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Facing pregnancy alone?

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thedogsrolex · 12/07/2012 18:30

There seem to be quite a few threads lately posted by women facing pregnancy alone for whatever reason. I was thinking maybe it would be a good idea to have one ongoing thread for support and advice...what do you think? I know it would have helped me way back when I had dd? (apologies if there is already one, I haven't come across it).

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xmasevebundle · 12/08/2012 16:59

It will happen one day!! :)

Pickles77 · 13/08/2012 14:28

How are we all today? Today I am well pregnant! Smile and uncomfy. They say things come in 3's so today I am uncomfortable, have a eye infection & a
Pooch covered in fox poop! (yes, again, 3rd time in 2 months!)
But I'm still smiling. The fox poo gave me uncontrollable giggles actually Grin
First antenatal class tonight!!
Hope were all okay Grin xx

skyebluesapphire · 13/08/2012 19:06

Hope your antenatal class goes ok.

Just sat on my front doorstep enjoying the sunshine watching my DD on her scooter with her friends

KateSpade · 13/08/2012 19:08

Is this a without the father thread or a totally alone thread?

I have lots of family support but non from father!

Pickles77 · 13/08/2012 20:01

It's the bit of everything thread Smile

skyebluesapphire · 13/08/2012 20:28

Yes, it's a mixed up thread. Or are we all mixed up? I'm not pregnant but my STBXH left at Easter so I am a lone parent...

I'm pickles stalker Grin

Pickles77 · 13/08/2012 20:50

Aww no your not Skye! Your one of my protectors Grin
It's a lone parent, semi lone parent, lone pregnancy anyone can join thread

But

Most of all it's a nice thread Grin

NotGeoffVader · 13/08/2012 21:49

Had a pretty good day, albeit unexciting. We had a really bad night last night as DD refused to go to bed, so we were trying to watch the Olympics closing ceremony with her stomping up and down and yelling trying to get our attention...and we'd brought her into the lounge with us to stop her yelling/crying.

Today we've been being lazy; but I did manage to get madam to do some finger painting - which then turned into knee, elbow and foot painting. Got a few 'masterpieces' drying off now.

Tomorrow she's at playgroup so I will get onto the phone calls I've been putting off.
Enjoying the fresh air that the rain has brought at the moment.

Pickles77 · 13/08/2012 22:01

Ah yes I didn't mind the rain Smile
Well the painting sounds fun, have you got splodgey furnishings now? Grin
The Olympic closing was quite good actually, well looked it. I was channel hopping.
Early nights in your household tonight Smile xx

NotGeoffVader · 14/08/2012 11:12

Just a red toeprint on the carpet, actually. So nothing drastic.
We had a much better night though so feeling a bit more with it. DD at playgroup now so I am waiting for my shopping to be delivered and then I'm going to go and do some gardening. :)

NotGeoffVader · 14/08/2012 11:12

How's everyone on the thread today?

Pickles77 · 14/08/2012 13:24

The vanish Is out in your household then Grin
I was good, had the hospital and twunt asked how I got on. I said okay and it's good he took a interest.
Only to be told he wishes he didn't have to as its not a fucking baby. He wishes he never had to see me again. We spent 18 months together which is nothing. He told
Me he wishes he'd never spent 18 seconds with me. I'm a disgrace and a waste of space. I should be ashamed.
So I stupidly bit and told him to go away and he won't have any PR, and to take me to court. Now I feel stupid.
I take it I dont let him know I'm in labour.

Sorry everyone, hope your all okay x

NotGeoffVader · 14/08/2012 13:31

Sorry he is showing what a complete and utter arse he is. Shame you let him get to you but I can understand why.

Glad the hospital went well though.

I think yes, don't bother telling him you're in labour. Not sure how you'll work out financial baby-related issues, but I am sure that is something the CAB would be able to advise you on.

Chin up, ignore stupid twunt comments and get on with being you! :)

Pickles77 · 14/08/2012 13:43

Thanks, that's what I got for trying to be the bigger person.
It's hard to work out sometimes if the drama is real and if what hes doing is bad because he was what I thought of as my best friend. The one person I trusted apart from my dad. The person I respected, whose opinion mattered, who I'd never want to hurt.
Now I can't work out if the majority of people think he's a arse and has done wrong or if they think I'm a moron. God it's hard, I try to be tough but think why me? Am I a bad person to deserve this or a bad person to be doing this. Either way my baby doesn't deserve it.
Maybe I'm too sensitive

Pickles77 · 14/08/2012 15:26

I just feel so broken and damaged. A crystal ball would be handy.

xmasevebundle · 14/08/2012 16:38

Hello pickles :)

I wish i had a magic wand instead!

