Where have all the fit, interesting and available men gone (part 27)

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part 27? good god

I think its the law of averages Eve. I worked out that I have dated 10 different men in the last year last year mostly off GSm and MSF. Of those 5 have been 2 or more dates, 3 I really fancied and 2 of them I have had liasons with One was definately a player, but the others were all mostly just nice normal men

Now I think thats not too bad going. So next year I have resolved to keep dating different men until I meet someone who is right for me and hopefully I am right for them. Radioman is on the list still, will have to see what happens after Christmas.

Is this normal gong? Anyone else care to share their experiences?

Going I mean

Oh, and university man says he is on his own all of between christmas and new year and so am I so will find a date we can both do.

I am trying to fill up the time i would have spent at mums. Might meet him in London. I fancy a day out

I've been on and off POF for about three years. Have met 8 men in all that time. 2 are still friends, 2 or 3 no spark, 1 a player who was just after a leg over 2 a few daters.

Not that bad going, really. The first one who is still a friend could have been something if circs were right.

elasta, that sounds normal to me. I've dated 8 in three months though!

Date 3 with H&S man tomorrow, meeting him in the hotel he's staying at near Heathrow. I am NOT, repeat NOT, staying the night or going anywhere near his bed with fewer clothes on than I arrived in. I have resolved to get to new year without making any major decisions.

Other guy has regretfully cancelled Saturday. I didn't tell you his job, but he's actually going to Balmoral...you can probably guess the rest. We're aiming for 23rd when I'm back from my mum's instead. That's if it doesn't snow so much that I decide not to go!

Balmoral, is he a butler?

Agree in some ways Elasta - though my research base is far smaller than yours! I tend to rule out people at a much earlier phase but have decided to try and be more lenient - though not sure it will work as I think my 'pickiness' levels are skyhigh these days ... also find the blokes I find attractive (not just on looks I hasten to add) don't seem to be the ones who find me attractive. Of the ones who find me attractive and that I don't find completely off-putting, there just isn't the spark - they may be perfectly nice and intelligent ... but that's not enough, at least for me it isn't

And in a bizarre twist, got an email from Bluebeard t'other day with the subject line 'Find out who doesn't want to chat with you anymore' - evidently he's blocked me on messenger - but I'm not sure why anyone should block someone and then go to the bother of alerting them to the fact ....

Not quite eve! Similar uniform, I guess...black trousers, white shirt. Butlers aren't usually armed though, as far as I know.

Has anyone seen the police stabbing on the news today? That was right outside DD2's primary school.

Oh Lilac, very nice, I love a guy in uniform. Went out with a fireman for a while but the killjoy refused to entertain me in his uniform.

my exbf was a soldier, he didnt mind entertaining me in his uniform

and i am always groping dp in his, especially if he turns up straight from work and is a bit grubby and looking all strong and manly.....

kids tried to call their father today but once again his phones were off

elasta - i'm sorry ot hear about your mum ((((((()))))))

lou - is it ever switched on?

eve - whenever i see vimes in his uniform he won't let me near him either so i just save those feelings for when i do get him and he used to be a fireman ...

lilac - i heard the news on the radio in the morning and nearly fainted because of vimes' job.

things lots better here thankyou for asking. we had huge blow-up row which was simmering while everything got sorted out. half past 2 eventually got up to bed. hopefully that isn't going to happen to often, don't mind the half2 part but for other reasons please

aurora, good to hear you've sorted things out.

lou at your Exh. Makes you wonder why some men have children, mine is as bad, phone is on but rarely answered.

have just been told some news re WM, you might remember he was broke, had no job, no money etc. News is that he now has got a decent settlement (in relation to the legal matter I was helping him with) which has enabled him to clear a lot of his debt, and has a good new job with company vehicle etc, as well as having lots of extra cash in hand work so is doing really well financially. Am v pleased for him but for some reason it's made me feel like crying. Don't know why :(

morning all

on the subject of manly I was able to get a closer look at boatman today and not sure if he's my type really - poss not manly enough IYKWIM

but very nicely groomed and rather slim - really like them a bit more chunky and butch.

though thinking of it both exbf (who took me home from night out with work on tues ) and wh are not big - they have other practical or 'geezer' like qualities which I would tend to go for.

Do you think if a man was talking about a woman like that they would get flamed!!

sponge - thank you is it becasue now that it feels like he may no longer need your help, that it may mean no contact between you?((((())))

scl - quite possibly

sponge - maybe now he is back on track things will happen?

on the subject of exhs (he was at mine briefly yesterday on the guise of looking after the dcs for a few hours - reality he checks his emails and takes business calls)

He said in front of ds1 he thinks ds is mental .

DS1 and 2 were fighting and exh pulled ds1 off ds2. I sometimes have to separate them but try to avoid that where possible.

And criticised and talked to me disrespectfully in front of the boys. He would never talk to his new p like in front of the boys or in private I would imagine.

I am quite a feisty person so is it me? Why does he feel he can talk to me like that.

Also anything my exh says to ds1 ds1 bats it right back to him. Mainly exh says he's selfish and ds1 says well youre selfish!!

we appear to be totally dysfunctional.

sponge - i think i like scl's suggestion beter feel free to ignore mine

scl - could you take fuse out of the plug for the computer?

Woohoo dp and have made it to one year today!

scl, how crap of Exh . I refer to my earlier comment re mine and Lou's Exs. Applies equally to yours I think.

shame about boatman....if he is all suited up normally do you think maybe he might look more manly in non work clothes? I know exactly what you mean though, am v much one for manly men, although I do like a man who can dress up when needed - The Ex by contrast didnt own a suit and had one tie which last saw the light of day circa about 1995...!

re WM, am a bit emotional today anyway as have a cold and feeling sorry for myself. I think maybe it's partly that I knew once he got this lump sum he would sort himself out (even tho he was v pessimistic and said it wouldnt happen) and I'm pleased he has, but I haven't heard any of this from him so am possibly not going to hear from him again. Am tempted to text him and say congrats on his job but dont think I should really :(

Please excuse me am rambling :)

congrats lou :) I remember when you had your first date as was not long after I joined the thread. How quickly that year has gone!

blimey one year already - that has gone scarily quickly - congrats to you Lou

ps sponge this is a very emotional time of year too - so perhaps you will feel more positive in New Year (or perhaps I am projecting)

To me Xmas is like a big spot which has to be squeezed then I feel relieved when it has.

another thing about exh is that we are still trying to sort out something financial (its a positive thing not a negative thing if it gets sorted) which has stemmed from our house sale and he doesn't want any correspondence sent to his new home address. No idea what he has told her but would imagine its a refined version of the truth.

Congratulation Lou and DP .

is there another demo today (getting a bit fed up with it)

Police helicopters overhead again.

SCL - I think you're right. I love Xmas (lol at the big spot analogy though!) but to me its all about family and entertaining and stuff, but as I dont really have any family other than the boys it never feels quite complete iyswim. I normally have 2/3 friends over for Xmas but they are doing other things this year which has added to my feelings of melancholy.

Am off to my work lunch in a mo. Hopefully some wine will cheer me up :)

Thank you, it has gone amazingly quickly. Not making a big deal about it tho, he is working late and he tells me he loves me every day anyway.

And this is only the first of many :)