Facing pregnancy alone?

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There seem to be quite a few threads lately posted by women facing pregnancy alone for whatever reason. I was thinking maybe it would be a good idea to have one ongoing thread for support and advice...what do you think? I know it would have helped me way back when I had dd? (apologies if there is already one, I haven't come across it).

I see the MW on wednesday i dont want to see her either.

My ex lives 1 min walk away from my house and i dont want to go out cos if i see him id fucking hit him. Thats not even the hormones raging yet lol!

I dont go out because his mumm threatend to stab the baby out my womb when i refused to abort it.

They are very soft and fuffly!! Cute things.

I am going to stay with my mum and dad they have a 4bed (im 19 too).

Ralph has everything pram cot moses car seat etc. Going nappy shopping on tuesday and is getting excited is that normal!? lol

I live in dorset seaside! Where do you live??

They sound vile! My ex inlaws are vile too! You should be proud of yourself! I hated seeing my mw but you need to tell her how you feel. I'm on anti depressants, they make me feel more relaxed!
As you can see from this thread I have very wobbly days.
I have all my baby things now and it's very exciting but surreal. I get a bit upset when I see bits with 'daddy' on but it takes more of a man than a twunt to be a daddy!
I like the name Ralph, glad your parents are taking care of you.
Mine have been great but as I'm 23 and lived 2 hours away before they can be a bit
Much. (dad thinks I'm 5!) but they mean well. They forget I lost my job, my little family, my home. home cooked food is the best though.
Do you work? I did but took early maternity, planning to do college and uni now though and retrain.

Im in Sussex xx

She is evil. I get the last laugh, hes a mummy boy and she will never hold or see the baby after them threats.

Hes 25 and its his first child and he earna over 30k and hasnt bought the baby anything and when i confronted him he kicked off saying its my fault.

He runs back and tells his friends and i dont agree with him. So he blocked me on facebook. I laughed.

It dont matter about him i have 4 brothers! Im the only girl and 2 are bouncers and ones a boxer so i dont think he would dare come up to me... i like it that way makes me feel safe and my baby!!

What are you having??

I am a hairdresser i gave it up though because of my muscles that was at 15w.

Do feel quite shit i did a college course and left because he told me to doing animal care, working with cows sheep and all kinds of animals before i got pregnant i should of stayed on big mistake!

Least ive got something to look forward too!

Pickles and Xmaseve just remember that it is NEVER TOO LATE to do the education thing. I've been at Uni quite recently and have been in a class with 17 year olds and 53 year olds; on the same course.

I'm not in the same position but do struggle with babycare. Not sure how it's going to pan out for the forthcoming course I have just been accepted onto, but I'll get there.

There are always ways and means, they are just not always what you thought or expected.
Whenever life has dealt me a kicking, I've found that something else unexpected has come along and made good of it. I didn't always realise that at the time, but when I look back, I can see so many opportunities that I've been able to take, which had circumstances been different, would have passed me by.

Xmas do you have some support network in place for after your C-Sec? I overdid it a bit after mine and ended up taking quite a long time to recover. So make sure you have people around who can help you with things like shopping, driving, lifting, etc.

Yeah i live with my mum and dad so they will help me i like doing thing by myself so ill try my best!!

Dad drives and i just eat what i fancy or whats on the frigde or freezer!!

Exactly, being pregnant has opened up my eyes to the fact I have not been living life to the full.
notgeoff is being modest there- Shes just been accepted onto her masters so she should be very proud of herself!

skye does fantastically well too! She's shown me life can be rebuilt. The past is the past but the future will be better.

Im having a girl

Glad you have a good family, my ex has nothing for our dd, he is in denial. I only found out how pregnant I as at 21 weeks too.

gosh ladies, how positive am I today

The pooch is taking me for a beach walk now, so will be back later. Xx

I second Geoff about the education. I didnt go to college or uni as my parents couldnt afford it and I went on a Youth Training Scheme with a view to getting a job at the end of it. I worked in a bank and a building society, then I ended up working for an accountant and getting an NVQ4, which is equivalent to a degree in accountancy.

I was about 29 at the time. So it is never too late to learn. Dont rush into anything too soon, as baby will keep you busy! But start thinking of things that you would really like to do and research them.

The Surestart centres usually offer courses in Numeracy and Literacy. Our local one did courses that gave you a City and Guilds qualification that was equal to a grade C GSCE. I had already passed them at that level at school, but it was nice to refresh the brain matter and get out and mix with other mums. Childcare was provided and I really enjoyed the courses.

