Can I ask you all honestly how you'd feel if your ex started dating one of your friends

[nutcracker]

Cos it doesn't matter how hard I try and how much I know I don't want him back, the thought of having to go to school every day and see her smug face looking at me, and to think of them not 2 seconds down the road playing happy families makes me wanna move to the other side of the world.

nutcracker i know how hard it is, my ex is now with an old friend of his so not my friend but it still hurts like hell and is making me not eat.
im here if you want to talk. i feel as miserable as you sound.. and i too just cannot see any way out of all this pain, i dont know what to suggest for you

nutcracker i know how hard it is, my ex is now with an old friend of his so not my friend but it still hurts like hell and is making me not eat.
im here if you want to talk. i feel as miserable as you sound.. and i too just cannot see any way out of all this pain, i dont know what to suggest for you

nutcracker i know how hard it is, my ex is now with an old friend of his so not my friend but it still hurts like hell and is making me not eat.
im here if you want to talk. i feel as miserable as you sound.. and i too just cannot see any way out of all this pain, i dont know what to suggest for you

Oh bellyup you sound so sad, and you must eat you know, although I do understand that you probably really don't feel like it. I got to about 8pm last night and realised I hadn't eaten all day anxd tbh my apetite is very low at the mo for me.

I feel very confused at the moment. I know that I probably only feel like this because he is interested in someone else, but then I keep thinking, that what if I am wrong and I do still have feelings for him and it's too late.
We were together for 10 years, and i think it thought i could switch my feelings off just like that, and for a while I have but now they seem to keep rearing their ugly heads.

in case you didnt get it i posted it 3 times!!!

oh god i am the same..
i finished with him and now he is with someone else i absolutely hate it, i am suicidal and cant see the doc til next wed. i cant believe these feelings have cropped up again when i truly thought i didnt love him any more.
its hideous isnt it, and we were only together 5 and a half yrs.

Can you not ring the docs back and tell them that you need an urgent appointment ? It sounds like you need to see someone asap.

I was sure of my feelings until he met someone else and tbh I think my feelings are probably still the same, I just don't want him ot have with someone else what we never managed to have.

It is hard to just switch your feelings off when you have been with someone for such a long time, so I do understand where you are both coming from.
I started a thread just last week, titled "Do you ever have moments where you miss your ex?", because I was feeling a bit low, and missing some of the nicer times we shared, while knowing I didn't want him back because things could never work out.
It is hard to just switch off, especially when you have been forced to leave because of circumstances, rather than because you had fallen out of love with them.

I understand your upset & your confusion, but am pleased that you were so strong & refused his offers, knowing that you had come so far...that shows real strength.

I've not lived through this but I'd hate it. I'd want to move. I really feel for you. It sounds awful. Not sure what to suggest except that you do whatever you need to rise above it.

I've not lived through this but I'd hate it. I'd want to move. I really feel for you. It sounds awful. Not sure what to suggest except that you do whatever you need to rise above it.

I've not lived through this but I'd hate it. I'd want to move. I really feel for you. It sounds awful. Not sure what to suggest except that you do whatever you need to rise above it.

He's going out with this woman to get to you, nutty. Why? Because he is a controlling, manipulative GIT who has managed to abuse your feelings in order to worm his way back into your life, whereupon he treats you like shit.

Just remember all the tacky things he did to you.

Remember when he accused you of having an affair with the bloke at Wilkos?

Remember how he put you down all the time?

This gal is a loser. He won't have what you didn't have with her, because she doesn't love him, she just wants a meal ticket.

Taht's the difference between you and her. You'd never treat someone the way she does.

I would move if I could NKF even if only to a different estate and schols but same general area, but unfortunatly it is not possible.

Four sodding times today I have seen her and she's given me a dirty look and stopped talkihng when she saw me coming, she is obviously telling as many people as possible before I do, to give them her side of things and get them all on her side.

I did see that thread PC and meant to post but forgot. It's being a fmily that I miss really I think, not him. I know single parents and kids are families too but it's just not the same.

That is very true expat, I wouldn't even treat anyone like either of them have treated me, I don't think I have it in me to be so cruel.

Would be so much easier if he dissapeared off the face of the earth lol.

Her son shouldn't talk to your daughter like that. That should be stopped.

I think there should be a huge mn grave for horrible exes. Who wants to help me dig one?

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I think that's what I miss too, nutty. I get especially down in the evenings & get very lonely. I miss being able to do things as a family, and I find being a single parent very hard. I know I did the right thing, but it doesn't make it any easier.

NKF unfortunatly they are in the same class and so there isn't alot I can do, however if once the teacher has decided on where they all sitting dd is on his table I am going to ask for one of them to be moved, even though I will die of embarassment telling them why.

I am pretty irrationally mad at her tbh, but I can't help it. The thought that next week she might be the dinner lady that stands there helping ds to cut up his food makes me want to knock her into the middle of next week, as I don't want her anywhere near me or the kids.

I'm sorry to hear all this but I would tell the teacher now. And I would ask the ex to ensure that the son doesn't say such upsetting things to your daughter.

I suspect that there's nothing much teachers haven't heard. And you have nothing to be embarrassed about.

Nutty, you must tell the teacher now. TBH I suspect the school will take a dim view on her working as a dinner lady to your children.....aren't dinner ladies meant to be lovely nurturing kind women to keep the reception children?
she's a rough old goat so wouldn't it be great if by telling the school, her services were no longer required.

Xp isn't interested wether his gf's son says anything to dd or not. He reckons he won't have anything to tell him, which is rubbish obviously.

Someone who knows xp's gf, today told me that she has been telling people that one of kids keeps asking if xp is his new dad.

help not keep

You should tell the school. It's the sort of information they need to know.