Support for essbee

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For our lovely essbee to post whenever she feels down and wants to chat, and for anyone else who wants to be here for her....

essbee, just send an email to your awfulname email address, thought I'd tell you in case you don't check it often. Can't find your other one.

Just SENT, that should read!

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Are you ticking things off on a list as you do them, essbee? That helps me a lot (obsessive list woman that I am).

I'm off to bed now (ds2 was up at half six this morning, bless his cotton socks) but will catch you later. I have been out in the wilderness for a while but I think my MN addiction is kicking in again big time

essbee, it's wonderful to hear that things are looking up. I do the list thing myself and try to check things off as I go. It always seems like there are a dozen really important problems to be solved and I have a tendency to want to ignore them all. Always feel better checking off "deeds done" though.

agree that the list thing really works, especially written on post-it notes that you stick up near eye level. I am slowly working through mine at the moment - thanks for your concern essbee

library fines - our local librarian actually told me to tell the central library that I had recently moved house and that's why the books were temporarily lost. Nice lady!

I can't wait for your friends adn your sister to recieve that email. I think it's a really good idea to tell them more of what's happened to you.

Really glad you are beginning to put your past in its place - in the past.

If you feel up to it, there's a mumsnet christmas party at Coram's Fields on the 18th December, in case you haven't read that thread. See how you go, and if it fits in with your plans, do come along!

And also, if I can do anything, make any phone calls (credit union stuff perhaps?) just say.

The past is a massive issue - it's what makes us the people we are. It's good to think about it and recognise the way it shapes our choices and behaviour. That way we begin to understand things like our choices of partner or our attitude to the importance of our own needs.

And then we can change those choices for the better. When we understand the influence of the past we can put it in its place and stop allowing it to make our choices for us. We apply what we now know, and we become new people

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essbee, you sound like a different person. So pleased you are getting through this .
Am sure there will be the odd glitch, but that's what we're here for.

I'm another avid list maker. Swear by them. I have lists for everything. I even make lists of my lists

How are you today essbee?

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hi essbee, sorry to hear your not so good today - you have done about as much as me today -I've been on mumsnet since 9.30 am

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at least you got paid for doing nothing

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when I went to work I used to spend whole days gossiping or pretending to do stuff - walking around the office (300 people) with a piece of paper proved very effective

i know from personal experience how people actually don't notice that you are staring at pieces of paper most of the day - or if they did, were far too polite to try and sack me for it you'll get your concentration back soon - just you have had so much on your mind atm

Thanks to the people who have said things about my post on this, didn't want to ignore you, nor did i want to ramble on essbees post. So thanks again x

Good evening essbee, i have just managed to log on as DS1 has been home sick today and DS2 is only at school in the mornings so i have been in a bit of a mad rush all day and i had the iorning pile from hell.
I am looking forward to meeting you at the weekend at anoraks, its always lovely to visit with her as shes such fun as i am sure you will agree.
Sorry to hear that today was not such a good day for you but just think, tomorrow is a brand new day full of promise and opportunity.
Firefly, your post was just lovely
saintshar, i am so glad the book problem has been sorted, i have misplaced many a book in my time.
well better go give DS1 more T.L.C and hot milk.
essbee, keep smiling.

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Hmmm. In terms of being back with it - I assume having Steven is a good enough excuse for me not going back to work - I would say that 8 weeks on Prozac made an enormous difference - I remember spending the last few weeks of my PG doing loads of research on flights/etc for my best friend's honeymoon, which from a starting point of - stop moaning about your wedding, I am having a baby/feeling like hell (thought not said!!) is I think significant progress. I can't really compare my "recovery" to anyone else's given that it was probably lengthened by having a baby and the general resultant physical and emotional world being turned upside downness, and also because once I had got over the depression, there was then the OCD to conquer (so a different kettle of fish - or bundle of neuroses, as it were)

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