I think DD wants to be a boxer. She keeps slapping us around the face/head and is very rough with the poor cat :(

Then again, she's pretty bright - keeps trying to learn new words and is also trying to jump. I suspect she'll keep me on my toes whilst I try to get coursework done.

Do you have name for her??

She could be a supermodel instead :)

Bet you was shocked when you found out!!

Have fun.

I did want to join the navy before i met him, i was inroled and was ready to leave to train to be a nurse i left :(

Cant do that now because i have a son on the way!!

I will go back hairdressing i did enjoy it but its not my 'dream' job.

Shame really, Ex is alright hes a tech for vauxhall and is high up..Idoit though think its gone to his head lol...

I was very shocked. I have a few nothing concrete.
You could still do nurse training? Do a access course and then uni?

I was shocked and i kind of new i was gone of bacon and that was it... Ooo when are you due??

I want to but i dont want to be away from my boy :(.

Dont regret anything because ive got a little boy on the way but i think sometimes what if?

There is a uni near me that does it but i am looking forward to the future so much!!

I'm due late sept.
Oh yes I think everyday oh fuck! I had a
Massive wobble last night, so I posted on this thread as you can see below.
I'm excited but more terrified. I like control and it's hard not having total control

You dont have that long left!

I think its worse when your pregnant everything seems 100x worse?

Sure you will be fine ive never changed a nappy ever!!

I just worried about him weeing on me when i change his nappy lol...

7 weeks now seems a lifetime very uncomfortable.
I'm very excited but then scared too. I'm very worried how exp and his folks will react x

Oh id be so nervous! Sure you will be fine and lots of tears maybe when shes born!

His mum and dad can f off! Sons a bloody idoit leaving a pregnant women.

Ive said to my mum if my son did this to women id disown him.

Its messed up how men think, do they have any brain cells?

They think with the willy not the head lol

I was 36 when I had my DD and I was scared stupid. the hospital didnt show me how to change a nappy, or bath her or anything! me and STBHX drove home very slowly from the hospital and kept stopping to make sure she was ok, brought her home, put the carseat on the floor and said "what now?" LOL.

But we must have done ok as she's made it to 4 . Now I think its a shame he didnt fuck off earlier. She was a real daddy's girl, she loves him to bits. I think I would rather he had never been around so she wouldnt know what she was missing, whereas she has had a taste of family life and family holidays and its difficult to explain why he doesn't come on holiday any more etc.

Lol oh I know that it's hard the head knows the truth. The heart says different.
Shame on his parents, they wrote to me, they never told their son to do the right thing. We were together 18 months.
We're you together long?

Aww skye I'm sure you mean a lot more to her. Wait til she understands and is older

My head said go around and burst his tires lol.. im not like that but its a big shame because his sister has 4 boys and one girl.

They will never no, he hasnt even told did his dad!!

He was my first love, together 8 months moved in after 3 months and it all went wrong from there.

Thats a long time you must feel even more hurt than myself hugs!!!!

I do think the baby will look like him, it would make me upset if so, but i can live with it.

Ive got very bright blue eyes but his features over mine if you no what i mean?

If i had a girl i was going to call her Desiree for 'much desired'

Bet you been dress shopping for her :)

What dog do you have too?!

I love jack russells, scottish terriers!

I panick about things like that too. The fact he hasn't told his dad speaks volumes!
He's a parsons terrier, (long haired JR)

He will find out sooner than later. I messaged his dad over facebook because i though he deserved to no.

Do you get on with them or not?

You and your ex talk?

Oh :( they are cute all scruffy!!

Ah wonder what he will say...

No not really I've tried to talk. But he didn't even wish me happy birthday. Said he bought me a card but didn't send it as friends wish each other happy birthday and he really can't call me a friend. He knew that would upset me. So I try to leave him alone.
I loved his parents, but they wanted me to abort I think and sent me a letter back to one I wrote, stating all about their precious son

I wont let any of his family see our son because of they ways he treated me through the pregnancy. Looks like he will have to take to me court for PR, still going to go after for him for CSA!!

Oh :( He sounds like hes playing with your head and heart big hugs!!!!

He seems a loser you are better of without him.

Its really tough at first isnt it. I think i could marry a man who will wisk me away into the sunset with my son in my hands.

You should think the same but with your dog too :D

Glad to see we both still hold out hope