Essbee - I always feel so useless on threads like this as I'm just not sure what I can say that hasn't been said before.
I am so sorry that you are feeling so crap and although I've been through the whole divorce thing, it was before I had children and TBH I think it must be much worse when you have them to worry about too.
I did have the aresex syndrome though, who thought it was acceptable to stop paying the mortgage and any household expenses. I wasn't living in the house and was paying rent too, but had to find all the mortgage and bill money as according to the buidling society it was joint and several liability which meant I was responsible for his shortfall in payments as well as my own.
But I got all of the money back in the settlement as he had been so unreasonable - but that didn't stop me sweating every time I thought of the debts I was building up! The mortgage compnay were quite understanding about it though - I think they see it all the time
On a practical level is there anything I can do for you? Make phone calls, sort things out, speak to people for you??? It really would be no trouble at all to help you out if there is anything useful I can do. Please please just let me know!
Keep your chin up - this too will pass and you will be a stronger person at the end of it. You will know that you have looked at the camel's arse of the world and yet managed to stand up and walk again and you will in time be immensely proud of yourself for being able to do so
Lots of virtual hugs
Jxxx