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I HATE being single

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nutcracker · 21/12/2006 22:03

Just hate being on my own with no one to give a toss about what sort of day I have had etc etc etc.

I know other single people who were up and about dating straight after their split and yes I know that they probably go out more than once every 3 years and so thats why they meet people but fgs, I just hate it.

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SenoraPartridge · 21/12/2006 22:06

I think I know what you mean.

so how was your day?

7swansaswimmingup · 21/12/2006 22:07

aw nutcracker its such early days for you though. i havent been out for 3 years and im determined to make more effort this coming year, even if i am knackered.im starting to miss adult friendship. cant remember what its like to go out and chat to the opposite sex!

ISawTortoiseKissingSantaClaus · 21/12/2006 22:07

Awww nutty. I know how you feel.
Its worse this time of year though.

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nutcracker · 21/12/2006 22:08

Aww thanks Senora

It wasn't too bad tbh, nothing really to report, just fed up of having no one to tell.

I just want a bit of fun in my life, forgot what it is, forgotten hoe to have an adult convo and have a laugh.

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ISawTortoiseKissingSantaClaus · 21/12/2006 22:08

I'm too scared to start a new relationship. Although what i would realy love is a big hug from a man.

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nutcracker · 21/12/2006 22:09

SNAP Tortoise, thats exactly it.

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nutcracker · 21/12/2006 22:10

I am an idiot to be crying over such a stupid thing.

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ISawTortoiseKissingSantaClaus · 21/12/2006 22:11

No your not. I typed that and posted it and have been sat here imagining the feel of a hug and a manly smell.

SenoraPartridge · 21/12/2006 22:12

I do think though that you should probably force yourself to go out. lack of adult company is depressing.

SenoraPartridge · 21/12/2006 22:13

it's not stupid.

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nutcracker · 21/12/2006 22:13

That made me give a knowing smile Tortoise as I have sat and imagined that so many times now.

Sounds so stupid but I feel so lonely it physically hurts.

I know i should be grateful for what I do have and I am, would judt be so nice to have someone for me for a change.

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ISawTortoiseKissingSantaClaus · 21/12/2006 22:14

I feel the same but my situation makes it too hard to start anything new or even go out anywhere.

JollyOldSaintNikkielas · 21/12/2006 22:16

I know exactly , I'm not as bothered about a 'relationship' but sex? a date? sex? hug? sex?

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nutcracker · 21/12/2006 22:16

I am trying but tbh no one wants me.

Chatted to friend about going out and she said yeah after xmas, but i know for a fact she is going out at new year and she knows I can get babysitter if needed, but no invite.

Mum at school is having coffee at hers tommroow for xmas, only one not invited is me, dunno why.

Oh and another friend told me she is out with friends for new year, and again doesn't include me.

I have made sure these people know that I can get babysitters if i need to but yet they still don't want me there.

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nutcracker · 21/12/2006 22:17

Yep exactly, funny cos I never though I'd miss sex, but I spose it's just the physical closeness that I miss really.

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ISawTortoiseKissingSantaClaus · 21/12/2006 22:19

It is the physical closeness.
I only have one friend and she has her DS and DP to think about.
(She recently joined MN cos i talked about it so much!!)

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nutcracker · 21/12/2006 22:21

I don't have any real friends (feel like i am going on about the same old thing now), but although I may say friend on here, what i mean is, people that I know who talk to me sometimes or who may pop in when they want something.

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SenoraPartridge · 21/12/2006 22:22

remember it's quite easy to get over-sensitive about these things. there might be a reason why you're not invited (like the instigator was one of the friends or something). and school mums are always cliquey!

but all the same maybe you need some new going-out friends. a course? anyone who doesn't usually go out who might be just as reluctant to invite herself along as you are?

Bugsy2 · 21/12/2006 22:23

Give yourself time nutcracker. Sometimes you can be with someone & they still don't give a toss about how your day went or be anything other than a dragging millstone around your neck.
I quite enjoy being single now. I sometimes crave a relationship, but I also like being my own boss too.
If you need a bit of an ego boost, how about going on a few dates through the internet?

ISawTortoiseKissingSantaClaus · 21/12/2006 22:23

oh ok. I know what you mean now.
I would be so scared to go on a night out! And tbh need to lose weight to wear decent clothes and feel confident to go out!

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nutcracker · 21/12/2006 22:25

Have sort of tried that Bugsy, but it falls flat straight away, even if the blokes have messaged me first. I reply and never hear from them again.

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JollyOldSaintNikkielas · 21/12/2006 22:26

I have 2 friends from work ,1 is married with 3 teenagers (so tends to be very busy) , 1 is single (but always expects me to go to her -15miles away- for nights out) and 1 Mummy friend I meet with the kids and we chat but we never go out without kids (she is married too)

SenoraPartridge · 21/12/2006 22:26

I know people who found real partners on the internet but they found them through interest sites rather than dating sites.

MulledWino · 21/12/2006 22:27

It's horrible to read about how lonely some of you are feeling. ((((hugs)) from a fellow Mner, for what that's worth.

Just thinking though, and wondering if it's eve sadder (or not as sad?) to feel bloody lonely and in need of a manly hug, within a marriage.

ISawTortoiseKissingSantaClaus · 21/12/2006 22:30

I'm not sure.Probably even sadder.To have a man there and no hugs would make me feel unwanted and lonely instead of just lonely.

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