He seems the waste of space! Its hard when the one who love betrayes you it hurts more than anything. Emotions go everywhere and what ever you do its still a bitter reminder?

You seem to blame yourself and its not your fault its really not :)

No i wouldnt tell him you in labour either, he dont care and that hurts the most.

I think in a few months or years you will look back and think why was i sad.

Big hugs!!!!

xmasevebundle · 14/08/2012 16:40

Reading up the post abit my JR always use to rub in fox poo they like the scent but fox poo has fleas in so tell him/her off:)

Pickles77 · 14/08/2012 16:42

Thanks Xmas eve, it just hurts so much.

Oh, yes and ketchup to remove the smell, I may aswell have him sponsored by frontline! He gets flea combed everyday too which he hates!! Smile

xmasevebundle · 14/08/2012 16:58

Time the best healer :)

Hahah bet he hates that!!!

How is your day going today feel any better or still abit :/

Went shopping today went asda i was eating sweets going aroundBlush

Got nappies while they was on offer had a big mac meal and now ive got ankles the size of elephants lol

skyebluesapphire · 14/08/2012 17:09

Christ Pickles, another twunt - I have so had enough of them today!!!!
(have you read poor Lou's latest? OW is pregnant as well.....

Ignore your dispicable twunt. He is so mad that you wouldnt "get rid" as now you have messed up his perfect life. Remember that whatever he says is a lie designed to hurt you. If you let him hurt you, you let him win. If you say "whatever loser" then you win. (I DO know its easier said than done, believe me....)..

You are the decent human being and he is running away from his responsibilities. Dont tell him when you go into labour, he has made it plain he wants nothing to do with baby. Contact the CSA once she is born and they will sort out what he has to pay you each week/month. If he denies paternity, they will sort out a DNA test I believe.

You and your baby are seriously much better off without this dickhead in your lives.

NotGeoffVader · 14/08/2012 17:15

Pickles nobody thinks you're a moron. Nobody thinks you're being silly. Everyone thinks your XP is a total and utter arse. In fact worse. At least an arse has some use.
He took your trust and your respect and has treated you with utter disrespect and distain.
It makes me so sad to read posts from you, from Lou, from Xmas and Skye amongst others about how badly those who should be closest to you have been so completely cuntish. (Sorry, but there is no other way to put it).

I promise you all that there truly are some good men out there. But they are the ones who have been treated badly as have you. They are the ones who are not as popular because they're not all mouth and trousers. They are the ones who don't get drunk and grope random women/kick the dog/stay out til 4am.

But that aside, you (all) need to fall back in love with yourselves. Look in the mirror and remind yourself of how strong you are. Look at how far you have come in the few weeks we have been talking on here. Look back at where you were when you first posted, and where you are now. Look at what you have achieved so far. Look at how strong you are. Look at the beautiful baby waiting to meet you. Now give yourself a big kiss!

Pickles77 · 14/08/2012 17:16

Thanks Smile it just really hurts today. Feeling rather low. Feel like I shouldn't be having the baby.
Lous twunt shocks me everyday! I'm speechless today! I really am, will be keeping a eye out for her new thread Sad

Been out with the pooch most of today up the Downs but he's shattered now. So just reading xx

skyebluesapphire · 14/08/2012 17:17

Its called Chutney Twunt part 3.

I thought my STBXH was a cold heartless bastard, but Lou's takes the biscuit!

skyebluesapphire · 14/08/2012 17:18

NotGeoff - you are right - we do all need to love ourselves. We have been put down by these men and made to feel bad. We cannot expect somebody else to love us if we do not love ourselves first!

NotGeoffVader · 14/08/2012 17:23

Any more negative talk like this and I'm going to have to embark on a tour and kick your pregnant/non-pregnant arses. :)

Skye - I haven't read the latest from Lou but funnily enough when I was in the garden earlier I was thinking over what she said about getting a text from chutney twunt and was mulling over why he thought it was a bad time for her to be pregnant, and I suddenly thought that perhaps OW was pregnant. He truly is a shit. Of all life's rich tapestry he is the biggest wankstain on it by a long chalk.

Rant over. :)