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Can I ask you all honestly how you'd feel if your ex started dating one of your friends

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nutcracker · 04/09/2007 20:48

Cos it doesn't matter how hard I try and how much I know I don't want him back, the thought of having to go to school every day and see her smug face looking at me, and to think of them not 2 seconds down the road playing happy families makes me wanna move to the other side of the world.

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nutcracker · 07/09/2007 07:24

Bloody hell Bonkerz thats awful.

The only positive about this at the mo is that I have lost a bit of weight through worrying about it.

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nutcracker · 07/09/2007 07:31

I wish I could switch off and not think about it, I feel so sick, my stomach just keeps churning over and over and I feel so nervy and jumpy.

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allgonebellyup · 07/09/2007 07:44

i am the same nutcracker, dont feel alone, i have the constant churning stomach and waking up at all hours full of stress.

Everyone keeps saying "it WILL get better, i promise, your life will turn around soon!" but i wish they would stop lying. they dont KNOW it will get better.they dont know anything.

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nutcracker · 07/09/2007 08:01

I suppose it can only get better though, not sure how it could get any worse tbh.

Did you manage to get a sooner gp appointment ??

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Pinkchampagne · 07/09/2007 08:03

Did you get to see your GP, nutty?

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nutcracker · 07/09/2007 08:04

Yeah I went last week PC, I have to fill in a depression questinaire and then go back a week today. Tbh it is the anxiousness that is worse than the depression at the moment, because it makes me feel physically ill.

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nutcracker · 07/09/2007 08:11

Honestly, the closer it gets to school run time, the more I want to throw up, I so hate this feeling.

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Pinkchampagne · 07/09/2007 08:13

Glad you went, nutty. Your doctor sounds quite good & thorough getting you to fill in the questionaire before making a decision. My gp just wanted to put me on AD's, even though I said I wasn't sure I needed them, and there was no questionaire. (although I did one at the start of my last round of counselling)
the anxiety that often goes alongside stress & depression is awful isn't it?
I went through a period of suffering horrible panic attacks, which would end with me in floods of tears, but I was grateful when I reached the tearful stage as it was easier than the frightening panic attacks.
You have my sympathy.

lou33 · 07/09/2007 08:56

tbh i wouldnt look for reasons to call him

he let them down not you, they will work out whata nob he is in time, mine surely are wrt their father

he is now v aware how pissed off you are about it, and so is she, i would assume, so they are going to milk it for all it's worth

dont let them, you dont really want him anyway, do you?

chocabloc · 07/09/2007 09:08

shes not a freinds and he deserves to be castrted how selfish of both of them! If hes moved on so swiftly with ur m8 guarantee he will do it to her to and it will serve her right!

chocabloc · 07/09/2007 09:21

yes bonkers and nutcracker it will get better, use the ads they may temporarily make you feel better! hvnt been in ur exact situation, but i know the feeling of being abandond! it will get better, i know the feeling of knots and sickness, and not being able to breathe no matter how long it takes to get confident( even though its in ur face daily) nutcracker the more u show her taht youve moved and and dont give a shit the better, you need a good piss up! Go shop if u can afford it, have something to look forward to, a weekend away in time it will get better! 2 years on and im not the wreck that i was, even though only close m8s saw that! i saw ex's brother a few weeks ago, he didnt even recognise me, i looked that good

he said hows my nephew "i just ignored him" but apparently he wants to see him hvnt got a call 2 weeks on, so next time i see him will be ignoring him, like i originally did!

my ds's das is mia!!!!... obvs his brother knows whre he is but didnt mention that, and i didnt even ask, hahaha! xx BIG HUGS TO ALL!

SSSandy2 · 07/09/2007 09:33

I wouldn't be thrilled about it ,it would probably bug the hell out of me

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nutcracker · 07/09/2007 11:07

Well xp rang when I got back from school run, to see what I had been ringing him for.

He said he genuinly forgot that he'd told the kids he'd ring them which I don't believe. He also reckons his phone was off because he'd switched it off when he tok his eldest dd to her interview and forgoteen to switch it back on, don't believe that either.

He was at hers last night, although reckons he left at around 9, something else I don't believe tbh.

Anyhow, he reckons that I was right, and she has now back tracked again after realising I am not getting back with him, and stated that she isn't ready for a realtionship.

Oh and apparentky she is fuming because I have apparently told dd2 that she mustn't speak to her ds. I have done nothing of the sort so she can fume all she likes.

My main concern now is wether her ds tells dd2 that her dad was with them last night.

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LIZS · 07/09/2007 17:19

Don't torture yourself with details of what may or may not have occurred yesterdy evening. He'll just say whatever he thinks will wind you up most and it isnlt worth your breath. He wasn't available as he'd said he would be , end of. He let the kids down - again. The best you can do is to ensure your kids are ok at school(did you say anything today?) and channel your energies into the course.

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