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Ex has just sent me a parenting plan.

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HowamIgoingtocope · 04/04/2017 18:51

We have been separated 6 years.
He must have spent hours on thw bloody thing. I hardly have time to eat and sleep never mind read his narcisstic twaddle.

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Graphista · 06/04/2017 23:07

Good sounds like a good GP. Take the support.

BreakfastAtSquiffanys · 06/04/2017 23:11

When I was at school I spent hours creating "revision plans" and bugger all time actually doing revision.
Is he the same with his plans?

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HowamIgoingtocope · 06/04/2017 23:21

Not sure breakfast. Out of 356 days he has the 56. I worked my bum off today. So I red and mentally exhausted and just want babies huggils

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NaiceBiscuits · 07/04/2017 07:45

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BlackeyedSusan · 07/04/2017 07:51

so he is taking them to school or are you on holidays?

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HowamIgoingtocope · 07/04/2017 07:53

He has yet to message me. However I know they are on their way back to a safe place. I'm distraught and will be seeking legal advise now. Just because he tells me I have to do something doesn't mean I have to do it.

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KungFuPandaWorksOut16 · 07/04/2017 09:31

You said they are on their way too a safe place, does that mean they are coming back too you?

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HowamIgoingtocope · 07/04/2017 11:32

Yep they are home, however I have received two lovely emails of the ex

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Lweji · 07/04/2017 11:36

How are they doing? What did they say?

CaroleService · 07/04/2017 11:42

I'm sure if we put our heads together we could come up with a parenting plan to send to him.

Lweji · 07/04/2017 11:47

1 - Return children yourself after contact.
2 - Don't send parenting plans - keep them to yourself.
3 - Treat your children's mother with respect
4 - Don't communicate with their mother except for emergencies
5 - Take your children on holiday.
6 - Respect the mediation agreement.
7 - And most important - THINK OF THE CHILDREN FIRST

Astro55 · 07/04/2017 12:15
  1. keep away from emails
  2. go to anger management classes
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HowamIgoingtocope · 07/04/2017 12:33

The last two. Definatly.
I've had enough. I have had another regarding his CAHMS referral. Apparently because I didn't. Discuss this with him I'm in the wrong. Not the fact I needed guidance from.school and then went to the gp to get a referral as I felt it was imperative to help my son cope with whatever was bothering him.
My ex hates how I parent. They get responsibility and some freedom. All of sudden he is a child psychologist as well. What I do know is what ever is happening the children are effected by it. My daughter can cope my son can't. So he needs help putting everything in perspective.

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Platimum · 07/04/2017 17:25
  1. pay maintenance on time
  2. don't make little digs every opportunity you get
kittybiscuits · 07/04/2017 17:43
  1. Put the sandwich toaster on and when it's really hot, put your dick in it...
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HowamIgoingtocope · 07/04/2017 18:03

Have to go to school Tuesday too depending on what I decide. In bits lately.

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kittybiscuits · 07/04/2017 18:04

Sorry it's such a tough time Flowers

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HowamIgoingtocope · 07/04/2017 20:30

Got worse today but I got my babies back

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Graphista · 07/04/2017 23:53

Wish I was there to give you a big hug and a real life sounding board. It's shit it really is. Enjoy hugging your babies!

Flowerfae · 08/04/2017 00:33

He sounds like a control freak, who feels he is losing 'control' and doesn't like it. He's completely childish and I would (as I'm sure your doing) keep a record of everything he says/sends. Sod replying to anything that he writes because he could use it against you (sounds ridiculous but if you forget to do something/ do something different other then what has been written..as he sounds like a control freak he could try to do something with that, not that it would work, its just extra hassle). I would just send him a image of a hand with the middle finger up.

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HowamIgoingtocope · 08/04/2017 06:24

I'm writing a cease and desist letter. Apparently we are now. Past parenting plan territory because I didn't go.go.to collect the kids. Nothing has changed he's still not bringing them home. Nothing has changed with my working hours either. So I still working to be able to.to collect them. So he will get two choices. Then I'm afraid he may have to consider court. I'm done now.

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HowamIgoingtocope · 08/04/2017 06:25

Oh we are now off to mediation. Good luck with that one.

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BakerBear · 08/04/2017 07:06

Jesus Christ!

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HowamIgoingtocope · 08/04/2017 07:12

Baker it's beyond a joke now. He's lost control and he doesn't like it. None of it is about the children he's simply having a tantrum an not getting his way. What would you do either he tantrum. I'm fed up. He wants mediation now. Fine I'll go Totnes first meeting. Then go from there .preferably down the pub.

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