Where have all the fit, interesting and available men gone (part 31)

[Hatesponge]

hurray

oh, yes, hotels take a lot of beating (remembers fondly )

I wanna have a dirty weekend in a hotel!

Hair now purple and cropped like Pink's. Love it. Will do pics later but looking forward to Smurf horror look

Flame, look forward to the pics, you brave girl! I'm sure it look great.

Oh and re Giger, it's your call remember, you have a say who is and isn't in your life.

Peed off as couped up in work until Friday and it's so lovely out there, weekend hurry up.

Gotta love that even though I don't wanna do the Giger thing I am feeling snubbed that he isn't texting me today

I have never had hair guts before. Tits encouraged me.

Getting nervous about seeing Smurf. Part of me is rargh about being pissed about but my gut believes his reasons. (yes, gut... not "radar" )

Flame your hair looks fab! I'm glad I encouraged, I would have felt terrible if it looked bad. Phew! lol

Hair is on fb - pics not co-operating with uploading on here.

So my radar is on form. Gah. Smurf thing appears to be back on. It is far far too easy with him.

Grr, so if I like them, I get twitchy and paranoid about them. I don't like this.

Giger is back btw. Whilst I am paranoid about Smurf he seems the more appealing option.

He has given me no reason to think he doesn't like me (if we ignore past form), and yet I am convinced he hates me.

I'm here to sound off so will apologise in advance for the self indulgent post.

I am finding myself a little bit smitten with my Irish, he is slowly going from talking pure filth and getting me worked into a frustrated frenzy to actually caring about me and being a little bit romantic. This CANNOT happen, he will be going back to Uni soon which is far away and then it will all end, I cant be left feeling broken. I have got to toughen right up and not let myself fall. he just seems to have a nack of saying exactly the right thing at the right time, we had a 'game' of questions to get to know each other better, every answer he gave was spot on. I feel I may end up getting hurt this wasn't the plan!!! Part of me says 'get out now' but I am drawn to him like a moth to a flame....

A Moth to a Flame,

Ahh Walter de la Mare

No advice though! Sorry

"Hot plate. Do not touch".... I am always gonna end up with no finger prints. Therefore I have no advice on stopping falling, but am here to pick up the pieces.

Thanks Flame :)

His status on FB last night was 'Irish is so over you' I never knew he was under anyone tbh. I would be very interested in getting under him though

i think i need to give up on men I actually like. I am already back into paranoid over thinking.

Flame, no overthinking! This is do as I say, not as I (the queen of overthinking) do of course.

I think its much easier sometimes with the ones who obviously like you, but you don't like that much. Because they you don't care enough to overthink. However even that tends to get tricksy, as after a while you start to like them more, and then the overthinking inevitably begins.....

I have a child free night tonight, which I have utterly wasted lazing on sofa watching stuff on catch up. I think I need someone to find me a date tbh, it has been so long I'm not sure I can even make polite conversation with a man any more

On the plus side this week I have chucked out 2 bags of clothes which are now too big :)

Ooh woohoo for clothes chucking.

I have had a breakthrough!!! Spent an evening with Carrot, and I actually felt like I wouldn't want to be with him. Nothing has changed, he was still his same lovely self, just that we work as friends amazingly, but I don't think that clash is there. I was saying about me when I am angry, and that I can't picture getting angry with him properly as he is too calming on me. That sounds a good thing, but I need that Rargh iyswim.

Phoned Smurf. I don't do phone calls. Especially with him as I struggle to keep up in person let alone without facial expressions. His texts were baffling me, so I figured I would just bite the bullet. It was easy. Could have chatted for hours had Carrot not been here. I am officially smitten and I hate it. I am back where I was before he went AWOL, and I am terrified he will do it again, as I know that this is the only shot.

place marking again

Flame, hair look great. How are your plans for the big weekend with carrot going?

Right I need a self indulgent rant. I am officially off men for ever. Hate internet dating and won't be doing it again. The guy I went out with last week, who was someone from RL, has disappeared. I know I got hideously drunk but HE text me the next day and instigated chat etc. Left it that we would arrange another night out. Then nada!!! I text last night because I was sick of wondering if he had changed his mind and guess what, no reply!! WTF. What do you reckon has happened?

To top it all the sun just went in, I have a long break from work, nothing much planned except a big night out with my friend next weekend. Missing smoking and it's been nearly 3 months. Feeling really depressed.

Flame, in my experience with men, he will do it again. The one who has just done this to me did the same 2 decades ago, no-one deserves second chances, especially from internet dating. It means they have fished around, caught nowt, so back to a dead cert. Sorry to be so negative but save yourself the heartache.

I was reading a thread on here, some woman was asking for advice following a first internet date that she felt had gone well and he hadn't followed up yet. She was asking if she should text. From now on when someone asks if she should ask a guy out, send a text and instigate contact I'm going to tell them no. If he is interested at all the will do the contacting. Old fashioned I know but that is the way they play it. GRRRR I have often said as much to be told, usually by smug marrieds encouraging women to ask a guy out that I am out of date but I don't think so.

On the thread, he did text to say he wasn't interested. I would die if someone did that to me and would much rather they didn't say anything after 1 date than thanks but no thanks.

Feel a bit better now and the sun has come out

Adams, cant believe he didnt reply at all. Men are useless!

I actually prefer to get a thanks but no thanks than nothing at all, but that's just me, and the way my mind works!

I hate the online thing too and can't see me meeting anyone that way - I find all the exchanging emails really boring, and a lot of effort for not much return.

Won't meet anyone at work, office workers are v def not my thing.

Not sure what options that leaves me tbh.....

Hi everyone, Adams sorry the git has disappeared

Sponge - we shoulda made arrangements for a drink this weekend.

I've been culling my wardrobe. I'm amazed. About 10 pairs of boots have gone in the charity bag lol . 1 huge black sack of clothes so far too and more to go.

Oh I've just noticed the bunnies lol [bugrin]

adams what a twunt

hi everyone

just wanted to say happy easter to everyone...

seems mr big and i may actually be going for it.

< twirls past grinning from ear to ear>

Really took?!?!?

We are going to have to agree to disagree on Smurf. No-one knows another persons mind, especially with the major stuff he was/is processing. I haven't exactly spent the last month moping for him, Mattarse happened before I even knew he'd gone awol. I am still texting Giger. We will see how it goes. I refuse to believe that everyone lies and has ulterior motives. I am still more jaded than Carrot