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lone parents housework / keep fit / healthy eating thread

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meglet · 30/12/2014 18:59

We can only do the best we can. No point in going on housework threads if you're a working LP who never has a break from the kids. Or if you're a SAHM LP with small kids who can't get to the gym.

So, a thread for us to start the New Year with good intentions and to juggle it around everything else we have to do Smile.

  • I banned Minecraft today and tomorrow after some shocking behaviour (kicking each other in the supermarket) the dc's had a burst of enthusiasm, dysoning and tidying up to get back in my good books.
  • I have managed to get out for a few runs over Xmas. We stayed with my mum for a couple of days so I went out then.

Here's to a positive start to 2015.

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fattymcChocolateEgg · 04/04/2015 19:58

my ex is a funny cunt. he does the whole "I want to be there" then threatens me with ss because I can't do as much housework as I would like thanks to spd Hmm

Goodbetterbest · 04/04/2015 20:28

They all are I think. XH came round to see the kids, took himself round the house to see what I had changed, had a go at me for playing music and left having put me in a bad mood.

I am heartened by you using cunt. It makes me feel welcome. Grin

fattymcChocolateEgg · 04/04/2015 20:34

Grin everyone is welcome here, except the bunch of cunts that call themselves fathers to our children (or mothers if there's any dads on here that ive overlooked)

fattymcChocolateEgg · 04/04/2015 20:35

and if you like a good old swear bring yourself over to sweary fred. Wink

BlackeyedSusan · 04/04/2015 22:30

can't possibly comment on the ex Easter Wink but he is still here pissing me off and his keys are at the police station.

on the plus side, I have been cleaning the bombay mix of bits off the living room carpet and have packed away loads of stuff. the children have got rid of five carrier bags of stuff, sonow ex is going to be challenged to do the same. the first thing he said was have I got rid of that much? definitely. though i did mine years ago.

fattymcChocolateEgg · 04/04/2015 22:42

wow! well done susan and kids Easter Grin
not so well done susans ex

Teaching123 · 05/04/2015 12:30

About to make myself a mini roast dinner as DD is with her dad. Is that too tragic?! I'm doing one anyway!!

Teaching123 · 05/04/2015 12:31

Oh & Happy Easter to my fellow lone parents with cunty ex's.

fattymcChocolateEgg · 05/04/2015 12:32

ah go for it! everyone loves a roast!
happy easter everyone Easter Grin

BlackeyedSusan · 05/04/2015 23:04

hope you enjoyed your roast teaching. roasts are lovely heated up the next day too. and the day after

the ex has left until tomorrow morning. got in touch with his landlord and arranged to be let in. (alle-fucking-luia) I can now pee sitting down with out sitting in pee. two bloody nights. turned up after the children were in bed on friday night expecting to stay... without his keys to his landlords house...without first ascertaining whether he could get in there or whether it would be ok for him to stay here. then had the hump as I refused to clear up to get the sofa bed out, or let him do it as he has broken childrens toys before by piling everything up.

he was supposed to make arrangements to get into his landlords house yesterday but did not do it so I had him an extra night. without him asking.

he has made far more extra pots than he washed up. I have an abandoned plate with chewed melon in the middle of the living room floor.

I asked "can you put the playdough away before it dries up?" and got asked how.

he helped tidy up but the process went,
he picks something up, asks where does this go? I stop doing what I am doing and look at what it is then expalin where it goes. this is negative help as it takes fecking longer and more fecking annoying.

BlackeyedSusan · 05/04/2015 23:05

apparently he can not tidy the dolls cot up properly as he is not a girl.

fattymcChocolateEgg · 05/04/2015 23:14

wtf? wow! what an excuse! does that mean we dont have to tidy any of our DS' s toys away?

Goodbetterbest · 06/04/2015 12:04

Can I ask you for some advice please? How do you cope sustaining a relationship with your X's.

I really can't stand the sight of mine, and although it's early days, I feel like I'm stood at the bottom of a massive mountain I don't want to climb.

We don't have any specific child are arrangements: we stayed in family home and he moved to a 2 bed place (he refused to get a 3 bed even though we have 4 kids). He isn't planning on having all the kids any of the time. If I want to go out, he comes here to look after them. If I want to stay out all night, he will have to stay over. I've only done it once and he bolted the door so I couldn't sneak in.

He works away every Friday night so weekends are restricted already, then there's all the weekend activities - and I don't suddenly want to be shipping the kids off to the ILs so I can go out - it's not something that we've ever done.

It feels like he is still controlling me and I can't see a way around it.

BlackeyedSusan · 06/04/2015 13:23

I supervise contact for mine. and can only manage him in small doses. unfortunatley, I had a large dose over theweekend. he is supposed to be here now but is getting his room at his landlords ready for landlords small grandchild to sleep in. he is then buying milk for the dc before coming here. he than has to leave to get his keys from the police station.

out of the four days he could have had he will end up having two. which is great for my stress levels. it is best when he comes for a bit over a couple of days.

BlackeyedSusan · 06/04/2015 19:01

hot and bothered. been tidying the livingroom floor. we are geting there is all I can say though it is a lot better than it was.

BlackeyedSusan · 06/04/2015 22:00

he has gone. took him an hour and a half to make toasted sandwiches for lunch yesterday and nearly an hour to make beans on toast for four people.

BlackeyedSusan · 06/04/2015 22:16

there is still a lot of things on the floor, but the spaces between the things are a lot cleaner and are considerably bigger than when i started yesterday. I am going to keep pottering with this and that between mning for hte next hour.

BlackeyedSusan · 06/04/2015 23:36

ok just spent another hour sweeping the floor and

da da... I have put the christmas decorations away! (the christmas tree is still out in its box though. Easter Blush

fattymcfatfat · 08/04/2015 17:41

yay! I have a new phone as I kind of broke mine Blush

Teaching123 · 08/04/2015 18:45

Got my MOT bill today. £500!!! Shock - the man in the garage saw me attempting to not cry & said he'd fix it all by Saturday for me & I could split the payment over 3 months because he didn't want me driving about in it with DD & being pregnant.

Nice when someone is genuinely kind and lovely isn't it. Gives you a bit of faith.

BlackeyedSusan · 08/04/2015 18:51

nice to have you back fmff. thought I was talking to myself rather a lot then!

shame about the cost Sad but at least they are letting you spread the payments.

fattymcfatfat · 08/04/2015 19:05

that is nice of them
no not talking to yourself! I won'tabandon you just yet Grin

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meglet · 08/04/2015 22:27

ah teaching bloody cars Sad . at least they've let you spread the cost.

I cleaned my sink and shined it yesterday. work today and tomorrow so the house will go to rack and ruin until Friday. been a to the allotment a lot, I take a picnic lunch for the dc's so I can catch some rays while I potter.

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BlackeyedSusan · 08/04/2015 22:40

sounds fabulous meg.

i cleaned the sink and washed up. and erm, made it mucky with the washing up water and cooked so back to square one!

I have made progress on the living room. more needs doing but hey, any progres is good, and it look less like an immediate concern to social services.. Grin

fattymcfatfat · 08/04/2015 23:03

I have just fought my way through the mountain of clothes into bed. really should put them away