Where have all the fit, interesting and available men gone (part 31)

[Hatesponge]

hurray

Oh and I prefer a thanks but no thanks too

yes really. well. as long as i dont get cold feet.

I do love him. i know he loves me ( retold me yesterday and said how he wishes we were already together) and well, everything else is just not important and as snape so wonderfully put it, ' what if you are staring happiness in the face'

and anyway - hes fucking hot! like, super super hot. I would kick both jack sparrow AND russel brand ( when hes scruffy.. not the cleaned up version) out of bed in favor of mr big :)

i prefere a thanks but no thanks too.
Ive always tended to go with the ' everyone lies and has ulteriour motives' thought. I think this was probably wrong. Mr big has been telling me for over a year how he feels and what he wants, but ive just not believed him or thought he was lying. I think sometimes is easy to protect yourself too much.

I reckon I haven't protected myself enough tbh. Flame I do hope it works out this time with Smurf. Maybe it's just me that this happens to but IME if they let you down once they will do it again. Even the dating sites tell people not to give anyone a second chance. I only did it once with someone from a site, saw him a few times then lost touch and he asked to meet up a couple of months later, caught me at a loose end so I agreed another date then lost touch again. I didn't like him that much so it was all OK.

The one from last week is going through a really tough time and has a perfect excuse to text back and say his head isn't right but hasn't done that yet. Would prefer that than being ignored as we have history but much prefer silence if it's a blind date with no spark.

Tookool, I'm not sure if you and Mr Big have any relationship history as in have you had more than a friendship previously but pleased you have decided to give it a go. Sometimes we fall for people who just don't tick any boxes but make us tick. It can be a lovely surprise when it happens.

I'm going to take this laptop into the repairers this afternoon as it keeps cutting out. So no more negativity from me for a few days. [bugrin].

EV wants to take me out next week, I might as I've got loads of time off and not much planned, but it will only be as mates.

I am in Irish heaven.. :)

tits - do tell. have you met up with him yet?

adams - your not being negative at all. i think we all get a bit like that sometimes...

he ticks all the boxes. or all my personal boxes. Its odd, like if you had asked me what my perfect person was, it would be him. Which is part of the problem, as im not really one for believing that kind of thing so for ages and ages ive just ignored what hes been saying/telling me, becuse i think its not really real. Also it is far easier to dismiss something in fear of getting very hurt again.

We have things that will have to be comprimised and worked out, but thats ok... we dont need to sort them out now :)

and really, hes right. its stupid, we belong together, that feeling isnt, and hasnt gone away in almost 2 years. so we should just do it.

< tries very very hard not to get cold feet and come up with some crap reason why i shouldnt>

I have met up with him, he came to my house last night. He is Even more yummy in the flesh and even more of a giant :o

ooh er tits!

Where is everybody??

I was wondering that?! Have just been out and about all weekend with GW, we have had a lovely weekend. Cant remember the last time I went to bed in the afternoon

kids are now back from ex and we have had friends up to play today so not been on mn much. Think the good weather might also be a factor.

How are you doing flame, any news on smurf??

and took, what is happening with Mr big??

Hi to everyone else

of afternoon bedding.

Smurf I am taking things slowly with. Hopefully seeing him tomorrow. It seems to work better when I am more distant with him, so pretty much rolling with it and we'll see what happens. I am considering myself still single until anything changes otherwise.

Giger cancelled on me last min on Saturday night so he is totally gone now

hi all

I attempted to read through the thread but kept getting lost , so hopefully a quick update from me will do

Monty, Elasta, delighted Celtic and GW going well

Snape, whatever happened to Train Man?

TKFS, yay re Mr Big, everything crossed

Aurora, hope all well with vimes

Sponge, glad to hear the weightloss still going on

Had last week off and very lovely and busy it was too. TLM nearly all moved in, his house will be handed back end of next week, this house now really feels like our home with his and his dd's stuff in it. His dd home from school with us for 2 weeks which was great, the 3 girls all getting on really well.

Went swishy dress shopping and have found the one, just need to get organised about ordering it . The dds tried on bridesmaid dresses and suddenly the 2 older ones stopped being cool and came over all girly and decided they might like to were dresses after all (the plea before was for jeans....) I don't care so long as they enjoy themselves, they can wear what they like
Have got pretty much everything sorted so just need to write a few invitations

We went wedding ring shopping too which was lovely.

Then it was my birthday and TLM surpassed himself, a beautiful clock, Jo Malone stuff, a wallet, flowers..... I cried, he also oragnised me a birthday party bbq, which hasn't happened in my adult life.....first time the Happy Birthday banners and balloons have been for me.....I cried some more

anyway, hope all well and will keep lurking and keep you posted of progress on the wedding fo the year

popping in to say hello - been feeling very low and sad and angry of late and generally disappointed with everyone (except my brilliant DCs..) so went to GP today and was described course of anti depressants. looking forwards to resultant side effect of decrease in libido! ;)

train man sat behind me yesterday he missed the train today - saw him walk down the stairs as we drew out of the station... it's always a little lift to see him, but i feel so shitty i doubt i would do or say anything just now. Pm is an annoyance. grr at PM

TKFS. go on! dare you! :)

hello to everyone else, hope all well, sorry - haven't read everyone -in too much of a loopy fog! :)

Oh yay for you being so happy mily!

Boo for less happy Snape.

Smurf is broken with horrendous wisdom tooth pain. He is drugged up and in bed. He's not had a Fb status today and only posted briefly this morning - he normally has several a day. Sooo want to text and ask how he is but I am trying to go slowly this time. Good phonecall with him this morning though. He is still a nightmare to read. When I said this morning that he could make moves occasionally he got all flustered about me being busy lots according to Fb and not knowing when I can. He now has a clear list of children times etc. be back soon

sorry mate turned up.... says he Will let me know when face works.

I am fairly sure we're good. Not doing well on not falling for him.

I had a visit fro my lovely man friend last night... he gets better every time I see him, he has the ability to to look after me and be gentle and reassuring but at the same time he does um 'things' to me that make me scream..

September is going to be hard, he is going to be gone a whole year. A small part of me is already pondering his return...

at titsalina am so sorry aout the year away though

flame hope things work out better for you.

and mily i was going to ask you to post apic of THE dress but perhaps it wouldn't be wise things are going well thank you for asking, i just need to stop overthinking and relax

i haven't been on mn for a while - vimes' pc wasn't working properly

?relax

gawd ...

Hi all, Good to hear from you MILY, so pleased for you. You must post a pic of the dress after the event!

Hi to Flame, star, took, tits and everyone else

Well I have really bit the bullet this weekend. GW is coming up tomorrow, the kids are here and my best friend her DH and their kids are here too!!
Have warned him not to expect too much romance. Fingers crossed they will all get on

sorry mate turned up.... says he Will let me know when face works.

I am fairly sure we're good. Not doing well on not falling for him.

Sorry phone did random posting there!

elasta hope the weekend goes well!

flame i guess with smurf what will be will be i have faith though - why is it I can be optimistic about everyone's situation but my own?

I am thinner (my smallest jeans - well, smallest for the last 9 years anyhow - are now too big. which is good) but there are no men for me. I only want the ones I can't have, for one reason or other. Which is not good.

evening all

elasta- will keep my fingers crossed your weekend goes ok though i'msure all will be fine - as for romance, you will get inventive

i have managed to put on weight yaaaaay!! i ahte being too slim, i don't feel nice at all

where have all the fia ladies gone?