Where have all the fit, interesting and available men gone (part 30)

[lilacisinlove]

Yay! I did it again!

Yes grrr men......like you say shouting at him wont get you anywhere and def wont let you get him out of your system as it will give him an opportunity to make himself look better, if he is good at saying the right things. Have you ever asked him to leave you alone, or is that too hard and final?

Oh god. I Damn Well want to reply.

Im trying not too. But god. That man. I'm infrurated. Who does he thinks he is?
He does not behave like any normal person.

I want to shout at him...

Reply or not. I can't see sleep happening... brain will not switch off

Why!!!!

So, have you asked him not to contact you? Carrot appeared to conveniently forget when I asked that.

I've told him once before that I wasn't going to talk to him anymore.

Telling him to leave me alone... I don't know. If I say that I've engaged... and it will be minutes before I've unraveled.

Stupid fucking situation....
Stupid man
Stupid me.

And even if I do talk to him... how can I even have a go.bout the suspected girlfriend when we weren't even together anyway....
I'd just look like a loon.

Oh I dunno. I shrieked hysterically when I discovered Carrot was back on POF without telling me. I remember my (male) mate saying to me "So let me get this straight... you are upset because a man you are not in a relationship with, who knows that you have been on dates this week with other men, is on a dating website which you yourself are active on?" :o

Lol
Yep.

Arse. Arse. Arse. Arse

Come on pull yourself together women lol! (says the woman who's just blocked her ex on fb just so I cant stalk his profile anymore and not because he is stalking mine ) I'm of the thinking no contact at all is better even if it hurts to start with. Mind you I may have it all wrong....seeing as I'm single yet again!

I know I would cave. If we are to ever end this madness, it would have to be on Carrot's side.

It's been 3 and a half weeks of no contact... that was my ' even if it hurts ' approach.
He's not on my facebook... and I deleted his msn too....

Last I said to him was that I was going for a bath... then just disappeared....

I was actually thinking this morning that i thought that was it.. and he had forgotten about me... and was hopefully happy.

And there is just no pulling myself together when it comes to mr big.

God. I badly Want to talk to him.
Am not replying tonight. Will do tomorrow. And shall probably jump back on the rollercoaster....

took - delete his number, delete the text, delete any msgs kicking about in sent or in drafts. then you cant.

he's a big cock.

he's telling you he is sad, but completely ignoring your wishes. you asked him not to contact and the big selfish git is ignoring that so he can unload his feelings of guilt or whatever it is and hopefully give his ego a boost by having you reply.

dont even reply to say piss off. let him think you have changed your number. or better still. why not just do that

See. Said NMN was well ard

I agree with NMN, Took. Sorry, but no good can come of contacting him, if he really cared about you he wouldn't be doing this to you. He just misses having his ego massaged by you. I know that's harsh, but he is playing with your mind and that isn't the actions of someone who loves you.

flame - i am in the process of trying to figure out what and how to send a "bluey" thing to someone who i should be ignoring .

there are lots of forces on this thread actually. come to my thread on forces and tell me how to do it!

NMN linky? [nosey]

link to bluey thread

well I just took 'bluey' to mean something rude lol! but I have no idea and I am and exforces wife lol!

I can't help there. The only person I know who would def know is Smurf and I am not contacting him!

Ahh just googled it and got this: www.bfpo.mod.uk/ebluey_home.htm think it's similar to the old blue mail thingies I think you could send for free, it's been a while since I did that lol

yeah. i googled it. he says he will explain it to me tomorrow.but gave me it to me to figure out myself just incase they change their day they move out. they told him thursday. but they have been packed since sunday ready to leave any day.

if you need any help with the eblueys i can most likely help. being another ex forces wife.
actually sent one the other day from DD to her dad.

to be fair - ive never asked mr big to not contact me. the last thing i said to him was i was going for a bath and would call him when i got out. and that was about 3.5 weeks ago.

Then i just vanished.

He hasnt actually done anything wrong....

Bar lying. I can understand why he would lie about it as we had a huge bust up last year when i was seeing ( shagging someone) so it was just one of those things that was either denied or not mentioned.

I kind of thought/hoped that he was really happy and it was over and done. All i want is for him to be happy.

Ive not replied yet. im quite proud that i havent :)
Im going to give it a long think over then next few days. I know for a fact if i end up speaking to him it will all come out.. every reason...

I dont really think its to do with his ego. he has more than enough people massaging it without adding me into it.
The thing with mr big is he gets what he wants all the time. people jump to give him want he wants.

I suspect/know its pretty much just down to need. I know him better than i know myself and i expect he thought id talk to him after the bath.. then i expect he thought that it would be ina few days. then i expect he got fucked off with me and decided he didnt care. and then he missed me and then he needed me and then, when he couldnt wait any longer he sent a text and expected i would have replied instantly. because he expected i felt the same.
and that right now he will be unable to think about anything else.

which is a rather stupid situation to be in with someone you have never slept with isnt it.

i am a grown woman and quite frankly its ridiclous to be so worked up/unsettled/in a tis over a text.

and a one sentance text at that.

madness.

gggrrr. i am a weak and crap person.

no took, you're not weak and crap, you're kind of in an unrequited love situation. I hadn't realised that you hadn't slept together... it makes it much harder in some ways.

no. he loves me too.

just im a stupid and impossible situation with seemingly no end.

and in love with mr big.
damn him

((((took)))))