Where have all the fit, interesting and available men gone (part 27)

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part 27? good god

sorry to hear that sponge, they are bastards at times aren't they?

dp got me the flowers for a reason, not sure if i have ever mentioned it online but i suffer quite irrationally at times from anxiety attacks, and yesterday was one of those days

i would take certain meds for it if it was not during school times, but i couldnt because it was and it meant i wouldnt have been able to drive

in the end ds2's sn assistant brought him home for me , once i explained to her how i was feeling (she lives in my road), so i was able to take something for it

but anyway dp was all worried and kept calling me every 15 mins to check i was alright, then turned up in the evening with flowers and chocolate

he's a good lad he is

Lou re anxiety attacks but so great that DP is there for you like that - fantastic to know you are not on your own dealing with all the crap all the time

Sponge - your X is useless isn't he? And BNM's.......in fact, they all are, there isn't a single one of us who hasn't got an oxygen thief to deal with and we are all amazing the way we cope

arses

lou :( re anxiety, but :) re your lovely DP...I remember asking before if we could clone him. I'm guessing the answer is still no!

My Ex is a waste of space. The financial thing is partly my fault, I should have taken it to court long before now and got it all resolved but I was trying to be nice and go with the flow. I don't really want any of his money to be honest. Would far rather buy him out of the house and have a clean break. However it suits him to think (and to tell all his family) I am obsessed with money and ripping him off

ps mily meant to say am v envious re the sloe gin. I love it, and would make some myself except I have no idea what a sloe looks like nor where you find them

blackthorn bush, size of small olive I would say
however Waitrose (amongst others I am sure) sell it so you could write to Father Christmas

Sponge - ask exh to sign house over in lieu of maintenance. I wish I'd done that. I bought exh out by increasing the mortgage, he was paying maintenance at the time, but now he doesn't and he's had my cash which I'm still paying back.

Lou - hope you're feeling better :(

lol at writing to father christmas I dont think I would be able to identify a blackthorn bush safer buying it ready made in my case I think!

Monty - Ex had always said he wouldn't expect to pay maintenance as he has DS2 most weekends (and DS1 is nothing to do with him, as he so charmingly points out ). I do need to get all this resolved legally, however if he doesn't get another job, my worry is he will be asking me for maintenance. Hence am not too keen to drag it all before the courts, esp if he is now going to qualify for legal aid in some form.

Agree about house. I took the house in lieu of maintenance. At the time I didnt have a job so ex happily agreed as he would have had to support me. Fast forward a couple of years and now I am back working he is mightily pisssed off that I have the house and a good salary as well

elasta - yay for dates!!!

sponge - get yourself down to cab pronto to get some free legal advice; pre-empt him while he still standing. explain everything to them, just because he has them 'most weekends' shoudln't mean that you have to pay maintenance to him; he's a sod for trying to scare you like that.

lou - hope you feel better soon (((())) well done mr lou for the flowers and chocs i get anxiety attacks sometimes too they're horrible aren't they?

sponge - my ex has threatened to claim maintenance from me too, because he is ten years older than me and his job is less secure. Seems to be forgetting that on his >£100k salary he could be putting something by...oh, and then there's the £800k house he lives in....

Get things sorted and get a financial agreement in place that secures your future.

I got a letter from my divorce lawyer's office yesterday, she has left the firm and still no news on the amended petition. Six months after my first consultation and we haven't managed to file the damn thing yet! I've told the new lawyer that we should forget it now, it will be two years separation in January so let's just aim for that instead. She is going to write to his sols and ask if he will agree to that.

mily, lol at 'oxygen thief'!!

Thanks, i have only had brief episodes today.

Btw has anyone today asked to add me on fb? With the initials A.O?

Ooh maintenance...I could tell you some stories about my funnnnnn experience with my ex and the CSA but I'd probably end up battering the hell out of the keyboard in frustration! mily, monty, sponge - I feel your pain

XP could probably rewrite The Prince when it comes to sheer bloody deviousness

Elasta - great news about your date, how exciting!

lou - what a smasher your bloke is. I hope you're feeling better, anxiety attacks are horrible.

lilac - he's on 100k and is asking for maintenance from you..did I read that right?

Some bloody nerve!

Yay! Cyclist just sent a text, he is free tonight after all. Guess I'd better get out of my pyjamas and get glamorous!

Yes, I know it's 7.21, but when there's no-one else here, why get changed after work AND at bedtime?

Janos, he wants to reserve the right to claim maintenance in the future...I'm on £41k with a £150k mortgage, there's not a penny spare so I don't know where he thinks it will come from.

He must be good if you're getting out of your pjs.

Have a fab evening lilac :).

Funnily enough lilac my XP seems to think I can bring up DS on fresh air.

He did promise £50pm maintenance....I got one payment and I just cannot, cannot be arsed to argue and ask every month for fifty fucking pounds (excuse my french).

Sorry...told you I'd start getting a bit grrr.

Have fun lilac. Can identify with the PJs. Soemtimes if i am working from home I dont get washed and properly dressed until way after lunch. Not a problem as i dont have to get out of the car anymore on the school run

off to get dressed - meeting at Waterloo in an hour!! Stay up and wait for the update please ladies :)

Lou was me on fb :) i did try and send msg to say who i was but may have failed!

am giving the ex one last chance re money, failing which i'll bite the bullet and get it resolved legally....

Aha i will accept then :)

Woohoo lilac!!

Rargh for evil exes

Carrot just text saying I selected to meet his best mate on POF! I didn't!!! His profile came up and it seemed mean to press no for someone I "knew" so i either closed the window or pressed maybe. can't remember which. But now i seem even more nuts as i tried to text "even the internet thinks i should be with him" (long running joke) but somehow wrote "you". I know how... my phone guesses the next word and i didn't notice.

I want to write off this week. i am just seeming more crazy by the day.

lou I had an anxiety attack out of the blue a fewweeks back - it was horrible and havent had one for ages prior to that. Think it was due to not eating enough and general tiredness.

I wanted to stop it while it was going on but didn't have the strength IYKWIM. And although I knew it was going to pass didn't help at the time.

They seem to come if I feel overwhelmed with stuff IYKWIM

Flame, you have to press YES for them to get the message you 'want to meet them'. So you might have pressed yes. I only found that out cos I wasted a few minutes going through the 'wants to meet you' list , no, no, no and infinity until the cock that I met last week came up and I realised I had chatted to him before so pressed 'yes' giving off the chain reaction that has left me feeling 'crap in dumpsville'

I have no idea how!!! I vividly remember it coming up. I may have even said on here. I looked at the profile because I am nosy but I've seen a picture of him before, plus his username is his name and his job is the same so I was sure it was him and either tried for maybe or to go away. It clearly did select yes as he is on my list. There is another guy there that there is no way I would have clicked for either.

Ah well. Prob stalking Earl tomorrow. I can't get in too much trouble there can I??

tis shit you're feeling like that eve :(

I can't settle. This week has been one of those ones where everything i touch falls apart and i am worrying about what tomorrow will bring