Facing pregnancy alone?

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There seem to be quite a few threads lately posted by women facing pregnancy alone for whatever reason. I was thinking maybe it would be a good idea to have one ongoing thread for support and advice...what do you think? I know it would have helped me way back when I had dd? (apologies if there is already one, I haven't come across it).

Sorry, my post reads a bit harsh rereading it but I just don't want you to get hurt especially when you have your delightful DD to be playing with. Don't forget to feed her and stuff .

How's picklesdog doing?

The only images you need in your head is cute DD and how lovely picklesdog will look in his pink tutu and legwarmers

Notgeoff - onwards and upwards is my new motto. It's an old gave if mine but I've not needed it for a few years.

Yes, don't look back, you are not going that way- people keep saying that to me....

Pickles enjoy baby DD and put the twunt out of your mind

Thanks guys. Mum and dad put us to bed. They are furious of course but think now I can move on,
I'm obviously severely tired and emotional but fed dd at half ten and shes only just woken up and my milk finally came in. Just those three hours sleep made things a bit better he is not ruining this for me

That's it Pickles onwards and upwards, you need him like a chocolate teapot. You have a beautiful dd and supportive family and the best dog ever.

Besides which, Day 3 or 4 post-delivery is often when mums feel a bit of a crash, literally tired and emotional, all to do with hormones, whatever their circumstances, so be kind to yourself.

I'm just shocked. June is when I found out about the pregnancy.
You guys won't be shocked, your wiser than me .
Me and my gorgeous dd have just gone shipping for a bit.

Pickles - you are doing really well. I hope you enjoy your "shipping" trip, lol.

You have been on Lou's thread, you know how Chunt has reacted to her pregnancy and why...

Now you know why your twunt has been so nasty to you, because you will ruin his life by having this baby, if he is with somebody else. (in his eyes), he has said this to you.

Well, you are responsible for your life and for DD. You are not responsible for his life. He could have made sure that there was no baby, if he was that adamant that he didnt want one, he should have worn a condom. So he is responsible for "ruining his life" not you.

But your life has been made better, you have a gorgeous DD with a gorgeous name. She will be your light and your life.

He is a prick, like they are all pricks. Pricks of the highest order.

Lou's chunt is chief prick at the moment, with mine, yours and everybody elses a close second.

Do not give him another thought, he does not deserve your time or your energy.

sorry to hear that pickles , he is a sly bastard isnt he?

All what your DD needs is you!!!! You are better off alone!

skye i did laugh at some of that post, i wouldnt use prick though another word springs to mind...

26 weeks today, only 14 left getting so zzzzz now foot in my ribs is getting beyond annoying now.

I'm in an "All men are pricks" mood today lol. Probably due to the twunt expecting me to sort him out with stuff, even though he chose to walk away with nothing.....

If I do it will be for DD's sake, not his

Hello all!

Well I couldn't agree more Skye! Does any man actually know what he wants?

We went baby shopping yesterday, we had lunch, we got dog food, we didn't argue, it was pleasant.
He gets home to tell me that washing baby clothes is making him cry!! (he nicely agreed to wash half of baby things) what am I supposed to do with that??
How many times does he think I've cried at seeing a new family or an 'I love daddy' top or when the midwife asks who is my birthing partner and I have to say I don't know! Did I text him and receive comfort?? No he'd changed his bloody number so how dare he expect me to feel sorry for him now. I didn't reply, I was too angry!!

He also proceeded to tell me all about what his son was doing, knowing how much I love him and the fact that he has ruined my relationship with him and alienated me!! He patronised me as he left, telling me how amazing we're doing! - yes we are, no thanks to you!!

God he's such an arse! He's coming back on weds to sort more stuff out. I'm beginning to wonder if you lot who don't see ex-p's are wiser than me and doing better.

Xmas- I'm due similar date to you but likely to be early! The heartburn is insufferable and my ribs feel like I've been in a boxing match! Counting the weeks!! My pelvis is so painful that pelvic floor exercises are not possible so I'm preparing myself for incontinence!

Xx

At least hes making some effort rather than none at all, but all men turn sly when needed.

I dont think any man know what he wants, even one with brain cells.

When are you due flumpy?

