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I HATE being single

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nutcracker · 21/12/2006 22:03

Just hate being on my own with no one to give a toss about what sort of day I have had etc etc etc.

I know other single people who were up and about dating straight after their split and yes I know that they probably go out more than once every 3 years and so thats why they meet people but fgs, I just hate it.

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nutcracker · 21/12/2006 22:31

You have a point, feeling lonely whilst in a relationship is far worse than feeling lonely on your own iykwim.

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Bugsy2 · 21/12/2006 22:32

Now you musn't start your opening chat with "so, when can you move in?"!!!! Only teasing, I'm sure you don't. What sites have you tried? Udate is good if you just fancy a date or two & are not looking for the next "big thing"!
Don't rush yourself though, it takes longer than you think to get over the break up of a relationship. Despite the fact that my ex-H was/is a magnificent twunt & my life with him was miserable - the break up really shook me & it is only now that I am feeling better about myself on a regular basis, with the bad days being less frequent & I've got about 2.5 years on you.
Big hugs though as it is crap when you feel down.

MulledWino · 21/12/2006 22:32

Yes. I thought as much. And wondering whether you ought in fact to be single because you couldn't possibly be more miserable on you own.

But hey.. "this too shall pass".. no horrible situation lasts forever Things will improve, however crap we might feel right now.

JollyOldSaintNikkielas · 21/12/2006 22:35

I live on a penisula and it really limits the amount of men on an internet dating site

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nutcracker · 21/12/2006 22:35

Oh well am off for my bath and my bad.

Thanks guys, can always rely on you lot to talk to me and stop me feeling so bad.

One of these days I will have something nice to tell you all.

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pinkchampagne · 21/12/2006 22:36

Aww, sorry to hear you are feeling lonely, nutty. This time of year is just the pits when you're not with someone isn't it?
It is still very early days though & I am sure you will meet someone soon.

MulledWino · 21/12/2006 22:36

It's nice just talking to you Nutty. .. you don't have to talk about something nice to be nice.

VPL · 21/12/2006 22:37

I know how you feel too. I'm single and haven't been out socially for years. On the odd occasion that I do get invited out I panic about what to wear/wonder if I'll look too fat/ugly etc. I wouldn't know what to talk about either.

I can't even remember what it's like to be touched by someone that you want to be touched by.

I do think it's worse at this time of year. Everything is so family centred and there are so many reminders of what's missing in my life.

I signed up to a free dating site a couple of nights ago, but deleted my registration the next day. I know I wouldn't have the confidence to actually meet anyone from the internet anyway, so it was a stupid thing for me to do.

MulledWino · 21/12/2006 22:39

Aren't most of those sites full of people pretending to be single so they can have cheap thrills? And sod their poor other halves. And the genuine single people they connect with.

Bugsy2 · 21/12/2006 22:42

OH, VPL big hug for you too. You don't have to go on a date dressed in anything other than your normal clothes. Chat about any old rubbish, doesn't have to be scintillating conversation. Book you last read, DVD or cinema film you've seen. Ask what their favourite meal is? What place would they most like to visit?
Go & re-register. Give yourself a chance. Just have a chat online, you don't even have to go on a date. Even that can be fun.

Bugsy2 · 21/12/2006 22:44

No, MulledWino - lots of genuine people too. Of course you get married prats who are just looking for thrills - just like you would in a bar. But the majority are fairly genuine & after using these sites for a bit you get better at sniffing out the dodgy ones.

VPL · 21/12/2006 22:46

It wouldn't surprise me if people do that mulledwino, but I don't know. It was the photo part of the profiles that put me off. There were a lot of posey/pratty shots of men in shorts, or pouting.

I had to put a pic up of myself to register (you can remove it the next day) so I put a pic of Vicky Pollard up. Surprisingly no-one cantacted me for the short time I was registered

VPL · 21/12/2006 22:49

Thanks Bugsy - I think this site might have been particularly rubbish cos it was free.

I do go in chat rooms quite a lot and have made 1 or 2 internet mates from that. One is male and absolutely lovely. I'd love to meet him but I just can't get the confidence up to do it.

JollyOldSaintNikkielas · 21/12/2006 22:50

very strange men when you look at some of the pics

VPL · 21/12/2006 22:52

Jolly. I bet even the strangest of the lot wouldn't want a date with me though.

MulledWino · 21/12/2006 22:56

Why not? Is there something hideously wrong with you?? You seem fine to me and I am smarter than any mere man!

VPL · 21/12/2006 22:58

Thank you mulledwino. I just feel very unattractive. I can't imagine any man wanting to be seen with me at the moment.

mamama · 21/12/2006 23:04

You're not an idiot & this isn't a stupid thing to be upset about. It looks like you're in good company too - I didn't realise there were so many of us.

I never realised how much a big hug from a man meant until I no longer had it. I mean, I knew I liked it but I had no idea how much I'd miss it. And the manly smell, a hand to hold, someone to ask 'how was your day? How are you?' Oh well, I'll have to make do with a clean baby to smell & DS's sticky hands to hold for now... at least I have that.

ISawTortoiseKissingSantaClaus · 21/12/2006 23:09

Its good to know we are not alone feeling like this. i thought i was daft thinking about manly hugs/smells etc.
A hug right now would just be so nice.

MulledWino · 21/12/2006 23:15

Don't forget that "manly smells" include they way they often bloody well STINK!

ISawTortoiseKissingSantaClaus · 21/12/2006 23:16

I was think more of a nice deodorant smell!

JollyOldSaintNikkielas · 22/12/2006 00:20

I was starting to worry about the man smell!

ISawTortoiseKissingSantaClaus · 22/12/2006 22:09

Feeling very lonely tonight.

theheadlessreindeer · 22/12/2006 22:29

Hi everyone, just reading through all this and its REALLY striking a chord. Been separated 3 years, and just sorting out a divorce and I need to get myself a life!! I have a friend who separated from her ex AFTER me and got into internet dating, met someone and only went and bloody married them last month!!! It makes me feel so inadequate.

VPL · 22/12/2006 22:48

Sorry to hear that tortoise.

Reindeer - that's queue jumping. Not on at all - lol