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Support for essbee

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anorak · 10/09/2004 15:12

For our lovely essbee to post whenever she feels down and wants to chat, and for anyone else who wants to be here for her....

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iota · 22/09/2004 14:11

Hi essbee. I hope you do get friendly with your cousin, it would be nice to get on with SOME of your family !!

take care of yourself

essbee · 22/09/2004 14:14

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iota · 22/09/2004 14:26

Have you done any work yet?

essbee · 22/09/2004 22:07

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essbee · 22/09/2004 22:08

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joanneg · 22/09/2004 22:13

I would ignore him when he calls you (attention seeking to put off going to slepp!) as long as he is ok ofcourse.

Do go and stay out tomorrow night. He might even be as good as gold for other people (ds is like that a monster for me and an angel for nanny!)> Give yourself a break. You know he will be ok and whoever babysits can cope.

iota · 22/09/2004 22:15

HI essbee
Why do tehy do that? sometime they just won't give in. My ds1 is 5, but is never in bed before 8.30 - last night it was 9 pm.

Is he hard to wake up in the morning?

essbee · 22/09/2004 22:15

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essbee · 22/09/2004 22:16

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iota · 22/09/2004 22:19

perhaps he's nocturnal

I'm useless at getting mine to bed, the yr old can party til now if he's had a nap in the day - luckily they're both asleep now and I'm on the red wine

iota · 22/09/2004 22:19

sorry the 3 yr old.... can't type

essbee · 22/09/2004 22:32

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Chinchilla · 22/09/2004 22:33

Poor you EssBee...

mummytosteven · 22/09/2004 22:37

god what a nightmare essbee. quite right to hang up on him. has the petition been finalised/served on him yet?

essbee · 22/09/2004 22:38

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essbee · 22/09/2004 22:39

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mummytosteven · 22/09/2004 22:39

yep - the stop the world i wanna get off - or hide under the duvet until it stops looking so scary days. unfortunately post baby its a lot harder to hide under the duvet without anything more pressing than a tub of hagen dasz - sigh

mummytosteven · 22/09/2004 22:41

at least the legal side of things has started, so hopefully no more pussyfooting around with mediation. think you need a "broken record" response to his calls. I would go for either - I don't wish to discuss this with you - or - that's your opinion, we'll just see what the court decides.

DelGirl · 22/09/2004 22:45

my most well used phrase unfortunately . Not used quite so much these days thankfully. Essbee, have you got any holiday time owing or anything or is there anyway you can get signed off for a little while just so you can take a breather? Sorry if i'm butting in where it's not wanted.

mummytosteven · 22/09/2004 22:46

My turn to butt in DG - essbee's status is "self-employed" so don't think she gets any sick pay,

DelGirl · 22/09/2004 22:48

oh, I didn't know, sorry.

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anorak · 23/09/2004 10:20

Hi essbee, how's it going this morning?

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Twinkie · 23/09/2004 10:52

Ooohhh Essbee - thats the fighting spirit - he is not going to get the house - tosser to even think it as for the petition just tell him you have never been so sure of wnything in your life and are looking forward to getting on with your life and helping his children through all of this!!

I got Decree Nissi in the post on Tues and seemed really weird - I was a bit sad that something that I thought would work and thet I went in to will be over and a huge chapter of my life closed but have this overwhelming feeling of hapiness and that the end is in sight!! Plus have just heard that I won't have to wait until he sells the house to get any money (although he has accepted an offer he won't tell me anything else!!) - he will probably be given 6 weeks to raise it!! hahahahahah!!!!

As for DS what would he do if you explained to him that you also needed your sleep and were not going to come upstairs anymore - take him a drink and say thats it - would he keep trying it on no matter how much you ignored him?? As for putting him on someone else - don't worry about it you have to put up with it every night and don't get time to sort yourself out - one night for someone is nothing!!

ALso was thinking yesterday about you doing DSs room - have you tried finding a British Heart Foundation furnoture shop - they usually do really reasonable furniture and it is clean and well looked after - you could see if you could pick up some good stuff from there and paint it bright colours for him - bit of primer and you can paint anything these days - and a tin of blackboard paint and do him a blackboard on the wall for him to scribble on??

kimi · 23/09/2004 19:29

Hi Essbee, i am still here but finding it harder to get to the computer the last few days, soooo busy.
Also doing lots of extra stepping (after anoraks lovely food and drink)
Think i put your email address in the wash as it was in DH pocket (SORRY) if you still have mine please email.
see you at anoraks in two weeks.

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