So which would YOU choose?

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Hi all. So, I'm recently single (well, back in january really but only just managed to get him out of our lives properly) and have 2 'potential dates'. I'm soooo out of practice and also so much older than I was last time I did the dating thing that priorities change. So thought I'd ask the advice of all you lovely people .
Man a) is 2 years younger than me, at 36. Tall, dark and handsome, sporty and says he 'adores women'. Has a fairly good job. Loves shopping, and buying underwear and shoes for women. He's separated, has 2 kids and sees them all the time.
Man b) is 7 years older than me, at 45. Is romantic, and loves buying little surprise gifts for his woman. Wants to spoil his lady. Seems very gentle and kind and has a VERY good job. VERY good. he's also handsome, but in a more mature kind of way, and looks a bit like Colin Firth (Mark Darcy in Bridget) He's also separated with kids.

So....in my younger days I would have gone for Mr Ice Hockey, and risked the heartache. But now I am older, and have the kids, I am veering towards the older, more mature and very kind Mr darcy. Who would you go for?

I agree

can you contact Mr Darcy?

LOL; might not have either of them at this rate!
I have his e mail address...Mr darcy that is.

ok email Mr Darcy and sort out a date

ooh you're so forward you lot! lol

OK, so I had an e mail from Ice Hockey Man just now apologising profusely for not contacting me today, but said he didn't have my number with him, and didn't get back home til 8 tonight. Have to give him the benefit of the doubt I guess.
Oh, all the angst I thought I;d left behind years ago! lol...never thought I;d have to go through all this again! Kinda fun tho

Rule of thumb is that if it's just a shag you're after, go for the younger one every time down to the age of 30.

Any younger and they're incompetent, according to my sources.

HTH.

God, how childish are we.

The older one - definately.

How many women has the younger man bought underwear for? Sounds a bit of a 'womaniser' to me. I would be frightened you'd get hurt again.

You say the older one doesnt live near his kids? Does that bother him? Does he make an effort 2 c them? I think how they are with they kids says alot, thats if u looking for serious relationship. If not, who do u fancy more?

LOL LittleBella...we are childish aren't we??? It's great!
Orangehead, I couldn't agree more about the 'how they are with their kids' thing. The younger man sees his every couple of days, and spends a lot of time doing things with them. he also gets on 'ok' with his ex, which also says a lot I think. My XH hated his first wife witha vengeance, and never saw his kids, and never bothered to try and maintain a relationship with them, despite them only living 30 odd miles away. Used to say things like 'they know where I am, and if they can't be arsed then sod them' (his own kids! . He turned out to be the most mean spirited, spiteful, controlling and abusive man. Very cruel with my children. hence the 'X' bit!
Man 2, the older one, has, I think, moved away for a fresh start. Our conversation hasn't got that far yet; only spoken briefly. But his daughter (think he has only the one) is older I believe, grown up.
So....dilemmas abound!
Also Little bella...I agree re: the younger man being incompetent thing! I always thought I'd go for a yonger man next time, more virile and enthusiastic kind of thing. But I think experience counts for a hell of a lot, kind of knowing his way around .

keep your options open and date them both, then you will see which one you 'gel' with, although I would be careful of the one that adores women as this shouts out 'playa'

Remember that most successful relationships don't come out of blind dates. Love usually just comes to us, we don't have to seek it out. But while you're waiting, playing the field is a good idea, but remember to just play it. Sounds like you've got stuck in bad situations in the past and you don't want to repeat that.

Sorry to be so boring and sensible - of course that's only because I'm jealous that I'm not free and single too.

LOL MrsMarvel! You're absolutely right; I've been in some majorly bad situations and no way do I want to repeat those mistakes. I'm happy to just go with the flow and see if anything develops; however, I want to avoid the pitfalls at the start if at all humanly possible.
Now; update...Mr Darcy has just met someone and is seeing how that goes. I do admire him for not wanting to play 2 at a time. But still..... damn shame. But Mr Ice has been texting me today AND e mailing, and I have to say I do enjoy his company (and he is pretty fit and gorgeous too which obviously helps!) So I am going to just play along, keep some barriers up and have a bloody good time. I hope.

Lucky you - sounds good.

Remember to keep him on a trial, a kind of money back guarantee, remember to protect your children (who have bad experience in the past and will be wary), remember to spend as much energy on girlfriends, who will help to see you through this.

Hope it all goes well.

MrsMarvel...I am treating this on a friends basis. The company of a rather gorgeous man and someone to (hopefully) go out with occasionally. If and only if he can convince me he is genuine and can be trusted, then will I even think about taking it any further.
Having said that I'd probably snog his face off on a first 'date' given half the chance.

I take it that you have a date for this weekend

Tinkerbel...sadly no but getting there . Mr Ice Hockey is turning out to be a really lovely man, funny and very honest. I woke up this morning to my phone going off with a text to say good morning...aaahhhhh.
This weekend would be no good anyway, as I would have to find a babysitter (not to mention the means to pay for it) but I'm in no rush. x