AIBU yes I probably am. Who is mumsnet for?

[bluebeardsbabe]

I am a lone parent to a small toddler. I found this forum very useful during my pregnancy (when exp left) for legal information, handholding etc. I mainly lurk now but still dip in from time to time...which is how I noticed how many more dads seem to be posting here now. Now although my exp was a complete vile bastard to me so much so that I still have a hard time trusting men, I fully appreciate that there is good and bad in both sexes and men also need a forum to express emotions relating to single parenting and so on. it's just I'm not sure I feel it's here.

I joined mumsnet specifically to find a nurturing informative environment by women for women, a safe haven to express my emotions. Is it wrong of me to think dads should go off and form dadsnet? I realise my judgement is probably quite clouded like I say but AIBU to think mumsnet should be for mums?

What TheFabulousIdiot said x100

OP I hope if you stay you will get some excellent advice and support and you can slowly work through the trust issues you inevitably have. But no, I think if you are so vulnerable that you cannot take what some posters say with a hefty pinch of salt, or that you cannot walk away from those who are more concerned with furthering their own agenda than supporting another poster who is obviously struggling then I think MN is not for you at this point.

3chips - your most recent post makes you sound a little like an over-excited child which I suspect is not the image you're trying to get across.

TheFabulousIdiot,

That's not just men though. We have seen on MN recently, women coming on here just to stir trouble by pretending to have lost a child in very tragic circumstances. I made the assumption that it was one poor soul who was mentally disturbed but apparently not. Apparently, there are is all too frequent trolling of this nature but bored women looking for a rise. It doesn't make me for one minute view other women as potential nasty creatures just because clearly some are. Likewise the acts perpetrated by a small minority of men doesn't make me concerned about men in general.

If you want for women by women,you'll not find it here,look elsewhere
Mnhq clarified this recently on feminism topics,it's a site for male and female
Google and you'll undoubtedly find a site for wimmin

"I find the male input really useful at times" magicballs p1

I mainly find it annoying - but banning men would be impractical and possibly illegal?

Mostly they're harmless enough

Utter rot,frankly a lot of people (male and female) talk a variable degree of keech.
On what basis do you establish if poster male,unless they disclose it of course
There's no sisterhood,just folks posting,and one can agree/disagree with male and female

Agree with juggling, l have rarely read a post on here and thought "thank gawd; a man's point of view."

Um, quite the opposite, as if it needs saying....

I've never read a thread and thought,thank god.woman point view
I still don't see how you'd know unless prefix post with I'm a man...
There used to be some v strident posters on fem topics who thought nae men on mn

Like scottishm I wouldn't know a male from a female from the posts I read. But then that's possibly reflective of the kind of threads I post on. But on this one for example... I couldn't tell you which of the posters are male/female just from their views. Women can have just as idiotic a view as a man even about issues just as domestic violence so coralling the men into a separate pen really wouldn't serve any purpose.

how sad = how passive aggressive

Who exactly are you addressing that to? Why people?

I'd prefer just to ban people people based on them saying things that annoy me but as I'm not King (or Queen) of this particular castle thats not my choice.

And what annoys me can be a bit unpredictable so it might be a bit hard to enforce.

I think if you regularly post in this particular section, you soon recognise a particular writing style from the male posters. The advice they offer is typical as well.

In the other sections, I never know unless they say or they do a particularly mansplaining post.

And I think if one cannot tolerate male opinion,that's their particular issue
No poster needs to be reticent on basis gender
If someone doesn't like male posts,tough

people are dismissive of others opinions all the time. I don't find it particularly sad. If I was male I would find it bloody irritating though as I do when womens opinions are dismissed. Which also happens all the time.

I'm v fair.I will be dismissive of female and male opinion that warrants It

Equal opportunity dismissiveness

Yep,no preferential treatment by gender,I'll happily tell male or female what I think
As do most mn,to be honest

OP I completely agree with you. I don't like the input from the obvious male posters. I get enough of men's opinions in real life.

And why on earth do they want to read and post on 'mumsnet?' The average busy fulfilled man just wouldn't.

My views are slightly tainted (but not completely) by the thread my exp posted about me which had to be deleted.

And that bloke on the dating thread is awful but he seems to have women posters fawning all over him like he is god.

Maybe that's what I don't like, the way some women jump up and take notice when a male posts and tells them how refreshing it is to have a viewpoint other than LTB.

You misunderstand premise of site,it's online chat forum.not muthas club
If you find online social rapport with men undesireable,that's your issue
It's not a site issue,it's been clarified repeatedly all welcome to post

The average busy fulfilled man just wouldn't.

Jesus CHrist on a bike, you really think that?! So we women who post are more easily amused by girly stuff which doesn't clutter up our little heads too much but busy fulfilled men couldn't possibly want to discuss parenting issues, relationships, adoption, current affairs, bereavement etc - why not? Because that's womens work?!

Time for me to take a real life break I think!