I hope i come early, would love him to be born on NYE though, it would be so special going into the new year with him.

I just tell DS if you carry on you will be in trouble, he thinks wtf is this women on about? I do talk to my bump, is that weird? lol

Xmas

I'm due 21st December but I will be amazed if she's not a November baby as will consultants.

NYE would be amazing!

Yes he's helping but it's almost worse because he does that then nothing then helps again, i never know how he's going to be!! He's just emailed with all the details of crib mattress and car seat adaptors.

It's not strange to talk to him, I talk to DD too and I've just downloaded an album to play her music putting headphones on my tummy. She's the most active baby!

My dining room is heaving! This baby has more clothes than me!! And a gorgeous pink fluffy hippo we've named henrietta - her first cuddly toy :-) X

Wow! Not long then if november, be nice in time for christmas, not keen on a christmas eve baby nor a christmas day, think it would ruin it a bit for 'santa' i also wouldn't be able to say if your naughty santa wont come

I haven't done that! I just play music or sing. I put face mask on bump!

Henrietta is very cute for a teddy name, i got one called rainbow, from build a bear its very cute?!.

My DS has taken up one of my wardrobes!!! Hes very spolit and has more shoes than me, is that even possible?

Pickles - PM me if you want, you know I have been through the same.

Also, can anyone link to Lous thread...looks like something I missed but maybe should read!

Two weeks to go here...can't wait. Started listening to my hypnobirthing CD today.

Still upset about twunt and my mum cant believe that he still hasn't even wished me good luck. I actually hate him now...

For those of you who know how crappily he treated me at work...I am pleased to say that after being felt I was completely sent to coventry I have now had 3 ex colleagues contact me to ask me how I am. Hopefully they are starting to see through him and also realising what a tosser he is!

Grrrrr

I can PM you about Lou.

glad things seem to be going better for you

before you all go clothes and shoe crazy, remember that they grow very very fast......... lol

Hello, can I join?

Thank you to Skye for helping me find this thread. I haven't read it all yet, but I will do tomorrow. I'm 13 weeks pregnant. STBXH moved out 4 days before I found out, he is living with another woman (I have no idea where) who is 6+months pregnant with his child. I had no idea he was having an affair, and have battled a bit with this pregnancy (should I keep or not). However, we were trying for 3 years, and this one appears to be sticking so far,......

I don't know a thing about babies and pregnancy so I think this is going to be a very steep learning curve.

I'll read through the posts tomorrow, but I'd be really grateful if I could tag along?

xx

Hi Lou, welcome to the thread :-)) Pickles is on here , thats why Im here, Im her official stalker (and yours too now, you are honoured, lol).

you are all in the same boat, and have varying degrees of twunt to deal with.....

Hello Lou i hope your okay. skye I luffs you I feel honoured
Im not posting much at the min with the LO, but I can promise you it's really really worth it. I was made to be a mum.
Sadly life in the background is somewhat turbulent again but she's worth it
the raging sore boobs might not be

waves to everyone else
picklesdog is the bestest big brother he told me to tell you all.

Lou your more than welcome, the mumsnet guide to babies is a good read, funny too!!!

skye Okay i believe you now hes a chief prick.

lou i did read the post twice just in case i was seeing things? I am just[shocked], lost for words!!! Everyone is lovely on here!

I dont know anything either about babies! Not even changed a nappy in my life

It's shocking isn't it Xmas!!!!
How are your folks doing?

My brother has a step brother 3 days younger than him! So i dont think its nice at all its vile.

Im doing fine pickles! How is being a mum? Does it feel weird being able to sleep at night? Even touch your belly and think wheres my baby gone? Lol. I keep on thinking things like that when DS arrives!!

Think its nice? So i dont think shocking i think vile!

I am sleepy! lol

The link below is for a fantastic cream if you get chapped nipples, sorry to be personal lol. Its about £10, but it is wonderful, you put it on before feeding and after and it does help. there is other useful info on the website as well

www.lansinoh.co.uk/early-days/challenges-and-obstacles/sore-nipples

Thanks sky I have it- it's just they are engorged at the min.

Xmas its really great. Sleep hasnt really been a issue it's me that can't fall asleep for staring! I have has i issues of offering people to feel her kick- they're a bit like