Where have all the fit, interesting and available men gone (part 30)

[lilacisinlove]

Yay! I did it again!

elasta, you have to keep us updated re GW, have a good feeling about him.

Thanks sponge. He is away at a conf ATM. But he has been emailing me and is still coming to stay next weekend. He is the first man I have dated that I feel really good about, so am hopeful he feels the same

betty - yes that's how it always was really wasn't it - do miss you girls sometimes. and the dating stuff ah well.

elast - good luck with your chap.

monty - fully appreciate your situation as well. I think it's deffo important the kids & new P hav a good relationship.

gotta say as well you girls helped me see the idiots from the nice one as well which helped.

oh and also don't write off any who you think about - remember DP turned up to our first date (after offering to take me for dinner saying he couldn't do dinner as he'd had to give XW some more cash so he was brassic) with me paying for a nando's, him on a v strict 2 hour time window i'd allocated him but most shockingly in combat trousers, longish hair, and a t shirt - hardly waht i'd say impressive for a date, needless to say he didn't get a good night kiss but it worked out well. so don't write anyone off I say till ya know for sure what they're like.

(unless they're like gymboy - twats from the start) oh and marine is now living with someone as well but always good for a little flirt/ogle. :o

lol @ marine we liked him on here,bit like lou's batman
and yy that gymboy was a complete twat to you,so glad you saw the light with him
i do remember your first date with now dp and iirc you were v meh about it,so yes it just goes to show doesn't it?!

exactly - try going to a class with marine with DP stood behind - luckily DP isn't the jealous type but my my I was hot under the collar and not from my work out! lol. You know thou gymboy did try to email me again after about 2 months' i'd been seeing DP, got the shakes & everything, told DP who calmly said if he comes near you at the gym he'll be escorted away again :o love that boy. lol.

meh is right - remember ladies you're all fantastic & any man you choose should feel lucky to be with you gorgeous girls. (god I read/watch too much Gok. :o)

pmsl used to love your updates on your gym sess
omg that man has a nerve but typical behaviour from scumbags like him!
hence why he's alone
just like a few of the muppets i had the misfortune to meet along the way

elasta and tool - dont go, we're all in the same boat. moral support, discuss the numpties, and i think one of the best bits used to be when we used to let each other see the profiles we found online that were barking mad, and ones we were going to meet.

does anyone have any pics to share? i'll need to catch up with where everyone is at.

betty - nice to see you again. sorry to hear yours never worked out. if you dont mind me asking what was the reason behind yours?

monty - i agree with the ones that make you go meh. they are often delightful suprises ;-)

belle - have you noticed there is a huge deployment going at same time out that way? kiwi is off too. and strangely enough i hadn't heard anything from him as changed number and he messaged me on FB and asked if he could be in contact when he was away. his whole regiment is shipped out in 2 weekish.

flame - you had just joined the thread when i was struggling to find time to post.

and for whoever asked i have been seeing p for a couple of weeks off the year mark.

nmn-well to be honest he finished it but I pushed him to make a decision really as he said he didnt know how he felt and i wasnt going to sit around and wait for him to decide. The only regret I have was letting the kids get to know him but to be honest they havent asked about him since about a week after we split so clearly dont miss him that much lol. We just werent spending much time togther, he always had excuses and i cant be doing with that! I do think deep down he just liked being on his own, looking after his dd once a week, it suits him I also think he hasnt moved on properly yet from ex, seperated, still own house together etc etc

belle-lol remember marine

betty - he sounds like he'd lost his balls somewhere. your too sassy for that. you need a full grown man who is capable of deciding if he like things and the direction he wants his life to go in. well done for not wasting years on someone who doesn't know their arse from their elbow. you made the right choice and have control over your life the way it should be

ooh betty no steer clear of that I'd say, althou DP had only just left the marital home when I came along.

