's got it all to come.

nutcracker · 04/09/2007 21:20

But he wil have someone and i will have no one

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Kbear · 04/09/2007 21:20 the moment nutty but you will meet Mr Wonderful one day and you'll be glad of your lucky escape from Mr Arse.

nutcracker · 04/09/2007 21:22

I can't believe this is actually making me ill, how stupid is that.

I am sat here sturggling to breath properly because of him, how is that right.

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nutcracker · 04/09/2007 21:23

and now i think i am gonna be sick

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Aimsmum · 04/09/2007 21:24

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nutcracker · 04/09/2007 21:25

A few hours ago he rang me and said he still loved me could we try again even as just dating for as long as I wanted.

I said no, and so he said fine, in that case I am gonna give it a go with xxxx.

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LadyTophamHatt · 04/09/2007 21:27

how very charitable of him, nutty but atleast that means she's 2nd choice.

peanutbear · 04/09/2007 21:28

I would hate it I wouldnt want them to talk about me or know things I have said to either one

and it would confuse my child I think I may be paranoid though

nutcracker · 04/09/2007 21:30

You just hit part of the nail on the head peanutbear. I know him and I know that within days she will know all about the ins and outs of our relationship and I don't want her to.

FGS i can't even type a sentance without blarting

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KerryMum · 04/09/2007 21:32

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nutcracker · 04/09/2007 21:33

I have her mobile number ! how i have stopped myself from texting her i don't know.

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nutcracker · 04/09/2007 21:37

Oh god, I now have a splitting headache after all that sobbing, really thought i pass out ther for a second too.

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PippiLangstrump · 04/09/2007 21:51

one minute he sais he loves you, the next that he's going out with your friend... he's just doing it to get to you and hurt you. there's nothing more to it - he's using her as well, so no love there!!

It must hurts loads and your mind must 'makes movies' at the moment. just try not to think of 'them' and how lucky to be on your own.

(I don't know the all story so apolog if I am talking crap!)

nutcracker · 04/09/2007 21:56

Yep my mind ois constantly making movies which is part of the reason I cannot get past it. Everytime I try and forget it, I will see her at school anyway.

Even xp's dd is trying her hardest to get them together properly, she text him today saying 'dad xxx really really likes her why don't you give it a go' FGS she is my kids big sister.

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Aimsmum · 04/09/2007 22:03

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nutcracker · 04/09/2007 22:04

Dd2 and her |Ds are in the same clas yep, and she has also just started work at the school as a dinner lady. Her ds takes great delight in telling dd2 what he gets to do with her dad.

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Nightynight · 04/09/2007 22:06

Id just feel sorry for her.

PippiLangstrump · 04/09/2007 22:07

the best revenge is to show no feeling about this at all. act as if this is not touching you in the slightest. it does not matter how much you cry behind closed door, just ignore them all or any situation that involves them for the time being. all his effort will have been for nothing. easier said than done as well but you must try. you've got all my support.

(apologies for appalling spelling and grammar of prev post, this pg is destroying me)

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