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TeachesOfPeaches · 18/07/2019 08:36

I'm a single full time working mother of one 3 year old in London. As my career is progressing I realise I don't know any parents like myself and I would really like to discuss how others manage childcare, travelling for work, getting a mortgage on your own, tax free childcare etc and I have nobody to discuss this with.

Anyone out there in a similar situation?

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Littlefluffycloudos · 16/08/2019 23:09

Because it’s a super cool place to live? In reality I don’t know any single mothers here so it’d be good to meet some.

Pez82 · 17/08/2019 08:16

@Littlefluffycloudos I'll PM you, great idea

I'm way behind on chat! Will try and catch up later

thaigreencurry82 · 17/08/2019 08:19

Yes to WhatsApp group! Hilarious there are so many of us in SE London!

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TeachesOfPeaches · 17/08/2019 08:52

@thaigreencurry82 welcome !

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atomicnotsoblonde · 17/08/2019 09:07

Is there anyone in Birmingham? I work in the city centre as a co sec but would be great to catch up with others who get the work pressure/single parent dynamic.

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TeachesOfPeaches · 17/08/2019 09:47

@Littlefluffycloudos I don't know how to PM - I only use the app though

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Littlefluffycloudos · 17/08/2019 09:49

I’ll PM you as I don’t think you want to put your number on the forum!

OhioOhioOhio · 17/08/2019 10:32

I am in the opposite direction to London. But a supportive WhatsApp group sounds fun for you southerners.

I have 3 little ones. Well I guess they are getting bigger, aged 4, 5 and 6. Yes. Really. Been getting divorced from a bastard forever.

Lovely to meet you all.

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TeachesOfPeaches · 17/08/2019 10:53

@OhioOhioOhio welcome! 3 small ones sounds hectic

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FionaCorkesWardrobebyKamizole · 17/08/2019 11:04

I've just spent this morning reading through this thread and it's made me feel so much better, hallo everyone. Single mum of 1 here but in SW London. Run my own business in London so I do have some flexibility with working hours and term times are manageable with extended hours at school, but this first long summer holiday as a lone parent has been an eye opener (and a killer!)

OhioOhioOhio · 17/08/2019 11:30

Why an eye opener?

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TeachesOfPeaches · 17/08/2019 11:47

@FionaCorkesWardrobebyKamizole Welcome to the thread !

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FionaCorkesWardrobebyKamizole · 17/08/2019 12:13

@TeachesOfPeaches - thank you, and thank you for starting this thread, it's been so helpful.

@OhioOhioOhio - organising holiday childcare, paying for it and learning to deal with the guilt, while trying to keep up with my work as much as possible! XDH and I used to share the holiday childcare, now I'm having to put DS into holiday camps/clubs and pay for it all (no contribution/maintenance) and I feel so guilty as DS cries and doesn't want to go, he wants to be at home with me. I'll be better prepared next summer, we've only been separated a year.

OhioOhioOhio · 17/08/2019 13:52

Guilt is a difficult one. I'm a teacher so can't imagine the drama of sorting the holidays out. Totally agree about how expensive it is to pay for childcare. Does he see you lo at all?

Littlefluffycloudos · 17/08/2019 20:55

Evening all, I’ve only had one number DM’d for the WhatsApp group - if anyone else is up for working Single Parent meets in SE London then let me know as it would be a great thing to support each other!

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TeachesOfPeaches · 18/08/2019 09:44

@Littlefluffycloudos I Messaged you - let me know if you got it!

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Littlefluffycloudos · 18/08/2019 12:14

Yep I did! Will set it up tonight as out and about today!

If anyone else wants to join then inbox me

SeaSidePebbles · 18/08/2019 12:42

Hello all!
I haven’t read the whole thread, but I just came across teachers’ invitation to join (from another thread). Sorry if I came across as rude not replying, I’ve only just came across you invite, thank you!

I’m not near SE London, but happy to join the club Smile. I’m a single mum but not single, it’s just the parenting bit that I do on my own. DD is a teenager, DP doesn’t have a lot to do with her iyswim.

I’ll go and catch up with the thread now, hope you’re all having a calm Sunday :)

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TeachesOfPeaches · 18/08/2019 20:58

@SeaSidePebbles welcome!

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TeachesOfPeaches · 18/08/2019 21:02

The SE London WhatsApp group is now live. Feel free to join by messaging @Littlefluffycloudos.

We're a bijou group of 3 at the moment and open to new members Smile

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anothermansmother · 20/08/2019 08:37

I'm in Merseyside so miles from London! Would love to find other single working mums around here...going to London would be a bit of a trek.

EverTheConundrum · 20/08/2019 09:13

I'm a single Mum with a career behind me. I'm not working right now for health reasons but now that my DD is starting school, I'm hoping after my treatment to get back to work.
What is the point in having a child only to leave them in Nursery 40+ hours a week? Heartbreaking for the kids

SeaSidePebbles · 20/08/2019 10:37

Ever, the point is that some might not have a choice Hmm
another, nowhere near you. Hope someone here is though.

Whoseagooddoggiethen · 20/08/2019 10:47

Theres 168 hours in a week. Ye cope. If I did not work my sons would not have the fabulous home to live in that we have, they would not have their holidays, day trips and life experiences that they have so I think the bad outweighs the good.

Whoseagooddoggiethen · 20/08/2019 10:47

The good outweighs the bad even lol