juicy - yes I know, he's going out to the 'med' in 4 weeks time, what was kiwi again? - I keep being reassured that it's a big nato thing - however it's come to light that the us/uk are both sending more ships that way for the 'exercise' i'm just hoping & praying, only good thing to come out of it is that it means we'll save the deposit to move in together & get all we need for the baby. am very anxious thou. do sometimes wish XH would be sent on one of these things but that's just mean. (and i'm not that lucky lol)

nmn-yeah ur right there def need a man who knows what he wants, and actually wants things out of life. It was always me suggesting we do things, it just got boring really. Should have known really when we first got together i remember him telling me about how most people have always made plans for him which was true as he let his mum plan what he was doing at xmas and his dd's birthday!

belle-exh has been away since feb again, think he is out in gulf tho but not really sure. Havent had much contact from him so am guessing they are on operation.

no! don't go took-elasta-anyone! we're in this together! surely you want to keep up to date with my stalking! I'm sure as shit not posting it on facebook!

we're all in this together...............

betty that sounds crap,but good to hear that you're getting on with things,like you have the choice!
how are girls managing with exh away?
are you managing any me time or an odd night out with the girls?
nmn so good to see you back with your fighting spirit!

Hi Betty, NMN, Belle and Ninah - nice to see/hear from you all again!
Belle - congrats re baby! Lovely news ...

And Ninah - have to say I'm probably as surprised as you at finding myself on the sofa - was only a few months ago I was about to do a Sponge and give up on the whole internet dating thing as being a dead loss ....

Not sure if there's really a message - I suppose just that none of us really knows what's round the corner ...

For myself, I'm incredibly (surpisingly?!) happy though miserable as the man in question is going away on Wednesday for 10 days so I won't be seeing him for a fortnight as I work on Monday evenings ...

The kids have met him (and my daughter said the other day 'I'm in love with x" - and he didn't turn tail and run away). Not sure what the future will bring (though severely doubt that it will include marriage as am a firm believer in once bitten, twice shy ...) but will keep you posted!

well its done. wasn't pretty. i need wine. but there's none in and i still have a stinking hangover.

belle - kiwi was bloke in germany.

Hi NMN - good on you for having the courage to do it ... hope if it ever comes to it, I'll have the balls (possibly not the right word!) to do the same ...

Wish I could send you a real one but better virtual wine than none so sending a large one over!

thanks mzd

{offers virtual bombay}
you've done it,sod him,concentrate on you and the dcs
you've done it before with dcs dad and look at how much you've achieved since then lady!

what blondie said - you know it makes sense.

thanks asbm - he looked thoroughly ashamed when i pointed out that it wasn't just me who had been put out by lying. kids would need to move to new house. we like the area, so no change in schools. thank goodness i found out now rather than a few years down the line. i'm off to bed though. he's away to friends. not sure if he will come back. but if he does then i want to be asleep.

NMN - sorry, I was offline for a couple of hours, glad you got it over with hope you get some sleep.

Well done for doing it!

Well, Friday night I regressed to Download, tonight I am back to being hopelessly in love with Carrot yet again. I was moving forwards dammit. Still loved him, but not in that way of feeling like I should be giving him a kiss, playing with his hair etc. It was more of a resigned way than a heartbreaking one.

Wow, all the old posters back in one night. Glad Belle has announced her happy news, I knew but kept it quiet. I have kept up with everyone on fb but lovely to see you all back, ASBM (not on fb), Betty, Belle, NMN etc.

Flame re Carrot, will just say go with your heart!

Snape, if I lived down sarf I would rent your room, sounds fun.

Recent poster, Tookool and Elasta don't you dare stop posting.

Waving to everyone else, Lilac, Aurora and sorry to anyone I've missed. Glad it's back on track with Beaut too.

I cancelled my date tonight, not been feeling well this weekend, have an idea why and it's all my own fault.

Forgot to mention MZ, so pleased you are happy. Also Sponge, Monty, Ninah, Lou waving. I didn't get Monty's name change either, enlighten me.

Not sure how I'm going to sleep tonight after getting more sleep than is normal all weekend for whatever reason.