Facing pregnancy alone?

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There seem to be quite a few threads lately posted by women facing pregnancy alone for whatever reason. I was thinking maybe it would be a good idea to have one ongoing thread for support and advice...what do you think? I know it would have helped me way back when I had dd? (apologies if there is already one, I haven't come across it).

I posted to her, I remember how
I felt those days. I know it's not the same but I get it.
Doing a bit better today. Lots
Of appointments booked, saw HV and got someone to advice me independently on housing and PR rights tommorow.
Feeling back on track, regained control

All sounds good pickles

^ What skye said! :)

Well it was until the bloody dog just attacked another dog, after a whole day at dog bootcamp- where he got a glowing report. and now someone is bleating about the counselling i found very helpful on Lous thread about them being a christian organisation.
Hit a nerve as thats what twunt kept going on about, mad old bible bashing lady putting ideas in my head!!
I FOUND HER REALLY HELPFUL.
I dont want Lou thinking im giving her shite advice!!!

Lou won't think that, she is grateful to everyone. I've been messaging her as some of the people on here can be a bit hardcore, lol.

Oh good. It wasn't the posting of it I don't think. Think it was that the article would have made me ex proud of himself

Did I pick up that you and Lou are fairly near to each other, Pickles? I mean, in location?
It might be that you have a particularly good counselling service where you are, or that the organsiation in its wider form is a little less salubrious, but given that your situations are similar, I think you're a good judge of their efficacy.

Hope the dog (and the one he went for) are okay. :)

Thanks, i used their Cambridgeshire service and found them great. I guess I might be biased now though as I've received such shite off the nhs since
Small dog is fine, I think the other one is too thank you x

Feeling rather irritated today.

Had the health visitor and a independent lady come to the house today to talk to me.
Mum now keeping wanting to know all the details of what was said. I find that really private. That's my business isn't it? all they need to know is to not worry
I'll be gone soon.
Trying to interfere about housing associations and council accom- that they know nothing about. The lady that came to see me does!!!

Tommorow its my birthday. I don't want to do anything. I don't care if I don't get up actually. In my head I was hoping ex to be back as we normally go away for events
Like that and I had it all planned in my head. Stupid I know .
I just want to walk my dog and be left alone. All I'll do is check my phone all day.
Or cry.
So dad is away anyway and mum has been moaning about me being unsocial able and uncooperative about it.
How am I that? I just don't want any
Special dinner, and bloody banners or any fuss.
Feeling so so irritated. About to snap

Step AWAY from the phone! :)

Tell your Mum that the issue is in hand, and when she needs to know the arrangements you'll let her know.

I can understand that you feel irritated; I'm sure she is trying to help, but right now, I think she needs to back off and let you deal with things.

So, tomorrow - walk the dog, eat spaghetti from a tin if you want to, and save the celebrating until you feel good and ready. It's not mandatory to make a fuss on your birthday.
(Obviously if people want to give you cups of tea, pizza, etc. it would be rude to refuse though - only saying that because I am a lazy, greedy mare!)

Thank you, taken pooch out so I can chill.
I know I need help and support but I also need space

Happy birthday for tomorrow, I'm raising my to you and bump (it's been a nightmare of a day...)

Your parents just want to help but it's difficult for everybody. I would go spare if I had to live at home again now and me and my mum get on really well now.!

Be positive that you are sorting out things for the future. Tell your parents you don't want much of a fuss tomorrow. The first of any anniversary is always difficult , I hated it when it was H's birthday and it fell on Sunday so he had DD which was even harder. We usually had a night or weekend away for birthdays.

be positive, it's the start of a new year for you and bump.

Thank you sky, sorry to hear you've had a bumpy few days. I hadn't thought of it like the start of a new year. Will adopt that approach.
Woke up feeling rubbish but trying to make an improvement on that

Feeling really really sorry for myself now. Just had all my medication increased. I know i want to be alone today but what can i go and do...

Go to the beach with the dog, have some candyfloss and/or ice-cream, have a paddle.

Get on pinterest and create a whole load of exciting boards.
Get a cup of coffee/chocolate/tea at a fancy place you like or one you have been meaning to try for a long time.
Buy yourself a present: really good chocolate, posh nail varnish, a bracelet, or some fancy hair wear.

Hi Pickles, I hope you have found something nice to do. A walk on the beach sounds nice.

I hope you have had a lovely day so far and that it continues. Dont feel sorry for yourself, start of a new year remember xx

Thank you. Took pooch out, bought him a kong. Brilliant invention!
Can't believe my two best friends have forgotten and thought twunt would at least text.
Never mind, quite happy bobbing along alone today. Really emotional anyway.
Online shopping now for a bit.
Looking forward to bedtime, doctor doubled all my medication too.
Hope your all okay xx

glad to hear you are doing ok.

Aw it's rubbish when people forget. I have had my birthday forgotten this year by two of my most long-standing friends. One is in the US and has ongoing emotional/mental health issues, and the other is in the UK and has been going through a rough patch, so I guess I could cut them some slack. I am wondering if they thought that I wouldn't be doing much for the day (I didn't, but only because I couldn't think of anything to do, as DH was working) because of Dad's recent passing.

Online shopping is a great idea! :)

Pickles, I will have a for you tonight and these are for you .

Enjoy what is left of your birthday, the last one on your own as next year you will have DD with you xx

I will have a too for you. In fact, I'm having it for me because I have earache and am feeling grumpy.

Good point, Skye - put your feet up, Pickles - have a and several because this time next year you're going to be yearning to have some quiet 'me' time whilst PicklesJr is running around causing mayhem! :)

DD has just trashed the living room, and has now eaten a HUGE tea: one whole sachet baby food (didn't have anything already prepared), 2/3 croissant, a whole pot of fruit, and a mini pot of rice pudding. I swear she has hollow legs!

Thank you ladies stuffed full of Chinese and cake!!
Had a lovely surprise of a spa day too
Still no word from best friend but she's always been a bit like that. Just had emails calls and texts from a friend in oz.
Hope you are all enjoying the sun, because it's killing me.

Gosh, your child has some appetite!! think of the teenage years! Xxx

Oh and online shopping is great, I love eBay rare treat for me

I actually can't believe he hasn't wished me happy birthday.

Sorry pickles. ((hugs)) I think that sadly he has totally detached from you and therefore wouldn't wish you happy birthday.

I didn't wish my STBXH a happy birthday ( I sent him a divorce petition instead) . but he left me, so different.

Maybe he thought if wouldn't be appreciated though. My H walked a fortnight before my 40th birthday (but came back) . If he hadn't, there is no way I would have appreciated a text from the man who tore my world apart. (he left three weeks later for good).

So maybe he did think about it but didn't think it was a good idea. it wouldn't have made you feel any better anyway :(