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Support for essbee

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anorak · 10/09/2004 15:12

For our lovely essbee to post whenever she feels down and wants to chat, and for anyone else who wants to be here for her....

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LIZS · 11/09/2004 18:52

WK completely agree with you. Can't imagine she's really upset anyone and she doesn't need to be worrying about that on top of everything else. Please ask her to keep posting.

Flip · 11/09/2004 19:07

Hi Essbee

I haven't been around much in recent weeks and had no idea you'd been feeling so bad. You have such wonderful children who need you dearly and you are doing the right thing by asking for help. Continue to ask for help and come back. It's very difficult to respond to everyone's posts.

I'm thinking of you and take care.

Flip/Pip

coppertop · 11/09/2004 19:13

Pleeeeeeeease come back, Essbee. MN isn't the same without you on here.

wobblyknicks · 11/09/2004 20:20

Thanks for the agreements - really hope she comes back soon.

Had to finish my message quick so didn't get a chance to say the really blunt bit;

Everyone who was so offended - don't you think its a very bad idea to be placing extra guilt on someone who's having a hard enough time as it is, who's been through hell and coped with it fantastically and who is managing to juggle a job, finances and being a brilliant mum to 2 fantastic kids????

Essbee - please please PLEASE come back, mumsnet will have a huge loss if you don't and I personally won't feel the same about being on here - you one of the wonderful presences on MN and we don't just want you back, we need you back.

JanH · 11/09/2004 20:38

Well unless I've missed something there were only 2 people who felt a bit overlooked, and both apologised handsomely afterwards:

Eowyn · 11/09/2004 20:41

I want to say Hi too, having met you essbee I thought you were a really sweet person & found it very hard to imagine how anyone could have treated you as you have been, everyone on here knows you are such a nice person so can't help but be concerned for you & wish you well. I wanted to say all that yesterday when I read your original thread but my computer keeps freezing on me & I can write a lot more freely when I've had a glass of wine, sadly, worry too much about what to say otherwise. Just want to wish you well & hope we can meet up again some time.

fiorocious · 11/09/2004 20:43

I have not time to read all of this right now but I will be coming back to this again soon.

I have my share of depression and the only thing I have to say is that when you are severly depressed you take absolutely everything so incredibly personally albeit it may not have been meant that way. It doesn't take a lot to set you right back. Does essbee have people around her?

wobblyknicks · 11/09/2004 20:47

JanH - you're totally right and I'm sorry to both posters - I honestly didn't mean it to sound as harsh as it must have come across, was just still feeling a bit indignant for essbee that she feels she's got to saty off over this but I should start keeping quiet!!! Sorry, didn't mean to start anything off again.

Essbee - come back please hon!!!

earlygirl · 11/09/2004 20:49

essbee youve got to come back
you havent upset anyone im sure.. its ok dont worry

essbee · 11/09/2004 21:43

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emsiewill · 11/09/2004 21:44

esbee, I haven't been around much since last Saturday night / sunday morning. I knew then that I wasn't the best person to offer advice, and you have had so much brilliant advice from so many people. It just goes to show how much we all think of you. Please look after yourself, and keep taking those baby steps.

Tinker · 11/09/2004 21:46

She's back!

earlygirl · 11/09/2004 21:50

hi essbee glad youre back x

MUMINAMILLION · 11/09/2004 21:52

Essbee, have only just read your thread today. Really glad you have come back - MN is the best place for you! I dont have any words of wisdom for you, but everyone here wishes you well and cares about what happens to you. Dont feel worried about offending anyone. We are all big enough and ugly enough to take care of ourselves! Oh, and you are not on your own tonight - we are all here for you.

tammybear · 11/09/2004 22:00

hey essbee, glad youre back, how have you been? xxx

essbee · 11/09/2004 22:03

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essbee · 11/09/2004 22:42

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MUMINAMILLION · 11/09/2004 22:45

No essbee - YOU are the one lifting OUR spirits! Thanks for the whisky and triple G&T!!!!!!!!

MummyToSteven · 11/09/2004 22:45

a duvet is an excellent place to hide. i love my duvet.

essbee · 11/09/2004 22:46

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MummyToSteven · 11/09/2004 22:48

for full duvet effect, have your pjs on, a box of choccies and start singing eric carmen

essbee · 11/09/2004 23:05

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marthamoo · 11/09/2004 23:05

Hon, I haven't been around for ages and I have just let my bath go cold while I caught up with all your threads. I think I would have known you were ohdear even if I hadn't known you were ohdear, iykwim

Darling, I have been where you are, and it is such a lonely place but you will get out of it. Your children NEED you, you're their Mum and there is no substitute for a Mum. People have posted such wise and wondeful words to you and someone (can't remember who - it's a LONG thread!) said that your children will see you at your lowest and then see you struggle up from that and they will understand what true courage and love is. I had never thought of it like that before and it helped me a lot because I often wonder if I have damaged my boys with my bouts of depression.

I've posted this before but I'll post it again: when you are in that terrible dark place the only thing you can do is keep putting one foot in front of the other. It's too hard to try and lift your head and look ahead - so don't. Just keep plodding on. Small steps. One day at a time is often too much, so make it one hour, or even one minute. At some point you WILL look back and realise that you have come out the other side - and you will look back and be able to say "my God, I survived that."

You have so many people here rooting for you - and even though I'm late to it you know you have my support too. It will get better, believe me.

Loads of love, moo xxx

jampot · 11/09/2004 23:06

Yes its fine - but I would sleep downstairs with them

MummyToSteven · 11/09/2004 23:06

off the top of my head yeah, but chuck a light sheet or even a blanket over them but not an experienced enough parent to be the definitive voice. have you been eating properly today as that might be contributing to how they are affecting you?