im so broke..i ran out of food today.

[penniless]

and i cant afford to buy anymore
im a regular but ive changed my name because im a proud person.
my dh walked out on me a year agoalthough he hangs around a lot still..he pays maintenance which takes me over the is threshold. so i only get tax creditsbut when we were together i took out a loan..a few years ago when i was earning and now im left with the payments to manage..ive just registered as self employed but im not getting any worki spent a lot of money getting my business up and running now im not getting any return im 500 pounds overdrawn at the banki cant stay afloat anymoreive no money for christmas prersents, no money for anything, the fridge is empty, i cant put petrol in the car,o told my mum today because id got so desperate but she wasnt interested, im so unhappy, how the hell did i end up like this, i dont want sympathy, just wanted to posdt it and get it off my chest

Thank you Yorkiegirl. Can you think of any further help we can be to penniless at the moment? I am not interested in knowing her other mn name, just want to ease the burden abit!

my computer is so slow it was not showing loads of messages I am so glad it is sorted, what a lovely lot of people you are. I can go to bed now

i wont take anyones money..but when the food shopping runs out, im back to square one, god this feels crap

How about this - I send a cheque to YG for the next Tesco shop, once this one runs out, then someone else sends a cheque for the one after that?

Then YG is still the only one who knows you, and you won't go short.

Penniless hopefully Yorkie has given you at least a bit of time to breath (well done YG)

please speak to someone about getting somemore long term help. either back at the CAB, your lone parent adviser, Gingerbread, your HV is always a good place to start and if you feel you could manage it social services.

please let YG's kindness show you that asking for help is a good thing.
there is no shame in needing a bit of support, emotionally OR financially

Glad Yorkiegirl sorted you out with a shop, penniless. Please let me know if I can do anything to help. Don't want to put my email addy on here as it's a work one, but please CAT me if there's anything I can do. (I live near(-ish) to Yorkiegirl, if that's any help... Don't know if you are local or not... and obviously don't expect you to say on here... just so's you know.)

Right, I have got 'penniless' to agree to accept financial help if anyone wants to give it.

I need to work out how to do this now.

It would also really help if anyone can advise which benefits she 'might' get. SHe has more than 3 kids and gets hardly any benefits.

CAB were hopeless. Please just tell me what benefits there are and she can apply forthem and see if she gets them

if anyone wants to email yg..then thats fine, i wont post my email addy on here because it would give away who i was.
im touched by everyones kindness..and by yg's, shes got me out of a hole
i will contact my hv tomorrow..ive been told i might be able to apply for dla

Income support, CTC, housing benifit, council tax benifit. DLA (if possible) DLA is a gteway benifit and CTC will top up payments.

fab site for working out benifits

we're setting up a paypal account for anyone who has offered to donate money. No one is under any pressure to help it's just that several people have offered and I managed to persuade her that it was time to swallow her pride and accept help

Penniless I dont know you or your other mn name (mainly because I have a rubbish memory ) but I can tell you are a proud person. I also believe that you wouldnt have come on her if it wasnt out of worry for your DC.
I have 4 children (ages 6 -11) If I can help out with a pressie or next weeks food shop I would be happy to do so, no strings. If its not a new toy can I send you one of ours that hasnt been used alot, a game (for example I have an unopened set of vehicle puzzles(ages 3-5), a babyliss hair wrap thingy(unused-duplicate pressie, i have some wooden train track used but in excellent condition)If you feel you would like any of the above just say the word.
I wont post again, not because I dont care but because I dont want you to feel I am badgering you. Take care.

or if anyone wants to send a cheque they can email me for my addy and send a cheque to me.

My email is [email protected] dot uk

pixiefish. let me know how you want to do it and ill help out with future stuff.(my e'mails on this thread) penniless i hope you sleep well tonight and enjoy your spag bol tomorrow!! god you lot are great!!xx

wow everyone is so kind.I wish i could help you out.
Enjoy your spag bol tommorow night.

For those of us new to paypal how do we pay money through it to you, please explain. Do we use an email address? if so which one?

Can't sort the paypal out. It'll take days to set up and verify a new account. You can email me or soapy or yorkiegirl and we'll collect the dosh and forward it on to 'penniless'

Right sorted.

Yorkiegirl is going to collect the money and give it to 'penniless'

Paypal the money to her at:

anna at theheads dot net

For those of you new to paypal paypal here- you cna register and send money from here

thanks sparkly, will look on there.

Can pixie or yorkie CAT me please?

I know what this situation is like, and wishing to help someone else avoid it. Thanks.

penniless It really doesn't matter who you are, but can any of us help with xmas pressies for the kids?
What ages are they?
Also, if you can claim DLA try for incapacity as well.
I know both can be received at the same time.

Keep strong and things will fall into place.

It's true that a problem shared is a problem halved.

Just think how many MN's can help!!!!!!

Keep strong and take care. xxxx

Yorkiegirl have just sent a payment via paypal, hope you got it ok?
If not let me know and i'll resend it.

thanks fussymummy. Don't know if YG got it but I'm sure she'll check on here later. Prego. My email is thepixiefish at yahoo dot co dot uk if you could email me please.

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I'm sitting at home with a whole heap of new gifts for my 3YO boy which I won't use because we are lucky enough to get spoiled rotten by our families and I refuse to just hand over all the stuff he is given and turn him into a spolied brat. Because they are gifts I wouldn't dream of selling them on ebay. I had planned to pass them over to the charity shop or something. I would much much rather give them to someone on MN who needs them.

Am I the only person on MN with unused stuff kicking around in cupboards?

And am I the only person who would feel privaleged to go out and buy a present this year for someone who needs it, on behalf of an MNer who can't afford it?

Reading posts like this really makes me cry as I feel so guilty. I give money to charity, but with a full-time job and a new baby and a part-time degree to keep on top of, I don't have the time to get involved in helping out on a more personal level.

Is there something someone on MN can suggest that could help people like me pass presents on to other MN'ers like Penniless this year? It's not charity when it relieves the guilt I feel about being so fortunate. I will mail yorkiegirl to see if my presents would be suitable for Penniless, but in the meantime wondered if there was anything we could maybe do on a more general level for others.. I'm not an old-timer on MN so have no idea if there are any xmas parcel schemes like this in operation or not...

Apologies if aything I have said here comes across as patronising or insulting to anyone on low income.