Where have all the fit, interesting and available men gone (part 31)

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I have a hard time even getting out to look for Fit men! it's a nightmare! I think I'm destined to be single forever Looks for vodka and Chaka Khan. Bridget in the making :(

Aurora I haven't started a thread as I don't want to out anyone and Im making a complaint about a teacher.

Lovemilady yes its hard isn't it? Quite a few people on here have had successs though. Don't really think my heart is in it though.

My heart is well and truley out of it at the moment! Just having a woah is me moment!

ah understood scl

loveme i was wondering when you would make it over here!!

fwiw, i got fed up of internet dating, only seemed to get replies from nutters and those who were already married. i gave up and concentrated on my relationship with my daughter. then i met vimes and found out i liked him before i knew he had a motorbike

Gosh, internet dating. That's enough to sway any girl towards vodka and chaka khan! What a load of genetic miss fits! I have either got higher expectations, or have a face like a bag of spanners!

Hi all,
I dropped in to join you all a couple of months ago but haven't really been attempting to date since then for various reasons.

Have joined POF this week and have been messaging a couple of men on there. One seemed nice, messaged each day and seemed quite genuine. However, I mentioned my DC in passing in my last message yesterday and have heard nothing from him since. I can see that he's been online though. Surely he'd have checked for kids on my profile if it was going to put him off? Anyone experienced this before?

hi balls

sadly, yes but i thought it was better to hear it then rather than fall in love, have him meet my daughter and then find out. a rather lucky escape for me because i have now met vimes

loveme i suspect it's the former

Balls - POF, yes, I've had that on there. I also had one guy send me a message with "oi!" as the subject title. What a way to grab a lady's attention! Swiftly deleted that one!

Aurora - I think I scare men off, the good ones anyway. I'm like velcro for bad boys though :( I always feel like the fat, frumpy friend when I go out with my mates. They always have blokes going up to them and getting them drinks, whilst they seem to overlook my head or look straight through me :(

Aah, well have only messaged so far luckily. Will be sure to mention DC before wasting precious babysitting in future .

pof aka plenty of fks (or f**rs) depending on your point of view

loveme - i used to be like that and be the 'mate'

I always feel like that, it's rubbish! Plus I never go out in short skirts and low cut tops, I'm too much of a comfort girl I think! flat boots, leggings and vests are my usual emsemble. Suppose I just don't look like a girl men wanna date, get to know etc.

but on the other hand perhaps you don't want to look 'too available'?
i would much rather wear jeans and t-shirts and vimes is forever trying to get me to wear more skirts/dresses etc to look more feminine so i turned round and told him i would wear what i felt comfortable in at the time i wanted to wear something have been in that situation before ...

anyway perhaps you could go shopping with your friends to help you pick something that you would feel comfortable in but that may also look different to what you normally wear on night out?

I just don't look right all girly and don't feel comfortable, plus the lumps and bumps make me very conscience. I just look out of place if Im girly and if Im not. My mates all have their hair straightened and done beyond belief, loads of slap, and I have minimal make up, no hair spray, massive fringe and a low side pony. Suppose I just look as though I couldn't be arsed!! ha ha

i never used to feel comfortable being girly - i cleaned up ok but it was at extremes i think - either in dress for rare night out (vimes christmas works do) or jeans and t-shirt for day-to-day stuff.

i did, however, wear a skirt friday with my normal boots and a v-neck jumper (well it was cold) it was worth it to see vimes jaw drop

oh my good heavens i have never seen this thread go for more than 4 hours without a post but 4 days???????????

I'm still single and wondering where all the fit men are!! Mind you, won't come across many of those when I'm always in the front room of my house when most normal people are, er, what's the word.....socialising?!! hha

i did reply to your post a couple of days ago loveme but for some reason it hasn't posted!!

Well how very rude of mumsnet to not post it!

I think I have found my problem, I'm too fussy! After years of failed relationships and hurt, I just don't think I can trust a bloke unless he's perfect! And we all know perfection doesn't exist, unless of course we look at Jared Leto of course!!

funnily enough there are four single men living at the end of my close. But none ofthem are fit or interesting. There's saddo who drives a 4x4 and gets his own single chinese on saturday, there's a very nice man with an old dog - pleasant but not interesting, a man who works nights for railway company - again very oleasant but not bf material and a guy who works in our local supermarket who again not fanciable.

ho hum

my single friend is looking for a serious relationship but has been targetted by scammers because they prob know she has money. At least that hasn't happened to me. They must not target single parents.

lol i wouldn't bet on it scl

how are you both today?

Hmm just to be targeted by anyone would be marginally pleasing, internet or otherwise! Just 1 person to say hi, or smile, or anything!! Feel unbelievably invisible of late, even in a crowded room I get stepped on so men can get to my mates. I'm going to grow old, have cats, collect newspapers and generally stink of piss.

Ho hum indeed sincity!

I think you have to make yourself less invisible IYSWIM or change the idea that you are.

I am rather old but still get attention - not all of it welcome tbh - having rather large boobs doesn't help. But on the other hand why should I be ashamed of them.

When exh and I split (in 2006 - blimey - is it that long ago) my self esteem and self image was on the floor. Had to drag myself back into a better place.

Where I am now - still not ready for a live in relationship but quite happy having fun and the support of good friends.

Well Sincity, my baps are a nice 36DD and they don't even get attention!! Ha ha!

I have to say though I do have to shovel my self esteem off the floor whenever I go out, so I would assume that radiates through the foundation and mascara! I generally look nervous, I feel I come across as awkward which in retrospect is just plain shyness.

Less invisible you say? Any tips??

where has everyone gone?

I think there was a bit of sniping on here and afterward I for one didnt feel the same about posting. After that the thread sort of dried up a bit.

Shame really as this thread has been a real source of support and company for me over the past year. Am still dating GW though, and I can honestly say that if it hadnt been for this thread and all the lovely posters on it I wouldnt have had the guts to keep dating last yr and so would probably never have met him (waves to all fellow lurkers)