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anorak · 10/09/2004 15:12

For our lovely essbee to post whenever she feels down and wants to chat, and for anyone else who wants to be here for her....

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essbee · 20/09/2004 16:33

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iota · 20/09/2004 17:35

cor - you go out to get ds2 from nursery and this thread nearly falls of the board. BUMP

Can't help re floorboards - we've got concrete and chipboard

essbee · 20/09/2004 18:22

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Forestfly · 20/09/2004 18:25

iota wrong thread i know, but could you help me re concrete and chip board, ive been thinking of doing it cheers. I have a thread going on concrete floors.
And would love to know how you did yours. i'll leave the room now with trivial matters.

libb · 20/09/2004 18:26

essbee, have mailed you about PS2 games xxx

tigermoth · 20/09/2004 19:01

hi essbee,I've painted wooden floors before, without doing it by the book ( I slap paint on - very impatient). It worked as the floor was not subject to constant through traffic. As you are painting a bedroom not a hallway for instance, the effect should last longer I'd have thought - and you can always paint it again! You never know, all that extra exertion might help you sleep better as well. hope so!

kimi · 20/09/2004 19:06

Hello essbee, it was so lovely to meet you on Saturday, hope DH and i were not too scary (but as he is related to anorak you should have known he would be lovely, i on the other hand am a bit mad )
Did i mention (after letting everyone know he's other quilty's (blush blush) that he in in fact a builder and decorator? And very good at it so if you need a hand with DS (who is lovely by the way) room just give us a call.
My DS1 is going to sort out some games and bring them when we come over to anoraks in a couple of weeks.
Looking forward to seeing you again, if you think you can put up with us some more.
Take care and keep eating that elephant one bite at a time and you will get there in the end.

essbee · 20/09/2004 21:03

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essbee · 20/09/2004 23:12

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jampot · 20/09/2004 23:48

you should go essbee - don;t worry about people knowing about exh - he belongs in the past now - you're moving forward each day. Funerals are very important in helping us to let go of loved ones. xx

essbee · 21/09/2004 18:51

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anorak · 21/09/2004 19:07

Life's like that, essbee. Grief is more about ourselves and our sadness about loss than about the person who's died. I've noticed after a bereavement I always grieve harder if generally I am experiencing a lot of loss around that time.

It's very good for you, though. A great release.

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essbee · 21/09/2004 19:11

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anorak · 21/09/2004 19:14

I'd be surprised if you could let it all go on one day. You let it out as and when is right for you.

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essbee · 21/09/2004 19:18

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anorak · 21/09/2004 19:22

I don't blame you.

I know it's a cliche, but time does heal. Especially if you learn that you are important and make sure your needs are met in future. That way you become stronger and when something awful like a bereavement happens you cope better because you are not worn out already by avoidable stuff.

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DelGirl · 21/09/2004 19:24

(((hugs)) Essbee, so sorry you've had yet another difficult day.

popsycal · 21/09/2004 19:24

was thinking of you today ess bee

huggs

LIZS · 21/09/2004 19:29

Hi essbee

Was thinking of you this morning. I sensed from what you had previously posted that you really needed to go so am glad you managed to. It sounds as if perhaps it was a catalyst for all sorts of emotions and you may yet look back on it as a turning point. Be kind to yourself, you have already got so far.

Take care

essbee · 21/09/2004 21:27

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jodee · 21/09/2004 21:40

Essbee, I hope you can draw near to people this week who can give you strength, it's been an emotional day for you and your thoughts will be on your dear loved ones. Be extra kind to yourself, hon. xxxx

serenequeen · 21/09/2004 21:41

hi essbee, you sypathised with me when i posted about family difficulties. just wanted to let you know here you're not alone in that respect and, as always, i hope things improve for you soon.

Thomcat · 21/09/2004 22:01

How did this thread get so huge with me never knowing about it? Really this is the first time I've seen this, how will I ever catch up? Well I can't, Essbee you just need to know that if I can do anything for you then I will. I'm not the best person for keeping up with regular posts on threads but that doesn't mean that I don't care. Babes I'm SO sorry for your loss and for everything you are going through. I'll try and keep up with this post now I know it exists. Lots of love to you sweetie, and Anorak, you really are a top woman.

tigermoth · 22/09/2004 11:42

hope you have a better day today, essbee.

essbee · 22/09/2004 13:54

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