im so broke..i ran out of food today.

[penniless]

and i cant afford to buy anymore
im a regular but ive changed my name because im a proud person.
my dh walked out on me a year agoalthough he hangs around a lot still..he pays maintenance which takes me over the is threshold. so i only get tax creditsbut when we were together i took out a loan..a few years ago when i was earning and now im left with the payments to manage..ive just registered as self employed but im not getting any worki spent a lot of money getting my business up and running now im not getting any return im 500 pounds overdrawn at the banki cant stay afloat anymoreive no money for christmas prersents, no money for anything, the fridge is empty, i cant put petrol in the car,o told my mum today because id got so desperate but she wasnt interested, im so unhappy, how the hell did i end up like this, i dont want sympathy, just wanted to posdt it and get it off my chest

PelvicDoor have you seen soapbox's thread?

It's here

That's brilliant, hanks Idris. So so grateful to Soapbox. Will get on to it straight away.

Soapbox - have you asked MN to highlight this on their homepage/newsletters?

pixie thanks for your e'mail. money sent through paypal. (let me know if you dont get it...paypal virgin!) Are we going to make this a regular thing to see 'penniless' through xmas?
'penniless' i hope your ok this morning and feeling a bit better. love to you and your dc. was thinking about you all x

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i wake up every morning with that sick feeling in my stomach, you get im sure people know what i mean, but at least today i knew that a food shop was coming later.
ive had to start walking my ds to school and its a 3 mile round trip, not a lot to most people but i have a disability which means i avoid walking long distances as much as possible, so its probably done me good, cars run out of petrol, but on the bright side i might loose some weight!

i know that 'sick feeling'. please dont make yourself ill by walking too far. hopefully cash with you soon so put that petrol in!!! . my e'mails on this thread so if you want to rant in private at anytime im here ok? xx

thanks

Poor you.
I suppose you can't say what the business was you set up but if you did we might be able to help you get more work from it.

If you have teenagers can they do some babysitting to contribute money to the home.

Could two children share a room or they all share with you and you let a room out at home?

Could you take on evening work whatever it might have to be in a pub or cleaning or whatever whilst the teenager babysits? Mine do that when necessary. My sister did house cleaning and also computer cleaning in offices for a time which was useful income for her then.

sorry, didn't read the bit about the disability which probably does rule out some of my suggestions.

i'm happy to pop a small (sorry, a bit skint too) amount into the pot, every little helps and all that. however i do think that Xenia's point about the teens helping is a good one, if they are of an age to do babysitting that is a good way of making money. i used to work for a family after school every night, the (single) mum was a music teacher and taught at home so she needed someone to wrangle the children's tea and get them bathed and bedded every night before she went up to do kiss them goodnight. my folks didn't have to give me a penny for clothes or travel or going out, which i loved, and if they'd have been strapped i'd have chipped in easily.

thinking about it, there must be a lot of people who need that early evening slot filled every day. i also used to help out a mum with bed, bath and story routine before her husband came home...

my point is that babysitting needn't be as ad hoc as it sounds, and even at a low wage it does rack up while giving practice in cooking good family meals and dealing with children, which stood me in good stead for when i went to university and also allowed me to au pair abroad in the summer time.

Amanda1 have you nominated yourself on soapbox thread yet?

Don't feel bad about it.

Nominate yourself and your daughter.

Penniless i really hope you're feeling a bit more positive today.

Are you ready to make the spag bol??

Hopefully we can all make christmas a much nicer time for you and your family.

Have you been on the phone tothe benefit agency yet?

Get all the forms sent to you and fill them out a.s.a.p.

Apply for everything and they'll let you know what you can and can't get.

Don't mention any money you may get from here as they'll count that as well!!!!!

Good luck and here's to a positive few weeks ahead.

Take care. xxx

ellesbells- will check with YG tonight- thanks for that.

im really sorry to read this, and im even more sorry I cant help, but I am in the same boat. My dad has had to buy us food for 3 weeks of this month because we are so skint.

We have £18 in the bank, and will get £18 t/c tomorrow and thats it til next week.

Not easy when you have little ones who need fed and nappies etc. Milk and bread is costing us a fortune week in week out.

YorkieGirl, have send donation via paypal but I am new to this (paypal) so please let me know if it reaches you OK! Thanks.

oi jarm

jarm..im so sorry, thank goodness your dad has helped you..
it was never my intention to get people offering help, i just wanted to tell someone..anyone, thats why i changed my name, even my closest friends have no idea..
i tried ringing my hv visitor today but had to leave a message, she hasnt got back to me yet

hi penniless so glad you are getting some help on here bless lovely mumsnetters

I'm in the same boat as well so can't really help sorry, each month I have to put shopping on the credit card and it's just going up and up with no end in sight it's so bloody hard isn't it?

Hang on in there I keep saying "it's going to get better"

penniless {{{{{hugs}}}}}

i wish i could help but i'm not much better off at the minute mysef. it's exhausting isn't it? i hope you get stuff sorted soon, there must be some extra benefit you're entitled to surely?

i wish there was somehthing more i could do

soapbox if there aren't enough gifts to go around we can survive without one for dd, she's little enough not to know, make sure penniless has priority over us please.

There is plenty to go round - please don't worry!

What is becoming clear is that there may be a place for a longer term MN fund! I need to talk to MN about it though - as it would need to be properly registered as a charity and that might have implications for MN as a whole, as well as on finding trustees etc.

Let me get the Christmas Appeal out of the way first and then I will start the ball rolling on consulting over how a wider fund might be activated and administered

If it is any comfort - all of those who have posted on this thread as being short of cash - were either already nominated by others or had self nominated! It is clear that MN as a community does have a handle on those who are in need - and those people have been brought to my attention (even if the recipients themselves were unaware of that)!

Please please please dont try and take on too much Soapy. What you have done for the xmas appeal is fantastic, and we all really appreciate it.

I didnt mean to turn this into anything, I was just saying that if I could have helped another MNer I would, but right now things are too tight for us.

Im so proud of MN right now, there really is a sense of community, which when you have few or no RL friends, is an absolute god-send.

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YG - I too have just paypalled you some cash for penniless. Hope you get it OK.

Penniless - hope things turn around for you very soon xxxx

See "soapbox" - Christmas thread

Important thread - please read - EVERYONE**}

Hope you didn't mind me doing this soapbox.

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