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YEY! I am a single parent family - lets celebrate, first round on me.

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redstar · 04/10/2006 21:15

I am very happy to officially announce my arrival as a single mother of two!
Most of my family and friends are wringing their hands and wondering why I am not on the floor wimpering. Me? I feel freedom coming at last, not bothered that he has buggered off with a woman from work - she is welcome to the miserable sod. My kids seem quite happy with the situation...so mines a bacardi and coke.

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lou33 · 04/10/2006 21:17

i'll drink to that!

nutcracker · 04/10/2006 21:18

Good for you, wish it was me.

MoreTeaAnyone · 04/10/2006 21:20

Congratulations, enjoy your new found freedom.

messyoldmess · 04/10/2006 21:22

Good for you! What a very positive attitude!
Enjoy your freedom

HappyMumof2 · 04/10/2006 21:23

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notasheep · 04/10/2006 21:29

So many happy positive days for you well done

QuootieSpookypie · 04/10/2006 21:30

Congratulations! Might join you soon xx

megandsoph · 04/10/2006 21:32

YEY for you!!! I felt the same as you redstar & actually a relief too.

Welcome to the club hun x

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redstar · 04/10/2006 21:51

Thank you everyone!
All I have had from people I tell so far are looks of pity and 'how will you cope on your own?' Absolutly fine thank you.
I know I'm lucky, he's moved out and happy to help support me and kids, money will be tight but it can be done, I can work freelance to fit round kids and I have good friends, family and neighbours to help me.
I know there will be some moments when being alone will be hard but at the moment I just feel like I've got a second chance.

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makemineadouble · 04/10/2006 21:51

I'll buy you a very large one! same story 16 years ago!!! best thing ever happened to me ...

mummymic · 04/10/2006 22:15

hi guys - congratulations it sure is better being a happy single parent than being one half of a pair and being soooo bloody miserable!!
i am a 2nd time single mum of 3 - not what i had planned for my life, but hey! i have my babies and love them to pieces - v selfish cos it means i get 99% of all the kisses and cuddles [ grin] but also 99% of the bad bits too
good luck...and enjoy your babies x

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QueenEvil · 04/10/2006 22:18

redstar - bottoms up! I spent 5 very happy years as a single parent before I met dh2. I was delighted too to be on my own without a miserable sod and no hoper father to my 3 kids.

Enjoy whatever time you have as a single parent - with an attitude like yours, some lovely man will want to snap you up in no time!

AllieBongo · 04/10/2006 22:18

i raise my glass to you (could i have diet coke please?) One happy, loving parent is better than 2 miserable ones

rosie79 · 04/10/2006 22:28

Completley agree!

I too love being a single parent and find it much easier than being part of a miserable couple!

I especially like the freedom ds and I have to do whatever we want without fitting it around another person too. I don't like it when I get sympathetic looks from other people, I'm happy in my situation, glad others are too! We rock

AllieBongo · 04/10/2006 22:34

i'm not a single mum. Think you're v strong

makemineadouble · 04/10/2006 22:43

"First I was alone, I was petrified just thinking I could not live without you by my side..............."........

KoshkaTheFriendlyGhost · 06/10/2006 12:07

thanks redstar you make me feel better! very positive and good role model-type thing (cant think of the right words!)

bluejelly · 06/10/2006 12:11

Cheers from me too. There are hard times ahead of course but stacks of good times too, and I can't think of a better era to be a single parent in than now
Even 20 yrs ago it was much tougher
50 years ago, forget it.

sereneno · 06/10/2006 20:14

Hi im new to mumsnet, been a lurker for ages but your thread has prompted me to pluck up the courage to post! Great attitude! im a single mum of 2 - my chap (im too old to have a boyfriend) keeps asking me to move in with him but i love my independence too much and love my time alone with ds and dd. It was a lot harder 12 yrs ago though, i was made to feel like the underneath of the underclass. Mines a double!

lou33 · 06/10/2006 20:35

welcome to mn

runkid · 06/10/2006 20:43

Make mine a pint

Emskilou · 06/10/2006 20:51

Yay! so glad you are happy, I'm a single mum to 2 beautiful little babies and the happiest I have been in a long time, its my wedding anniversary on Sunday and I havent seen the cock sucking cowboy for 15 months neither has our daughter and he hasn't met our son yet!! and I'm glad of it!

Ooooh sorry to lower the tone with my bad language but there are no polite words to describe the pathetic excuse of and ex husband really!! Oooh I'll have a lovely glass of wine for starters

brightwell · 06/10/2006 21:10

Ooooh Emskilou CSC lol!! I'm a single parent to dd12 & ds8 and have been for 7 years. At times it's unbearably hard, no real disposible income, not enough hours in the day etc, but I know I'm doing a good job and I have 2 beautiful well adjusted children. IMO! Redstar onwards & upwards, mines a voka & tonic.