Ex has just sent me a parenting plan.

[HowamIgoingtocope]

We have been separated 6 years.
He must have spent hours on thw bloody thing. I hardly have time to eat and sleep never mind read his narcisstic twaddle.

There's a consent order which he broke. That was from mediation so he can basically do what he wants.

That's really shit, I'm sorry

He's a delusional twat isn't he?

thanks yes delusional and self centered the email may have just read

Me Me me me me me Im more important than everyone else me that is . me .

Don't bite, OP.
I'm another one who receives emails from exH with frankly halucinatory shite sprouted in long paragraphs. It's unbelievable. I am not replying, I am keeping them but not replying. You know what's worse? He copies our DD in. As a way of forcing me to reply. I am not.
The latest one is that I need to make my DD ride a bike with no rear breaks when she visits him. It's not that bad, apparently, and she is just acting on my instructions by refusing to use it, hence me treating him like the enemy and creating a wedge berween him and his precious child. The fucker is too tight to service the bike, my DD is sensible enough to refuse to ride an unsafe bike. I had precisely 16 emails on the topic. Not replied to one!

glad to know we can all support each other with the emails.

TBH I'd just not acknowledge it. Let him sort (and pay for) mediation and court. I can't see any judge wanting to get involved with dictating bedtimes, vetting of partners or their diet (unless perhaps if it was extreme).

He's an idiot.

I will acknowledge it. I'll skin through it. But mediation is out and he can pay for court.

Has he returned them ok?

Have you thought about ignoring him for the rest of your life?

Over the years I've variously been accused of:

Neglect (inc not feeding/clothing dd)
Abuse (inc locking dd out of home aged 7)
Insanity inc psychopathy

Being a 'cold distant mother' (because I was working full time)
'Chaotic' (when I worked part time)
'Lazy lying scrounger' (not working due to illness/disability)

So whatever I fucking do work wise is wrong!

Sleeping around
Giving dd a 'messed up idea' of relationships (during a time I had chosen not to date)

Again can't do right for doing wrong eh! If I date I'm a slut if I don't I'm modelling poor example to dd!

Lying to dd about why we split (I'd actually for years done the 'we weren't getting on/didn't love each other any more' thing for dds sake. So THAT was a lie. THIS actually came up when dd was learning about reproduction and worked out her stepmum was almost 3 months pregnant with her eldest half sibling when her dad and I split - hence realising he'd been cheating!)

Turning dd against him - er no you're perfectly capable of alienating her yourself by:

Rarely calling/communicating online (he's actually blocked her) and even when you do being clearly massively disinterested in her/her life to point you don't even know the name of the bff she's had since age 9! (She's now 16), or what she wants to be or what subjects she's studying at school.

Pissing about with contact to point she's now given up and you haven't seen her for 5 years!!

Giving her bad news with NO preparation and no heads up to me.

Repeatedly getting her age wrong/misspelling her name!

Forgetting her birthday.

Yea but it's me turning her against you

Sorry bit of a rant/derail but also hope it shows you you're not alone op.

I've done numerous meetings/solicitors communications/court hearings wish I hadn't bothered.

Did he bring them home OP? He sounds like a right twat. 💐

Nope I'm selfish for not turning up to something he demanded and told the child about before hand that I hadn't agreed and he has two upset kids staying overnight. I'm currently in the bath with a glass of wine.

Arsehole! enjoy your bath

He's a prick, sending lots of and you can even have a virtual hug.

Thanks kyou sat on bed crying for my kids. No email off him just yet. Not eaten. Will grab some cereals soon.

You know what? They can do with some time with their dad and he can step up and give you some free time.
They will be ok.

I know. I've not abandoned themail. I just need them . Think they will hate me

They know you haven't abandoned them. You just don't and can't bend over for every whim of his.

I'd be inclined to not let them go next time unless I had assurance from him that he returns them, though.

Oh don't worry I'm on that one already. Once the children are home information will be sending him an email . Don't know what he will be drumming into them . Feel horrid doing this

They won't have any difficulty knowing which parent is responsible for making them unhappy.

So sorry you're having to deal with this.

He's already told them I was picking them up. I havnt agreed it regardless of him going me 5 weeks notice. He wasn't expecting me not to turn up. But currently battling with guilt.

They won't have any difficulty knowing which parent is responsible for making them unhappy.

This.

for you OP. He's a cock. How could he do this to his own kids

Op, sorry you're having to go through this shit. I was just posting last night about similar shit with my own ex - so much of what you are saying rings true for me as well.
My ex claims he does not get enough time with our dd5 - he actually picks her up from school twice a week to spend the afternoon/evening with her, has her over night twice and spends a whole day on a weekend with her - and yet he has convinced himself that I somehow prevent access! He wants an entire week with her shortly but I won't allow a full week as then I won't bloody see her, but that's not something he gives a shite about.
Dd actually want a to spend a whole week with him though so that makes me feel worse, and him All Powerful.
Because I didn't accept his offer of less than half of what the CSA requested him to pay me, he says I am out to fleece him and they are useless to deal with and ignore his pleas that his earnings have been miscalculated...
I just wish he would vanish. He makes me feel absolutely worthless and hopeless.

I've talked to my gp today and after seeing evidence she wants me to go in to see how she can help me. I also need to see how this pans out before I contact other agencies too.