Where have all the fit, interesting and available men gone (part 28)

[ninah]

lilac where are you????!

Ello.

I am bored. Have turned on IMs on POF just to pass the time and no git wants to talk to me.

Hi Took

glad it went well - don't mind me - and I've been trying online dating for longer than I like to admit (which may explain a lot ....)

tomorow I sort the tree out - thought about it today but lacked the energy. Kids have got inset day so that should keep them busy for, oh half an hour if i'm lucky ...

Is been trying it a while too. It can be really dishesrtning. A break from it can be a good thing.

I hope I hear from him too. He did ask if I wanted to stay and get some food, but I had to get home

And now its the horrible waiting part.

Took - glad the date went well.

I've dismantled the tree and everything. That has made me feel so much better :). even though its all lined up in the hall- I'll put it in the attic probably will be the weekend before I cba-- have time.

Still, shiney lounge to sit in :)

Tookool, I hate that waiting part, give him time.

Flame, I had IM switched off on POF. I have to be in the mood to talk to friends via IM let alone random strangers but I suppose it could be a good distraction and preferable to waiting for email answers.

My date has confirmed for Sat night.

Hello all!

2C and snowing here, what's that about? I was out in a halterneck dress til 11.30pm last night, bare legs, no cardi, and not even cold! 26C in the daytime and about 22C at night :), lovely.

I am renaming H&S guy TLOML (not to be confused with TLM)...we had an amazing four days, spent every minute together and although I'm usually a 'I need some time to myself' person, I loved every second of our trip. After dinner on New Year's Eve we went out on our hotel balcony and watched .

In case you were wondering, TLOML stands for The Love of My Life. I have never felt this way about anyone, or had anyone adore me the way he does. I am absolutely smitten and he says he is too.

Now I must stop daydreaming about him and do some work for first day in new job tomorrow! Happy new year to you all :)

Time for a new name now is over.

Lilac . If you can stand 4 days of solid company with someone perhaps you are onto something.

:o Lilac!

I am restless.

The word on fb tonight is that we had another earth tremour earlier on. Didn't feel that one.

Anyway off to bed.

lilac - sounds amazing! Also, what eve said. I'm a 'time alone' person and know EXACTLY what you mean.

hmm nothing moved for me
lilac, how amazing! great start to 2011 v pleased you are so happy

Morning all and a belated HNY

Also belated happy brithdays to Lou et al

Lilac wow what a great time you had and I love the sound of TLOML

Tookool, glad the date went well

Can't believe back to work, have had such a lovely couple of weeks.....

NYE was great. Dover St bar fab - lovely food, cheesy music (must go back whent here are some proper jazzers playing), TLM pushed the boat out on delicious tattinger bubbles and we just had a gorgeous time. Then Saturday we had a lazy day wandering round the shops, long lunch, long chats about all sorts of stuff, just so relaxed and happy.

All the nonsense with XH faded away and was revealed to be so unimprotant in the grand scheme of things.

DDs enjoyed themselves there which is the main thing

TLM now off for 8 weeks on a course , although he is back at weekends......

happy new year everybody sorry it's late i couldn't shift vimes off the computer, then when he did he forgot to leave it on for me the git

plus had horrendous day yesterday, big blow up we're starting to sort things out now though, we were overtired and out of sync with the holidays i think.

lou and asbm - hoep you both had lovely birthdays, sorry it's late

ggggrrrrrr. i was doing quite ( well, sort of well) at being all noncholant, and going about my day etc....

now im starting to do the ' well, maybe it didnt go as well as i thought' thing.

Or maybe i talked too much ( a high possibility)

or maybe his ' yeah, really nice to meet you, we should talk, and i never know what to say' was just ' fgs woman, shut up and go'

its rubbish isnt it. Everyone tells you to be all cool, and act like it doesnt matter, but you cant help it, or, at least i cant.

I want to know what he thought, or at least, if he wants to see me again.

Its been less than 24 hours since the date ended, so really i need to not be jittering about the place and checking my phone every 30 mins.

please someone tell me they do this too, and im not the only muppet.

Unfortunatley we all do it TK. It is one of the downsides of internet dating which makes me think I want to give it all up and just hide

fingers crossed he will call you.

Am uming and erring whether to call radioman this eve. We are supposed to be meeting up again now back at work but he hasnt called me so I suppose that means only one thing - he cant be bothered. Still I have some of his stuff still and I wouldnt mind just giving it back so I can move on

You are not the only one - though checking phone every 30 mins is excessive - once an hour is ample!

Ah bum.
He's been back on the dating site this afternoon after not being on it for a few days. I don't think that's a good sign.

I reckon its highly unlikely ill hear from him.

Which makes it two years and not getting past a first date. ( bar a friend with benefits situation)

Tookool, I posted on your other thread, I find the attitude that women should ask men out, text instead of waiting a bit strange, personally. It's usually followed up with I did that with mine . By all means text him if you want to know sooner rather than later but I am a firm believer that if a guy likes you he will initiate contact. Different if you've been seeing someone a while.

I wouldn't right this one off just yet it's too soon to think he isn't interested and go on the other date this weekend.

Yeah I totally agree with eve and I replied on the other thread too

write not 'right'!

Hark at me saying I won't go on anymore internet dates, got a message this morning from someone who appears to be FIA, am arranging a quick meet-up after work as he's from my work town, nothing to lose and I've still got my meal out on Saturday night.

I am no good for advice. I have been on a whole 3 first dates (and one ONS ).

Carrot we were texting by the time I got home , ManA was a case of if I wanted to see him again then I should text him, but he wouldn't pressure me by texting me if I wanted a get out, and Earl I kinda had to text the next day to apologise for being ill halfway through.

Night shift starts tonight. Its really weird not having texts during the day, but quite nice getting evening ones.

Radioman arranged second date on first date, txted me before he got home and called the nxt day!!! So not surprisingly I thought he quite liked me

BUT havent heard a whisper from him since new years day, so he obviously lost interest along the way

I dont think it matters who texts first.

But then as someone who hasn't got past the first date with these online men, and tbh has probably never really 'dated' in the true sense even before that, what would I know?

I've only been on one date and they guy didn't contact me again. I hated it, thought it was very rude, so after a few days I dropped him a nice email saying I thought he was a FIA guy and guess what, nadda back! That's why I wouldn't bother again. Most have text before I've got home or sent a message within a few hours.

The last one invited me over to his area and I made a real effort because I liked him and after being forced to stay at his he didn't get back in touch, b-d. I knew he'd bolted after a day of no contact, just instinct. I did kick his arse over it and got a polite response.