DNA Result. Should i tell the parental family

[laurajayne3]

Long story short I had a 3some with someone I was seein for a few years and his friend. There's a lot behind that story but I won't go into it. Anyway I prayed he was going to be the guys I was seein. 18 months later a dna has shown he's not. Apparently he's told his friend and he said he wants nothing to do with him. I would prefer to have the conversation with him directly and not through my ex as he is a compulsive liar. But that said I can imagine his friend would say that. My question is should I tell his family? I don't have any phone numbers for him, but I do know his sister's name on Facebook. He won't want me to tell them. And I don't want to stir any unnessary drama or feel like I'm begging something when he's said he wants nothing to do with the baby. Would I look stupid and desperate to do this? I don't feel like i have any right as I don't know them. And we were never ever together. I was with his friend. And I'm pretty sure he's on And off with his other kids mum. And it's his family not mine. I don't want to look like some desperate stalker. But I would like my son to have as much family as possible. If they wanted to obviously. Do you think his family would want to know as they would be his grandparents and aunty. Or am I just best leaving it? Thanks

[GlitteryFluff]

Ah that's fab news so far op. I bet it's a weight off your mind.

[laurajayne3]

I understand the fact I don't know his family. I Just have a feeling they're not bad like him. Even if they didn't ever see my baby. I don't think they're the same. I know first hand through my uncle being a bit of a wrongen to not judge a whole family on one person's actions. I think they'll either see him or they won't. I can't see how a situation would arise where the would see him and it be horrible for my son. And if it did I have the power to stop contact. Especially while he's too young to really know that there was a couple of people he saw a few times and now he doesn't see them. And I highly doubt the dad would change his mind and ever dream of fighting for custody. He's too much of a wrongen and doesn't even have himself together. Never mind want to share custody of a child x

[Dexywexy]

That's great, you have got the result you had hoped for. You must be pleased. I hope it all works out for you and your son.

[C0untDucku1a]

I do hope this works out for you

[laurajayne3]

Well she's blocked me now. Which I kinda expected as I knew when she was replying she hadn't spoke to him. He's since sent me a load of abuse And threats. And from what he's said I think he's probably told his sister im some sort of Slag. Which really isn't fair when I didn't even want to sleep with him. Making out im a Slag that's slept around. But at least it's done with now and I know and can move forward x

[laurajayne3]

He's apparently told his mum baby's not his. She said he is (I think he must look like his others) he said I'm not bothered dont want nothing to do with him. So she's said right I won't either then x

[GerrytheBerry]

You've only just thought to do a dna now?

[GreenTulips]

Well there you go - you've rial let lost nothing have you? If his family can treat a baby in this fashion they aren't worth having around.

I hope you are ignoring the texts from him and do the decent thing and get some financial support as recognition of his donaship

[laurajayne3]

I wasn't able to do a dna sooner as he wasn't around. I'm not going to look for any financial help. I don't think he has money on paper. And it's not worth the stress of any threats that may come of it x

[GlitteryFluff]

Oh I'm sorry op.
At least you tried.
They might rethink and get back in touch.
You've done everything you can

[Louw12345]

I cant believe his sister blocked you. I hope his mother has something about her to get intouch with you.

If that was my son I would rather lose him then lose my grandchild.

It doesn't matter if u are a slag or not your his baby's mother support is support end of.

I hope you save all messages he sends you and don't reply to any of the messages either.

You have done what you needed to for your child, and very bravely to.

[MyBabyIsAWerewolfAhwooooo]

You know the truth Laura and in time you will find the right words to tell your son what you want him to know. I'm sorry they've reacted like that but it's done, you can tell him you tried, and you can move on knowing that you can be enough for him. Keep your ex out of your life and move on my lovely x