Facing pregnancy alone?

[thedogsrolex]

There seem to be quite a few threads lately posted by women facing pregnancy alone for whatever reason. I was thinking maybe it would be a good idea to have one ongoing thread for support and advice...what do you think? I know it would have helped me way back when I had dd? (apologies if there is already one, I haven't come across it).

Always makes me laugh when they say its our fault. Regardless of how a pregnancy comes about, it always requires two people, so how can one be completely blameless??

Similar to them claiming we 'did it on purpose'...having read the full biological story of how many hurdles egg and sperm have to get round, and then the many more that the fertilised egg has to get through, I'm astounded it happens at all....let alone managing to ensure it happens!

i'm so relieved I am not the only one who has a complete moron for my baby's father (father in the loosest sense of the term as he is refusing any contact ever again and 'moving abroad). What a sinner I am for 'going back on my word of - it will be fine- with our 6 months of unprotected sex and to think- I teach sex ed....god please show me the way to hell. I can see how hilarious his mail is today- yesterday I just wanted to pour hot treacle on him.

Mine claimed to be moving abroad when I told him about baby. Surprising, he hasn't gone yet.... And he also hasn't developed a terminal illness, become a mute hermit, been abducted by aliens, or anything else which would explain not wanting to be involved. Shocking.

Lol at pelvic floor joke!!

lolo99 Your rant made me laugh, Try no protection for 8 months. I didnt get the you trapped me shit. He is also asking for a DNA. I did say to him, i lived at your house 5 out of the 8 months. I do feel quite embrassed about using no protection when we got together but if was an issue(wasnt wtih me) he should of brought it up.

I guess its all MY fault as he wasnt ready to have kids but was ready to have sex with NO protection which he knew too, maybe its because i got pregnant before we spilt up and thought it wasnt his as i moved out but the dumb fuck dont know it was in march. We still lived together. I didnt go out, stayed at his quit college.

But i do laugh, he gave up his flat for me and now lives with his nan her 2 cats and OUR dog. My bathroom is bigger than his bedroom. What.A.Shame.

I am laughing at your stories but also very at how bloody awful these mean are!!

Im not in your situation, but I could so easily have been... STBXH walked out at the end of Feb, then came back for 6 weeks. During that time, he was having "problems" with using condoms, so he preferred the withdrawal method, which as we all know is 100% safe (NOT)!!

I said to him then, if you are thinking of walking out again, you had better not get me pregnant, just because you want to get your end away! After he walked out I was about 3 weeks late, probably due to the shock and stress, but I did at least 3 tests in that time..... I was really scared....

The thought of him leaving me with a 4yo was bad enough, never mind a challenging 4yo and a baby.......

and no doubt that would have all been my fault if I had got pregnant, probably did it to trap him, is what he would no doubt have said!!

so ladies, you all have my extreme sympathy as it could have been me, you have my support, I am Pickles stalker, but now that she has had baby and is not on here so much I need somebody else to stalk (apart from Lou)

and do you know what, you are better off without these twunts, we will all realise that in the long run

I will never forget this ever in my life. I know the place the time and we was in car.

I was 12w ish still talking and getting on sorting things out.

I gave him some leaflets to read about the downs test. I said have you looked through them. He said no i asked why.

He then told me HE COULD NOT READ.

I wet myself laughing.

A 25 year old man, he has to write everyday because of his job and hes a car tech, so hes not that stupid. I mean how could he read my texts?

I still laugh about it now...

So far I've moved house, changed my number and blocked him on facebook. Once I leave work, my twunt will find it hard to contact me. I'm considering ending my online presence altogether, or at least changing the names etc.

Also thinking of changing cities once comfortable with baby...

skye i have 14 weeks left lol.. I only really go on this thread so not that hard to stalk!

I could go on for hours, funny times. The first time, i mean i didnt know what fucking happened i say 5 seconds.

It changed otherwise i would not be on this thread LOL

I'd rather chew off my own foot than let my son be messed around by a father who has already proved himself cruel, selfish, dishonest and unreliable.

Preggo im laughing.

I dont say father, its either sperm doner or his name.

Which i must add means 'a secluded'

He told me hes got a 'friend' who he told about me the way i was, sex life(i think is vile to repeat it) and OUR baby.

I doubt he has a friend as he was so nervous talking about her, it was bullshit.

After reading what i said has made me happy as i am the one that got away.... LOL

There is a happy ending but not with him! Think everything happens for a reason, id tell him stick 3 fingers up and say read inbetween the lines. He would be like

Of course i say this a lot would you like your son to turn out like him?

If my son ever turned out like my ex. I would cry and go into a deep depression.

Hes just a twunt!

Takes a man to make a baby but a real one to raise one.

Thats all you got think about! It makes me bloody angry when i think like that but if he was in his life he would end up like him. Which is NOT going to happen.

My ex wants no contact which suits me, he said i will only be there for money. Which i still see no sign off?

I am currently waiting, for a playmat he 'bought' and would send it i have been waiting until Aug 1st. LOL

The thought chills me.....

I have to say Makeit I understand how u feel. Part of me still wishes things would work, but I know that wouldn't be the best thing for my son in the long run. And I have to remind myself that his needs come before mine now....otherwise I would probably have made an attempt at getting him back by now.

I know I'd refuse anything from mine, whether money, a playmat, or anything. For some odd reason it feels like it would be blood money. But that might just be pregnancy hormones.

Anything connected to him makes me shudder inside now (except baby, lol).